New Beginnings
User Topic: SO popped the question
little turtle
Member # 15584
Happy  Posted: 4:40 PM, June 14th (Friday)

and I said yes.

We've been talking about weddings since the beginning our relationship over 2 years ago... and talking about our wedding for at least the past year (I've been planning ). He always used the excuse that I needed to get my annulment done. That was granted in the beginning of May. So the ball has since been in his court and I've been waiting.... turns out he went and got a ring a couple of weeks after my annulment was finished, asked my dad if he could marry me, and waited another couple of weeks before finally asking me!! Everyone knew it was coming and that he had a ring... except me! Well, not everyone, but it feels that way. lol. My immediate family and bff knew for weeks.

He tried to trick me with an empty ring box sitting on the dryer, but I pretended that I didn't see it sitting there. He ran downstairs almost immediately after I went down to get clothes out of the dryer. I would have peeked in the box if he wasn't there. Since I ruined his plan by ignoring the box, he "found" the real ring box in the dryer and proposed. Now I will never do laundry without thinking of him.

I had to get the ring sized and they said it will take 5 days. Ugh. SO had the ring all of this time and now I still have to wait to wear it!!!

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Default  Posted: 4:47 PM, June 14th (Friday)

DDay - April 2008
Me - 54 and doing great. Found myself again and loving life
Him - who??

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Default  Posted: 4:50 PM, June 14th (Friday)


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Default  Posted: 4:53 PM, June 14th (Friday)

Congratulations!!! Also that is a very sweet proposal story.

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Default  Posted: 4:54 PM, June 14th (Friday)


Me: 42
Two boys: 17 and 14
Divorced 12-13-05
d-day 10-02-01

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booger bear
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Cool  Posted: 5:34 PM, June 14th (Friday)

I am fiercely independent and I won’t apologize for it. I'd rather be single than settled.

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Default  Posted: 6:23 PM, June 14th (Friday)


I'm so happy for you.

Me (BS)47
XH (WS)53
Married 21 years
Divorced 2/19/07
Two sons 21 and 23 in college

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million pieces
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Default  Posted: 7:33 PM, June 14th (Friday)


Me - 42
2 kids, 9 and 12
D-Day 2/5/10, separated 3 wks later
Divorced 11/15/11!!!!

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Default  Posted: 7:34 PM, June 14th (Friday)


Temporarily independent with the whole world at my feet.

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Default  Posted: 7:41 PM, June 14th (Friday)


Me - 42
SorryInSac (WH#2) - 47. DDay 7/12/14
Married 4, together 7yrs total
Status - Stick a fork in me...

DD(21), DS(18, PDD-NOS)
6 Furkids - 4 dogs, 2 cats

WXH (serial cheater, 12+ OW) - Legally married 18yrs

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Posts: 6540 | Registered: Dec 2009 | From: California
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Default  Posted: 7:57 PM, June 14th (Friday)


Maybe you can get married during the g2g.


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Default  Posted: 8:04 PM, June 14th (Friday)


Me: BW, divorced, now fabulous and happy!

Married: 11 years, no kids

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Default  Posted: 8:15 PM, June 14th (Friday)


SO had plenty of time to get that ring sized.

Best wishes to both of you!

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Default  Posted: 8:42 PM, June 14th (Friday)

Do Moo and I get to help plan the wedding?

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FWW - 43 (BrokenRoad)
2 kids 7&12

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Default  Posted: 8:52 PM, June 14th (Friday)

Congratulations... so when is the wedding?

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Default  Posted: 9:01 PM, June 14th (Friday)


Me:BW 46, Him:WH 50
two kids DD14 and DS17
Married 26 years
OW 28, crew member (he was the ships captain)
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Default  Posted: 9:45 PM, June 14th (Friday)

Mazel tov!

You can call me NIK

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- Carlos Santana

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Default  Posted: 9:47 PM, June 14th (Friday)


Say what you wanna say and let the words fall out...honestly
I wanna see you be brave

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Default  Posted: 1:01 AM, June 15th (Saturday)

So happy for you!!!

But that's just a lot of water
Underneath a bridge I burned
And there's no use in backtracking
Around corners I have turned

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Default  Posted: 1:15 AM, June 15th (Saturday)


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Default  Posted: 5:56 AM, June 15th (Saturday)

This is wonderful news!!! Congratulations to you and SO

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Default  Posted: 6:02 AM, June 15th (Saturday)


me...BS, 43 years old, 2 small kids
WS, 41, multiple gay affairs
M 15 years, together 17

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Default  Posted: 7:38 AM, June 15th (Saturday)


Me-29,Two boys, 10 and 9

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Happily remarried to a wonderful man (Aussie). I think I found the right guy and the right finger this time.

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Default  Posted: 7:48 AM, June 15th (Saturday)


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Default  Posted: 8:30 AM, June 15th (Saturday)

Congratulations and best wishes.

never ever getting back together

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little turtle
Member # 15584
Default  Posted: 10:19 AM, June 15th (Saturday)

Thanks, everyone!!! I'm excited. There's so many decisions to make!

Moo, I think that's too soon, but it would be pretty cool to have a G2G wedding.

WH5, sure. What kind of ideas do you have??

Kajem, we're planning for next summer. Going to check out a hall next week.

Failure is success if we learn from it.

Posts: 4209 | Registered: Aug 2007 | From: michigan
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Default  Posted: 11:21 AM, June 15th (Saturday)

So romantic! That's lovely news. Congratulations!

BS, age 53, d-day 6-2-08, divorced after 17 years and 20 together. Now I am living alone in the beautiful rural property that was once the dream retreat with X. It's taking a long time to create new dreams but despite some struggles I am mostly happy.

Posts: 5859 | Registered: Jun 2008 | From: Rural California
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Default  Posted: 4:21 PM, June 15th (Saturday)

Very happy for both of you ! What a blessing that you found each other.
Congrats !

It's my life now, my choices, my mistakes to make and my victories to celebrate. His choices made me free of liars and betrayers in my life. That is priceless.

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Default  Posted: 7:09 PM, June 15th (Saturday)


Original WS D-Day July 10, 2008. Kept lying, he is gone.
New WS (2 EA's, no PA) 12-3-13
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Default  Posted: 7:24 PM, June 15th (Saturday)


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Default  Posted: 10:07 PM, June 15th (Saturday)

Aww!... That's great. What a happy and insirational SI story! I remember you when you first came on here. You were about a year newer than i was, and I remember how it tough for you at first. And look where you in your life right now! It makes me tear up!! Congrats to the both of you!!!!

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Default  Posted: 10:08 PM, June 15th (Saturday)

Congrats!!! So happy for you both!

Me: BW-44
Him: XWH-44
Together 9 yrs
DDays: 1/10/2011
Status: Divorced 4/27/11

Above all, be the heroine, not the victim. - Nora Ephron

It is our choices...that show what we truly are, far more than our abilities.
- J. K. Rowling

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Default  Posted: 10:12 PM, June 15th (Saturday)

Oh, so very happy for you two!

DDay 11/17/2010 BW:52

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Default  Posted: 10:12 PM, June 15th (Saturday)


Me: FBW/30 Him: FWH/33 The kidlets: DS13, DS10, and DD8 The hounds: Four Shih Tzu's
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Clothed in strength and dignity, with nothing to fear, she smiles when she thinks about the future.~Proverbs 31:25

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Default  Posted: 9:19 AM, June 16th (Sunday)


"I haven't stopped looking for the good in people. I've just accepted the fact that I'm not always going to find it."-Patti LaBelle

Posts: 1049 | Registered: Feb 2009 | From: Metro Atlanta
little turtle
Member # 15584
Default  Posted: 6:08 PM, June 16th (Sunday)

HUM, you remember me? I love it when people remember me! I like re-reading my old threads to see who commented and helped me to finally see the light.

You're right, I've come a long way!

Failure is success if we learn from it.

Posts: 4209 | Registered: Aug 2007 | From: michigan
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