User Topic: Need vibes meeting ow together
Member # 29194
Default  Posted: 6:15 AM, June 15th (Saturday)

Hi everyone, as some of u know from my earlier post , I will most likely be meeting the ow for the first time at my 5 yo DD dnce recital. I will ignore her unless she directly says hi and the I will say hello back ( as I would an annoying coworker) and focus immediately back on my daughter. I WILL not give into my mind games - she is so much prettier, younger (10 years), or thinner that I am. Those are my old issues. I will not relive them today...but knowing i have good vibes behind me sure will help

Posts: 127 | Registered: Jul 2010
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Member # 38346
Default  Posted: 7:24 AM, June 15th (Saturday)

I will be sending good vibes and good mojo your way. May you be filled with the knowledge that you are a wonderful, strong, beautiful woman. Hold your head high with pride that their actions will not define the person you are. You define who you are!

ME-BW 50
DDAY #1 01/09/2013
DDAY #2 02/03/2013
Divorced 10/23/2013

Posts: 40 | Registered: Feb 2013
Member # 3703
Default  Posted: 7:27 AM, June 15th (Saturday)

I'll never get over the nerve of these WS's who feel the need to flaunt their AP at their children's events.

D-day OW#1 2/2004; R for 6 years; D-day OW#2 5/2010

Marriages that start this way, stepping over the bodies of loved ones as the giddy couple walks down the aisle, are not likely to last.

Posts: 3412 | Registered: Mar 2004 | From: NY
Member # 34405
Default  Posted: 8:23 AM, June 15th (Saturday)

When I saw OW/slut sitting on my bed smirking at me I just kept saying douche. It was as though I had no language skills, just douche.

Try to say hello out loud and douche douche douche in your mind, say it over and over. Then turn away.

THEN smile at your baby dancing! Dancing! Dancing her pretty little legs off! That's what this life is. A dance. I hope your dance is filled with joy for your baby.

God bless us, everyone.

Posts: 633 | Registered: Jan 2012 | From: Boston
Member # 25957
Default  Posted: 10:09 AM, June 15th (Saturday)

You're a lady. Just conduct yourself accordingly and all will be good.

Enjoy your DD's recital.

Sending good vibes your way.

Posts: 1274 | Registered: Oct 2009
Member # 33226
Default  Posted: 11:52 AM, June 15th (Saturday)

Sending you strength, Sarah. Breath and focus on your darling DD. You can do this.

You can call me NIK

"If you carry joy in your heart, you can heal any moment."
- Carlos Santana

Posts: 25746 | Registered: Aug 2011
Member # 38378
Default  Posted: 12:00 PM, June 15th (Saturday)

I do wish you well, Sarah.

It's not something I can imagine and I'm rooting for you.

As consequences come to us from Perv and what he did, I find my best route and comfort later is if I can be silent. That's my challenge to myself, for then I've lost nothing nor given anything away in a public place and lately that gives me some pride.

I don't know if that helps any as a strategy. We just had DD's play at school and school concert, and it is very hard indeed. He has not yet had the nerve to bring OW to school events, but I would bet next year -post D-it may come.

I'm sorry for your hard times and glad you recognize the aging issues as past.

I think self esteem is bothered with A's for anyone, male or female and you are not alone in that.

Ashland 13

A person is a person, no matter how small. -Dr. Suess

Perserverance and spirit have done wonders in all ages.

-George Washington

Posts: 2287 | Registered: Feb 2013 | From: New England
Member # 28622
Default  Posted: 12:10 PM, June 15th (Saturday)

good vibes!!!!!!!

I guess it is too much to expect that shame would keep her mouth shut... Your strength is character! enjoy that DD and enjoy the day.


Me: 44, independent, happy, despite co-parenting with a lower muppet
FT "Stretch" (and Skew!) ;)
DS 13 DS 10
S 5/2010
D 12/2012

Posts: 5859 | Registered: May 2010 | From: a better place
Member # 36134
Default  Posted: 1:16 PM, June 15th (Saturday)

Sending mojo your way. Enjoy your DD and her beautiful recital. Nothing else matters.



I trust you is a better compliment than I love you, because you may not trust the person you love, but you can always love the person you trust. - Unknown
Relationships are like sharing a book, it doesn't work if you're not on the same page.

Posts: 5272 | Registered: Jul 2012 | From: Florida
Member # 31468
Default  Posted: 1:40 PM, June 15th (Saturday)

Good vibes Sarah, you can do this.

Me: BW-44
Him: XWH-44
Together 9 yrs
DDays: 1/10/2011
Status: Divorced 4/27/11

Above all, be the heroine, not the victim. - Nora Ephron

It is our choices...that show what we truly are, far more than our abilities.
- J. K. Rowling

Posts: 4609 | Registered: Mar 2011 | From: Texas
Member # 36559
Default  Posted: 1:57 PM, June 15th (Saturday)

Sending good vibes! You'll do great!

Me 36
DS 16
DD 4


I've made a huge mistake - GOB

Posts: 71 | Registered: Aug 2012 | From: missmydogs
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Member # 26419
Default  Posted: 2:27 PM, June 15th (Saturday)

SI mojo is with you!
OW is not pretty on the inside.

Posts: 4715 | Registered: Dec 2009
Member # 16482
Default  Posted: 2:47 PM, June 15th (Saturday)

The need to flaunt their affair partner is done out of guilt. If his former wife appears to be accepting of the new twinkie, then he feels what he did wasn't so bad after all.

Don't give up your standards to please him. But at the same time, don't upset your family. Take the high road and all will be fine. Sending you mojo.

I divorced him because I didn't like his girlfriend.
M 30 yrs.

Posts: 9588 | Registered: Oct 2007 | From: East of the Rockies
Member # 18334
Default  Posted: 2:48 PM, June 15th (Saturday)

Good luck to you! Looks don't matter. We all get old eventually and it's all down hill from there. What really matters is personality. Without that you have nothing.

I think...therefore, I'm single.

It is what it is.

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