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TattoodChinaDoll
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Member # 34602
Default  Posted: 10:38 AM, June 15th (Saturday)

I'm going to a baby shower today for a good friend (the only one who knows everything). When I got the invitation I went back and forth and back and forth about going. I know it's going to be difficult. I'm going to be emotionally exhausted after. And like I said in one of my previous posts, I don't have a soft place to land. I obviously don't have the support of a loving husband. I need some good SI mojo floating in the universe. I need to come home from this party remembering why I'm in this forum and that I'm deserving of so much better. I'm allowing myself to be sad, unlike him. But I need to stay focused.


Me (BW): 32
WH: 33 TimeToManUp
Married: 11 years, together 16 years
3 daughters: 9, 5, 3, and and 2 angel babies (2013 and 2014)
D-Day: 12/21/2011
Confronted him: 12/22/2011


Posts: 1727 | Registered: Jan 2012 | From: New Jersey
FaithFool
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Member # 20150
Default  Posted: 10:45 AM, June 15th (Saturday)

(((TCD))) I hope some the joy of the others who are going to honour your BFF bleeds into your world just a little.

You're very brave to go. I totally get why you would want/need to stay away from things like that.


DDay: June 15, 2008
Mistakenly married Mr. Superfreak
20 years of OWs, WTF?
Divorced Dec 26, 2011
"Life is a shipwreck, but we must not forget
to sing in the lifeboats". -- Voltaire

Posts: 17535 | Registered: Jul 2008 | From: Canada
jo2love
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Member # 31528
Default  Posted: 10:46 AM, June 15th (Saturday)

(((TCD)))

Sending you mojo, strength, and good thoughts.


Posts: 35904 | Registered: Mar 2011
caregiver9000
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Member # 28622
Default  Posted: 11:36 AM, June 15th (Saturday)

SI mojo!!!

You are a good person. You are very brave and kind. Stay focused, because all of those positive things YOU are-- YOU deserve in your life as well!!


Me: 44, independent, happy, despite co-parenting with a lower muppet
FT "Stretch" (and Skew!) ;)
DS 13 DS 10
S 5/2010
D 12/2012

Posts: 5859 | Registered: May 2010 | From: a better place
jjct
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Member # 17484
Default  Posted: 11:41 AM, June 15th (Saturday)

mojo baby!
*what cg said*

Posts: 6646 | Registered: Dec 2007 | From: texas
nowiknow23
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Member # 33226
Default  Posted: 11:49 AM, June 15th (Saturday)

Sending you love and strength, honey. ((((TCD))))


You can call me NIK

"If you carry joy in your heart, you can heal any moment."
- Carlos Santana


Posts: 25746 | Registered: Aug 2011
TattoodChinaDoll
Member
Member # 34602
Default  Posted: 12:27 PM, June 15th (Saturday)


Me (BW): 32
WH: 33 TimeToManUp
Married: 11 years, together 16 years
3 daughters: 9, 5, 3, and and 2 angel babies (2013 and 2014)
D-Day: 12/21/2011
Confronted him: 12/22/2011


Posts: 1727 | Registered: Jan 2012 | From: New Jersey
jo2love
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Member # 31528
Default  Posted: 12:31 PM, June 15th (Saturday)

(((((TCD)))))

Honey, I can't imagine going to a baby shower so soon after what you've been through. The fact that you are attending shows you do have strength. Please know that we are your soft place to land. Lean on us. Get it all out.


Posts: 35904 | Registered: Mar 2011
Kajem
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Member # 36134
Default  Posted: 1:18 PM, June 15th (Saturday)

(((((TCD)))))

Let SI be your soft place to land... we are here for you.

Sending strength and love your way.

Hugs, too.

K


I trust you is a better compliment than I love you, because you may not trust the person you love, but you can always love the person you trust. - Unknown
Relationships are like sharing a book, it doesn't work if you're not on the same page.

Posts: 5272 | Registered: Jul 2012 | From: Florida
Tripletrouble
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Member # 39169
Default  Posted: 1:28 PM, June 15th (Saturday)

Lots of love and hugs to you. Please do something nice for yourself this weekend.


40 somethings - me BW after 20 years
D Day April 2013
Divorced November 2013

Be happy with what you have while you work for what you want - Hellen Keller


Posts: 638 | Registered: May 2013
AppleBlossom
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Member # 38541
Default  Posted: 3:09 PM, June 15th (Saturday)

Sending you all the love and hugs in the world. We are here for you.

Posts: 154 | Registered: Feb 2013 | From: Australia
tesla
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Member # 34697
Default  Posted: 7:34 PM, June 15th (Saturday)

((((TCD))))
Hope you are doing ok.
We are here for you.


"Thou art the son and heir of a mongrel bitch." --King Lear

Posts: 4687 | Registered: Jan 2012 | From: Indiana
jo2love
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Member # 31528
Default  Posted: 8:44 PM, June 15th (Saturday)

(((TCD)))

How are you doing?


Posts: 35904 | Registered: Mar 2011
TattoodChinaDoll
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Member # 34602
Default  Posted: 8:59 PM, June 15th (Saturday)

I'm tired. I feel like I just need to have a good cry but I've stopped myself so many times that I feel choked up and can't get a cry out. There were some rough moments...some not so rough moments. Felt panicky walking up the driveway. Afterwards we met at a church carnival. Sometimes he is a trigger, sometimes not. Things were going ok. Then a friend he went to school with was there asking when we were going to have a 4th.

Friend is ready to pop any day. Just thinking about holding a newborn...that is making tear up right now.


Me (BW): 32
WH: 33 TimeToManUp
Married: 11 years, together 16 years
3 daughters: 9, 5, 3, and and 2 angel babies (2013 and 2014)
D-Day: 12/21/2011
Confronted him: 12/22/2011


Posts: 1727 | Registered: Jan 2012 | From: New Jersey
MovingUpward
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Member # 14866
Default  Posted: 9:03 PM, June 15th (Saturday)

(((TCD)))

Sending mojo


AKA Moo

Think of the haters in your life as sandpaper; they’ll scratch you up time and time again but in the end you’re polished, smooth, and spotless..while they end up useless

We make a living by what we get, but we make a life by what we give.


Posts: 52675 | Registered: Jun 2007 | From: Big Blue Nation
TattoodChinaDoll
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Member # 34602
Default  Posted: 9:03 PM, June 15th (Saturday)

And you know what really sucks? I've been told I am wrong for how I feel so many times. I've been told I am wrong for not following what he thinks is the proper time line so many times. I've treated with anger at how I feel so many times...that I actually feel bad about what I feel now and just feel wrong. I feel abused.


Me (BW): 32
WH: 33 TimeToManUp
Married: 11 years, together 16 years
3 daughters: 9, 5, 3, and and 2 angel babies (2013 and 2014)
D-Day: 12/21/2011
Confronted him: 12/22/2011


Posts: 1727 | Registered: Jan 2012 | From: New Jersey
jo2love
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Member # 31528
Default  Posted: 10:04 PM, June 15th (Saturday)

(((TCD)))

You have a right to your feelings. Sending you strength.


Posts: 35904 | Registered: Mar 2011
tesla
Member
Member # 34697
Default  Posted: 6:44 AM, June 16th (Sunday)

(((((TCD)))))


"Thou art the son and heir of a mongrel bitch." --King Lear

Posts: 4687 | Registered: Jan 2012 | From: Indiana
dreamlife
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Member # 8142
Default  Posted: 7:13 PM, June 16th (Sunday)

Sending you tons of Mojo and huge hugs!


~XWH told me what I wanted to hear but he always did whatever he wanted to do~

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