((Mainlyinpain)) sorry you're dealing with all this. (And that it took a bit for a response-it's slow here on the weekends sometimes) I didn't find si for a while after dday and while nc had been established to my satisfaction-it wasn't via an official no contact letter. Since they'd been out of touch so long when I encountered the concept, I let it go rather than ask that he contact her again.
So, I'm not exactly speaking from personal experience. However, it seems to me that THE most important thing about a nc letter (aside from it being extremely clear and concise in it's message) is that the betrayed spouse be entirely satisfied with it. Entirely satisfied and comfortable with what it communicates and how. Otherwise, it's kind of just one more opportunity for 'them' to open a conversation. So, by all means, edit to your heart's content and settle for no less than what you need.
Hope you all can get this figured out. Best wishes."A pair of powerful spectacles has sometimes sufficed to cure a person in love." -Friedrich Nietzsche
i edit frequently because i have to