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She11ybeanz
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Happy  Posted: 5:59 PM, June 15th (Saturday)

This was SERIOUSLY the most awesome NB moment that I have had yet!!! Everyone was high-fiving me.... they called me up on the stage and asked me about it... and the guy went "Here's to Divorce!" And, everyone cheered!!! It was truly the most theraputic experience of my life!!!! I'm still grinning from ear to ear!!!

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"Sometimes your knight in shining armor ...is just a douchebag in tin foil!!"

ME - BW - 35
HIM - XWH - 39
D day: November 15th, 2009
Married: 5 Years, together 8
Divorced: December 13th, 2010
New Beginning: Piper/8-3-12


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inconnu
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Default  Posted: 6:08 PM, June 15th (Saturday)

that's just so awesome! love all the pics, especially the "go mom go" and "trash the dress" ones. What a cutie you have! Looks like she's mom's #1 cheerleader, too.


Say what you wanna say and let the words fall out...honestly
I wanna see you be brave

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Like you're less than, less than perfect


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She11ybeanz
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Default  Posted: 6:12 PM, June 15th (Saturday)

She really is!!! I enjoyed getting pictures done with her and making her some signs! It was an awesome day and I highly recommended it as a "must-do" experience! Runner or not! I loved every second of it!


"Sometimes your knight in shining armor ...is just a douchebag in tin foil!!"

ME - BW - 35
HIM - XWH - 39
D day: November 15th, 2009
Married: 5 Years, together 8
Divorced: December 13th, 2010
New Beginning: Piper/8-3-12


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Dark Inertia
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Default  Posted: 6:15 PM, June 15th (Saturday)

BEAUTIFUL!!!


"If I listened earlier, I wouldn't be here. But that's just the trouble with me. I give myself very good advice, but I very seldom follow it."

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stronger08
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Default  Posted: 6:17 PM, June 15th (Saturday)

As we say in Brooklyn. That's fuckin great !!!!!!!


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MyVoice
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Default  Posted: 6:24 PM, June 15th (Saturday)

That is just awesome, good on you for having so much fun! and thanks for sharing the pictures


Me:BW 46, Him:WH 50
two kids DD14 and DS17
Married 26 years
OW 28, crew member (he was the ships captain)
"People are formed by their actions, not their ideals" unknown

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She11ybeanz
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Default  Posted: 6:26 PM, June 15th (Saturday)

That's fuckin great !!!!!!!

I totally concur!!! It was fucking great!!!! And, I couldn't WAIT to share the pictures with you guys!!!


"Sometimes your knight in shining armor ...is just a douchebag in tin foil!!"

ME - BW - 35
HIM - XWH - 39
D day: November 15th, 2009
Married: 5 Years, together 8
Divorced: December 13th, 2010
New Beginning: Piper/8-3-12


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persevere
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Default  Posted: 6:31 PM, June 15th (Saturday)

Shelly, that is SO AWESOME!!!! GREAT pics!!! You got lots of color too!

Great NB moment!!!


Me: BW-44
Him: XWH-44
Together 9 yrs
DDays: 1/10/2011
Status: Divorced 4/27/11

Above all, be the heroine, not the victim. - Nora Ephron

It is our choices...that show what we truly are, far more than our abilities.
- J. K. Rowling


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Skan
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Default  Posted: 6:34 PM, June 15th (Saturday)

Here''s a big toast to your Divorce! CLINK! Great photos!


Imagine a ship trying to set sail while towing an anchor. Cutting free is not a gift to the anchor. You must release that burden, not because the anchor is worthy, but because the ship is.

D-Day, June 10, 2012



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cmego
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Default  Posted: 6:42 PM, June 15th (Saturday)

awesome!!!!


me...BS, 43 years old, 2 small kids
WS, 41, multiple gay affairs
M 15 years, together 17
Divorced

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risingfromashes
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Default  Posted: 7:14 PM, June 15th (Saturday)

Thank you for sharing this with us!! Awesome!


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SisterMilkshake
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Default  Posted: 7:22 PM, June 15th (Saturday)

You and the little bean are adorable!

That is a great experience you had. I am so happy for you. It sounds like it was really empowering for you. YAY!


BW (me) 50ish FWH 50ish
Married 34 years, 3 children
d-day 3/10 LTA (4 yrs./fucking & flirting)

"Oh, why do my actions have consequences?" ~ Homer Simpson
"She knew my one weakness: That I'm weak!" ~ Homer Simpson


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tesla
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Default  Posted: 7:22 PM, June 15th (Saturday)

This is me looking at your pics -->
Grinning from ear to ear. Such an awesome idea and so cathartic.

And that baby of yours is so stinkin' cute!


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FaithFool
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Default  Posted: 7:50 PM, June 15th (Saturday)

Completely
Fucking
Awesome


DDay: June 15, 2008
Mistakenly married Mr. Superfreak
20 years of OWs, WTF?
Divorced Dec 26, 2011
"Life is a shipwreck, but we must not forget
to sing in the lifeboats". -- Voltaire

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cayc
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Default  Posted: 8:12 PM, June 15th (Saturday)

Aren''t you just the most beautiful thing! Wow! Thank you for sharing, it''s even better than I imagined


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tryingagain74
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Default  Posted: 8:56 PM, June 15th (Saturday)

Great pics! What a fantastic way to trash the wedding dress!


BS (Me) 39
Happily liberated!
Two DS and One DD
It matters not how strait the gate,/How charged with punishments the scroll./I am the master of my fate:/I am the captain of my soul.--"Invictus," William Ernest Henley

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thebighurt
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Default  Posted: 9:19 PM, June 15th (Saturday)

Congrats and thanks for sharing. You and BabyBeanz are adorable.

But I have to say you don't look so happy yo me. In fact, you look kinda BLUE.


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Default  Posted: 9:19 PM, June 15th (Saturday)

Awesome! And I have to say Piper looks just like Mama!


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MovingUpward
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Default  Posted: 9:25 PM, June 15th (Saturday)

Awesome and thanks for sharing


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She11ybeanz
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Default  Posted: 9:26 PM, June 15th (Saturday)

Awesome! And I have to say Piper looks just like Mama!

Thank you WildBananas!!! I think she does too!!! She has her sperm donor's ears and long legs.....but besides that... she is ALL Momma Beanz!!!


"Sometimes your knight in shining armor ...is just a douchebag in tin foil!!"

ME - BW - 35
HIM - XWH - 39
D day: November 15th, 2009
Married: 5 Years, together 8
Divorced: December 13th, 2010
New Beginning: Piper/8-3-12


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PhoenixRisen
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Default  Posted: 10:12 PM, June 15th (Saturday)

Awesome!

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better4me
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Default  Posted: 10:48 PM, June 15th (Saturday)

I love your smiles in the "after" pics Shelly. AWESOME isn't a big enough word for this. You rock! (And baby is so adorable in her tutu!)


DDay 11/17/2010 BW:52
Divorced

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Kajem
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Default  Posted: 10:56 PM, June 15th (Saturday)

Such a cool idea... and Little Bean is such a cutie pie!!


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Default  Posted: 11:03 PM, June 15th (Saturday)

Freakin' awesome!!

Your Baby Bean is adorable!


Me: BS
2 kids: DD15 and DS18
Him: The Assclown NPD
OW: "friend" of 15 years
Divorced! Feb. 2010

Everybody, soon or late, sits down to a banquet of consequences.
~Robert Louis Stevenson


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SBB
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Default  Posted: 12:16 AM, June 16th (Sunday)

Love love love it!!

This takes me to my happy place.

Makes me wish I hadn't thrown my dress out (I secretly cut it up before trashing it). I'd LOVE to do something like this. I may yet find a stunt dress to do it in.

I recently attended a charity race day event that my boss hosts (I walked it). There was a team there called "Divawesome". I thought they were Divas but they said no, we're Divorced and Awesome!!


I may have reached a point where I'd piss on him if he was on fire.... eventually!!

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Sad in AZ
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Default  Posted: 6:12 AM, June 16th (Sunday)

This is just awesome! You and Baby Bean make quite a pair, Shelly!

(the seamstress in my is a little disturbed at ruining a gorgeous dress, but I told her to shut up )


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She11ybeanz
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Cool  Posted: 7:56 AM, June 16th (Sunday)

"Divawesome". I thought they were Divas but they said no, we're Divorced and Awesome!!

That's great! I LOVE that! I felt divorced and awesome!

(the seamstress in my is a little disturbed at ruining a gorgeous dress, but I told her to shut up

I kept telling myself that this gorgeous dress DESERVED to be worn more than once!!! And, NOW...it has an even BETTER memory than when I wore it for my wedding! It represents my freedom....my independence....my unrelenting sprint into my incredibly bright and unwritten future!!! It represents the new me..... and it was the best NB moment to date!!!!!


"Sometimes your knight in shining armor ...is just a douchebag in tin foil!!"

ME - BW - 35
HIM - XWH - 39
D day: November 15th, 2009
Married: 5 Years, together 8
Divorced: December 13th, 2010
New Beginning: Piper/8-3-12


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Default  Posted: 8:12 AM, June 16th (Sunday)

Love this Shelly!!


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Default  Posted: 1:23 PM, June 16th (Sunday)

Please tell me Ex and ow were at the same run????? Pretty please????
Would love to have seen their faces.

You rock Shellybeanz.

[This message edited by timeforchange at 1:24 PM, June 16th (Sunday)]


Me = BS aged 43
2 boys, 13 and 9
DDay 1/19/10
Confronted him 2/16/10
Finally Divorced 8/29/12

“We must let go of the life we have planned, so as to accept the one that is waiting for us.”


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She11ybeanz
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Default  Posted: 2:24 PM, June 16th (Sunday)

Please tell me Ex and ow were at the same run????? Pretty please????

Unfortunately....I can't say with any certainty that they were at the race or not. I'm starting to think maybe not because MOW strikes me as the type of woman that wouldn't want to get "dirty"... as ironic as that sounds...

But... IF they were there....and they saw me get up on the stage at the end and everyone started cheering "Here's to Divorce!" ...my XWH would have most likely shrunk down to a pint size and scurried away out of mortification!


"Sometimes your knight in shining armor ...is just a douchebag in tin foil!!"

ME - BW - 35
HIM - XWH - 39
D day: November 15th, 2009
Married: 5 Years, together 8
Divorced: December 13th, 2010
New Beginning: Piper/8-3-12


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Default  Posted: 2:42 PM, June 16th (Sunday)

That does look pretty special!

Well done to you


Me BS: 35
Her WW: 34
D Day 5th December 2011
Current status: Filled for divorce 23rd Jan 2012. Response from WW was not to beg for forgiveness, but deleting me from Facebook.

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OnceInALifetime
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Default  Posted: 2:56 PM, June 16th (Sunday)

That is so much awesome-ness!


BH, now divorced

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Default  Posted: 3:48 PM, June 16th (Sunday)

Lady.....you get a standing O.

(clapclapclapclapclapclap)

Bravo.

And Piper is so freeking cute she should be bottled and sold as perfume.

k9


BS: 56
WS: 53
Betrayed: 23 years
Affairs: 14 (2 lasted 3 months. Rest were ONS)
WS died: 16 May 2011
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She11ybeanz
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Default  Posted: 9:51 PM, June 16th (Sunday)

And Piper is so freeking cute she should be bottled and sold as perfume.

I love that!!! Piper Brut... for the CUTE in all of us!

She is such a ham! She knows when you are taking her picture and is always all smiles and giggles when people coo over her! She loves the attention!


"Sometimes your knight in shining armor ...is just a douchebag in tin foil!!"

ME - BW - 35
HIM - XWH - 39
D day: November 15th, 2009
Married: 5 Years, together 8
Divorced: December 13th, 2010
New Beginning: Piper/8-3-12


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itainteasy
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Default  Posted: 8:52 AM, June 17th (Monday)

Shelly, those pics are AMAZING!!!!!

I LOVE how the dress turned out! Your happiness comes right though in the pictures.

And Piper is so freaking adorable!


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She11ybeanz
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Content  Posted: 11:34 AM, June 17th (Monday)

Thank you so much! :-) I'm thinking of getting the following 2 enlarged! I think they are really good ones of Piper and I together!

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"Sometimes your knight in shining armor ...is just a douchebag in tin foil!!"

ME - BW - 35
HIM - XWH - 39
D day: November 15th, 2009
Married: 5 Years, together 8
Divorced: December 13th, 2010
New Beginning: Piper/8-3-12


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Betrayal
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Default  Posted: 10:24 AM, June 18th (Tuesday)

Love it bebe beanz is beautiful, glad you were able to share this defining moment with us


Me,38 BS
Divorced
Married
DS Born 9/6/10

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Vulcanized
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Default  Posted: 12:52 PM, June 18th (Tuesday)

That is fabulous! You both look so damn cute.


Me: MH 40s; Him: MH 40s (I had RA)
OW: 30s, moron; one of many
M: 8 yrs
3/13: D'd
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Everything is as it should be.

Posts: 751 | Registered: Oct 2011 | From: Vulcania
She11ybeanz
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Default  Posted: 2:00 PM, June 18th (Tuesday)

Well, the place that is doing my professional canvas pictures said that they can't enlarge the one of me in the wedding dress holding piper because it pixelates...(don't ask me what that means...) but maybe that is for the best. My bestie thinks that if I see that picture it will make me angry because I will automatically think of XWH.... I kinda disagree....but who knows! OH WELL! But, the one of Piper in the tutu and me holding her hands works! :-)


"Sometimes your knight in shining armor ...is just a douchebag in tin foil!!"

ME - BW - 35
HIM - XWH - 39
D day: November 15th, 2009
Married: 5 Years, together 8
Divorced: December 13th, 2010
New Beginning: Piper/8-3-12


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Runningaway
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Default  Posted: 12:14 AM, June 19th (Wednesday)

That is so cool! Wedding dresses should be colourful like that to begin with.
When I got married I refused to spend the money on a wedding dress b/c I thought what the heck am I going to do with it afterwards?? If only I had known what was possible...


What doesn't kill us makes us smaller. - Mario

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