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Mrs Panda
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Default  Posted: 11:11 PM, June 15th (Saturday)

She is the grandmother who was the most fun growing up. She was the pianist. She is beautiful and amazing and she was my idol.

She broke her hip falling in the bathroom.

She takes no meds. No (known) medical probs. A real trooper.

I know a hip fracture can be the beginning of the end. I mean, jeez, she is almost 100 years old.

I love her. She is so wicked smart. I don't want her ti die yet. Maybe she would disagree though. Maybe she's tired.


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ThoughtIKnewYa
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Default  Posted: 11:25 PM, June 15th (Saturday)

(((Mrs.Panda)))

Sending healing mojo for your grandma.


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caregiver9000
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Default  Posted: 11:35 PM, June 15th (Saturday)

(((Mrs. Panda))) Hugs and healing prayers. She sounds beautiful and amazing and strong. no meds?? sheesh... wish I could say the same.


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fallingquickly
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Default  Posted: 11:39 PM, June 15th (Saturday)

Hugs to you both and major mojo.


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authenticnow
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Default  Posted: 5:32 AM, June 16th (Sunday)

Sending good thoughts to you and your grandma.


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Sad in AZ
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Default  Posted: 6:01 AM, June 16th (Sunday)

Ah, sweetie, I know you're trying to be realistic, but don't give up hope. My grandmother broke her hip at 90 and survived & thrived for another 9 years.

Sending grandma and you lots of mojo.


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FaithFool
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Default  Posted: 9:46 AM, June 16th (Sunday)

(((MP+Gma)))

Sounds like my mom, no meds and lived to see her 90th after two hip breaks.

The first one only slowed her down a bit.


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nowiknow23
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Default  Posted: 9:52 AM, June 16th (Sunday)

Sending mojo. ((((MP & grandma))))


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jo2love
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Default  Posted: 10:31 AM, June 16th (Sunday)

(((Mrs.Panda & grandma)))

Sending healing mojo


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solus sto
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Default  Posted: 11:34 AM, June 16th (Sunday)

(((Mrs. P and Grandma))) Good thoughts and prayers for peace and comfort. I've cared for many elders who've thrived after hip fracture; that she is hardy and strong is huge. That, rather than age, is the biggest predictor of outcome.

Will you be able to see her?


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Mrs Panda
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Default  Posted: 9:29 PM, June 16th (Sunday)

Thanks:)
I flew in tonight and saw her for several hours. Back tomorrow for surgery. She is is real firecracker, and was telling off the nurses for inadequate pain control, etc etc. Oh dear. I don't think she's their favorite patient.


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itainteasy
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Default  Posted: 10:18 AM, June 17th (Monday)

Your Grandma sounds wonderful.

I hope she has a speedy recovery.

And tuff shit if she's not the nurses favorite patient. She's 99! She's allowed to be ornery! She's also in pain


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JustDone
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Default  Posted: 10:33 AM, June 17th (Monday)

Good for Grandma sticking up for herself. I hope the surgery today goes well. Sending lots of:



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tushnurse
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Default  Posted: 1:46 PM, June 17th (Monday)

(((and super MOJO))))

Hips are not like they used to be, and are routinely repaired, and survived well after.
You do need to be prepared for her to have a stay at rehab though after. She needs to get used to the idea too.
As I do Care Management now, I find that when I tell folks you can't go home until you get strong enough to go potty on your own again they don't trust you. Tell her that she is going so she can go back home, and be independent again. Tell her insurance wouldn't pay for it, if they were putting her there to spend the rest of her days there. (THIS IS THE TRUTH).

((((and strength and MOJO))))


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simplydevastated
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Default  Posted: 1:53 PM, June 17th (Monday)

I'm sorry to hear this. Don't give up hope, though. My neighbor had a double hip replacement. She had a home physical therapist come in and she's doing well. She still lives on her own, drives, walks to the mailboxes (we live in a condo community), does her own grocery shopping etc...

Your grandmother sounds like she is very strong.

Sending (((HUGS))), strength and lots and lots of healing mojo


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Default  Posted: 6:18 PM, June 17th (Monday)

Lots of Mojo mrs panda and ((((((hugs)))))

Our grandmas must be twins - mine is 99 and real firecracker as well. She's a hit where ever she goes.

Your gramdma is a tough cookie!


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Skan
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Default  Posted: 7:48 PM, June 17th (Monday)

Much mojo for your Grandmother! My Grandmother is turning 96 this year and you''d best not get in HER way! I just mailed her a whole mince pie she loves them, can''t find them where she''s at, and a fantastic Scottish bakery just opened by my work. Thinking that this will be a once a month food package for her!

Dang, sorry for the TJ. I hear Grandmother and my mind just goes racing!


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Mrs Panda
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Default  Posted: 6:32 PM, June 18th (Tuesday)

Thanks everyone )

She is finally sleeping. Wore herself out. She (almost) stood today.

She expects someone to be with her 24-7 which is impossible, as my mom and dad have to sleep, and when I go home tomorrow it's just them.

She made my mom cry because she said she didn't love her because she had to go home to rest.

Every little noise makes her jump and scream.

She has some confusion, and I try to explain this to my mom, who refuses to admit that she is confused.
Sigh.


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FaithFool
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Default  Posted: 6:53 PM, June 18th (Tuesday)

One of the things I found out is that anaesthesia can accelerate mental confusion in the elderly.

After her second hip replacement my mom started leaving messages on my answering machine. One was quite intriguing, about the fairies at the bottom of her garden.

God love them, ageing is not for the faint of heart.


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