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AFrayedKnot
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Member # 36622
Default  Posted: 6:17 AM, June 16th (Sunday)

I am feeling really trapped today. No matter whether we stay in R or go our separate ways, we will always be connected through our DS3. There is no option for complete freedom.

He was not planned. He was not an "oops". He was conceived through lies and secrets.

About a month after a confrontation about AP#3, my fWS decided to stop taking the pill and not tell me. She says she was not intending to get pregnant. She says it was not manipulative. But here we are.

It could have been a relationship changing event. Bringing us together. Truly becoming a family, a team. But no she continued contact with AP#2 and AP#3 and two years later added AP#4.

Sorry for the rant. Happy Fucking Fathers Day to me!!!


PS This has nothing to do with our beautiful DS. I love him with every bit of my heart and soul. I am grateful for him every day.


BS 39
fWS 36 (SurprisinglyOkay)
DD DS
A whole bunch of shit that got a lot worse before it got better.
"Knowing is half the battle"

Posts: 2586 | Registered: Aug 2012
wifehad5
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Member # 15162
Default  Posted: 6:24 AM, June 16th (Sunday)

{{{Chicho)))


FBH - 42
FWW - 43 (BrokenRoad)
2 kids 7&12

The people you do your life with shape the life you live


Posts: 37181 | Registered: Jun 2007 | From: Michigan
AFrayedKnot
Member
Member # 36622
Default  Posted: 6:49 AM, June 16th (Sunday)

Same to you (((WH5)))


BS 39
fWS 36 (SurprisinglyOkay)
DD DS
A whole bunch of shit that got a lot worse before it got better.
"Knowing is half the battle"

Posts: 2586 | Registered: Aug 2012
painpaingoaway
Member
Member # 27196
Default  Posted: 6:55 AM, June 16th (Sunday)

I'm so sorry you are suffering Chico.

((((Chico))))


me BS female 56/him WS 59
Married 33 years
D-day July 09/he gave me his slut's STD
Watch my movie: "My wayward husband's adventures in STD land":
Episode 1: youtu.be/9Jv0-d_CdYc
Episode 2: http://m.youtube.com/watch?v=8Tz822H82Gk

Posts: 7056 | Registered: Jan 2010 | From: Coastal South
sisoon
Member
Member # 31240
Default  Posted: 12:24 PM, June 16th (Sunday)

(((Chicho)))


fBH (me) - 70 (22 in my head), fWW (plainsong) - 65+, Married 45+, together since 1965
DDay - 12/2010
Recovered, not yet fully R'ed
I share my own experience because it's the only experience I know, not because I'm a good model.

Posts: 10094 | Registered: Feb 2011 | From: Chicago area
karmahappens
Member
Member # 35846
Default  Posted: 12:37 PM, June 16th (Sunday)

I am sorry you are feeling so lousy today.

((((hugs))))


“And the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom”
Anaïs Nin
Me: 45
Him: 47
Dday 8/2007
We have R'd

Posts: 3801 | Registered: Jun 2012 | From: Massachusetts
5454real
Member
Member # 37455
Default  Posted: 2:16 PM, June 16th (Sunday)

sorry you're here today brother. focus on your son today.

strength


BH 51, WW 42
DS 23(Mine),SD 21,SS 20(Hers),DS 9 Ours, DGS 3, DGD 1 mo
D=Day #1 5/04EA (Rugswept)
D-Day #2 3/10/12, TT til 3/13/12
Married 10yrs
“I have no love for a friend who loves in words alone.”
― Sophocles, Antigone

Posts: 2842 | Registered: Nov 2012 | From: midwest
jo2love
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Member # 31528
Default  Posted: 3:30 PM, June 16th (Sunday)

(((Chicho)))

Posts: 35219 | Registered: Mar 2011
Neithan
Member
Member # 35924
Default  Posted: 3:40 PM, June 16th (Sunday)

Wow. That takes betrayal to a new level.

At least you can enjoy your son. You can choose to focus on that today.


Me: BH
Her: WW
D-Day: 2/19/2010
Married 1981
That which does not kill me makes me more irritable

Posts: 328 | Registered: Jun 2012 | From: Among the Gaurwaith
AFrayedKnot
Member
Member # 36622
Default  Posted: 8:41 PM, June 16th (Sunday)

So obviously I woke up miserable today. I must have been processing something in my sleep or dreaming and not remember it. But I woke up in a really bad spot.

After I wrote this post we talked pretty deep for about an hour, read painpaingoaway's poem in general, got the boy up, and went about our plans (Pic in New Picture thread F/G).

It ended up being a good day today. The past did not rule my life today. It had me for a couple of hours but that was it.

Thank You all for the (((hugs))) and support. The email notifications throughout the day helped a lot.

[This message edited by Chicho at 10:02 PM, June 16th (Sunday)]


BS 39
fWS 36 (SurprisinglyOkay)
DD DS
A whole bunch of shit that got a lot worse before it got better.
"Knowing is half the battle"

Posts: 2586 | Registered: Aug 2012
catlover50
Member
Member # 37154
Default  Posted: 5:20 AM, June 17th (Monday)

Good for you!!



Dday -9/24/2012
Reconciling

Posts: 1731 | Registered: Oct 2012 | From: northeast
wifehad5
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Member # 15162
Default  Posted: 8:30 AM, June 17th (Monday)

The past did not rule my life today. It had me for a couple of hours but that was it.

It's a good feeling being able to tell the past to fuck off, isn't it?


FBH - 42
FWW - 43 (BrokenRoad)
2 kids 7&12

The people you do your life with shape the life you live


Posts: 37181 | Registered: Jun 2007 | From: Michigan
SoVerySadNow
Member
Member # 36711
Default  Posted: 8:53 AM, June 17th (Monday)

((((Chico))))
Infidelity affects all corners of our lives, heads, and hearts.
I'm glad the happiness of being with your DS put your day right.


Me:BW
Him:WH
D-day(s),after years of TT and Gaslighting was Labor Day Weekend 2012, continuing for a week after. *Dammit! More TT 3/9/13
Really trending toward D- planning about it is my "happy place" now.

Posts: 1292 | Registered: Sep 2012 | From: Sunny Florida
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