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Hope24
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Default  Posted: 8:27 AM, June 16th (Sunday)

I was in line at the grocery store this morning and there was a hot 40-something guy ahead of me buying "Alimony Ale". I couldn''t come up with an opening line, so I blew the perfect opportunity. Gah!

Maybe if I wasn''t wearing yoga pants with my hair in a pony tail I would have been more inspired.


She packed up her potential and all she had learned and headed out to change a few things.

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MovingUpward
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Default  Posted: 8:32 AM, June 16th (Sunday)

yeah. Us guys expect the wimmenz in the grocery to be there in an evening gown with perfect hair.

Go for it next time!


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FaithFool
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Default  Posted: 9:44 AM, June 16th (Sunday)


DDay: June 15, 2008
Mistakenly married Mr. Superfreak
20 years of OWs, WTF?
Divorced Dec 26, 2011
"Life is a shipwreck, but we must not forget
to sing in the lifeboats". -- Voltaire

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Kajem
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Default  Posted: 10:39 AM, June 16th (Sunday)

You should have put your Rat Bastard bottle of wine on the counter and nodded at him.


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Kajem
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Default  Posted: 10:40 AM, June 16th (Sunday)

So what would you have said?


I trust you is a better compliment than I love you, because you may not trust the person you love, but you can always love the person you trust. - Unknown
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Hope24
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Default  Posted: 11:33 AM, June 16th (Sunday)


She packed up her potential and all she had learned and headed out to change a few things.

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caregiver9000
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Default  Posted: 12:09 PM, June 16th (Sunday)

You should have put your Rat Bastard bottle of wine on the counter and nodded at him.


Me: 44, independent, happy, despite co-parenting with a lower muppet
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S 5/2010
D 12/2012

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OnceInALifetime
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Default  Posted: 12:30 PM, June 16th (Sunday)

Perfect, Kajem!!!


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tryingagain74
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Default  Posted: 2:21 PM, June 16th (Sunday)

I would love to tell you that you should have gone for it, but that would make me a total hypocrite. As soon as I can start making eye contact with a single man for more than 1/26th of a second, then maybe I can start doling out relationship advice.

I love the name of that ale! I should have gotten some for the g2g.


BS (Me) 39
Happily liberated!
Two DS and One DD
It matters not how strait the gate,/How charged with punishments the scroll./I am the master of my fate:/I am the captain of my soul.--"Invictus," William Ernest Henley

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cmego
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Default  Posted: 2:29 PM, June 16th (Sunday)

t/j

I thought it was "Fat Bastard"...or am I having a blond moment?

I do tend to buy wine because I like the name

end of t/j

I try very hard to just speak to men in all situations. Practicing not shutting down instantly because I was used to being in "married mode" for so long. It is hard to do!


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WS, 41, multiple gay affairs
M 15 years, together 17
Divorced

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tryingagain74
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Default  Posted: 2:33 PM, June 16th (Sunday)

It is Fat Bastard.

That name doesn't make me think of wine, though. It makes me think of Mike Myers's disgusting Scottish character from Austin Powers.

Perhaps someone on SI could start a Rat Bastard Winery?


BS (Me) 39
Happily liberated!
Two DS and One DD
It matters not how strait the gate,/How charged with punishments the scroll./I am the master of my fate:/I am the captain of my soul.--"Invictus," William Ernest Henley

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Sad in AZ
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Default  Posted: 3:44 PM, June 16th (Sunday)

Sorry kids, it's a root beer:

But you could get some of this:


I solemnly swear that I am up to no good.

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Hope24
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Default  Posted: 9:19 PM, June 16th (Sunday)

Great ideas! I will have to hide the grocery list from the kids next week.


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itainteasy
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Default  Posted: 8:57 AM, June 17th (Monday)

They do make "Arrogant Bastard". I think it's an IPA, but I could be wrong.

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heartbroken_kk
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Default  Posted: 10:36 AM, June 17th (Monday)

Mmmmmm Arrogant Bastard! My favorite. I gotta get me some of this Alimony Ale, I wonder if it's a bitter beer oy a yummy malty one?


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D-Day 1 1999, D-Day 2,3,4,5,6... 2009 thru 2011.

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FaithFool
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Default  Posted: 10:40 AM, June 17th (Monday)

Arrogant Bastard is yummy!


DDay: June 15, 2008
Mistakenly married Mr. Superfreak
20 years of OWs, WTF?
Divorced Dec 26, 2011
"Life is a shipwreck, but we must not forget
to sing in the lifeboats". -- Voltaire

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Shockleader
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Default  Posted: 10:59 AM, June 17th (Monday)

I try very hard to just speak to men in all situations. Practicing not shutting down instantly because I was used to being in "married mode" for so long. It is hard to do!

Spot on, just substitute "speak to women". I am however, finding it easier, and easier.


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Me BS 47
Xcheater 44
One DD 19
Married 23 years
Divorced 12/23/13 Fu*king A!

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thebighurt
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Default  Posted: 1:15 PM, June 17th (Monday)

I'm good at making remarks to people I don't know. I think i would have asked if he was buying it to celebrate or drown his sorrows. But, then, I more than likely wouldn't even have noticed what he had. BUT, if I had........


Finding what life could have been....... Why didn't I see it?

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nowiknow23
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Default  Posted: 1:21 PM, June 17th (Monday)

I would love to tell you that you should have gone for it, but that would make me a total hypocrite. As soon as I can start making eye contact with a single man for more than 1/26th of a second, then maybe I can start doling out relationship advice.
Me too, trying. Me too.


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- Carlos Santana


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thebighurt
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Default  Posted: 1:26 PM, June 17th (Monday)

Haha. As of to prove my point, the guy who came in and sat almost at my table at the place I am having a late lunch and reading on here turned around and jumped when he saw me here. He was on his phone when he came in and sat there. I was just hitting send when he said he didn't realize anyone else was around as he spoke loudly on his phone. ( I was reading and paid no attention to his convo)

I said it's ok. I've only been here a half hour. Then he asked if I thought it is as warm in here as he thought. I told him it's more likely warm from being embarrassed! He apologized profusely and left with a warning not to text and drive.


Finding what life could have been....... Why didn't I see it?

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NaiveAgain
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Default  Posted: 2:17 PM, June 17th (Monday)

Sorry you missed that opportunity but there will be more. Like others have said, practice talking to random men here or there, in just a friendly type of way. If there is any interest on the other end, it honestly doesn't matter what you say....just eye contact and a smile will open many guys up...

Some opening lines for you at the store for you...
(they don't have to be mind-blowing )

1. That looks interesting.
2. Uh oh,.....(said with a smile and a glance at the object)
3. Are we celebrating?
4. Oh cute...that is an interesting name for a bottle of.....

And hey, right after the split of me and WS, I also had trouble with eye contact with guys that I was attracted to. In fact, there had been a cop following me around the library and trying to catch my eye (he was drop dead gorgeous) and I remember I couldn't even look at him until he had his head turned, then I got my book and left so quickly I am sure he thought I was either a social moron or someone he perhaps should be running plates on.....

Practice, practice, practice. That was when I realized I needed to start talking to strangers again....


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New WS (2 EA's, no PA) 12-3-13
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