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booger bear
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Helpless  Posted: 11:58 AM, June 16th (Sunday)

(((All my hugs)))

It must be very difficult
To be a man in grief,
Since "men don't cry" and "men are strong"
No tears can bring relief.
It must be very difficult
To stand up to the test
And field calls and visitors
So she can get some rest.
They always ask if she's all right
And what she's going through
But seldom take his hand and ask,
"My friend, but how are you?"
He hears her crying in the night
And thinks his heart will break
And dries her tears and comforts her
But "stays strong" for her sake.
It must be very difficult
To start each day anew
And try to be so very brave ~
He lost his baby too. . .

Author: Eileen Knight Hagemeister
to her son-in-law after his baby girl was born still

www.compassionatefriends.org

Thank you for what you did/and still do. We could have not made it without you. While I am D'ed and here on SI, it does not change the fact what he did for me all those years ago. Things changed A LOT in the years since, obviously, because today he is celebrating or will celebrate at some point with the whore and her boys.

I wonder if he thinks of Nemo ... I wonder if he knows just how much he saved me, how much I loved him and appreciated/needed him ...

Struggling to maintain N/C today ... The Black Forest Fire again burning my home/neighborhood, Father's Day and today would have been our 12yr Anni ... Bad day ...

Thankfully the fire is well under control and no one I know was injured or lost any thing ... But it still takes a toll to watch your home town burn ...

And last year at this time was Waldo Canyon fire ... Again burning my home town, but I broke N/C last year, he was activated to provide support for looters and almost had to evac my mom And that broken N/C led to a lot of broken N/C in July/August ... Wound up being a closure and I feel/felt ok about it.

1 yr later I am facing the trifecta ... I want to send him the poem

I started writing this to post into OT ... Hmmmm ... somehow I think I should copy/paste this to Gen ...

Anyway ... Small vent there emotional out burst ...

This is for the Dad's on SI, or the SO's of members here who have lost a child. Thank you.


I am fiercely independent and I won’t apologize for it. I'd rather be single than settled.

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Jrazz
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Default  Posted: 2:21 PM, June 16th (Sunday)

(((booger bear)))


We are what we repeatedly do, excellence, then is not an act but a habit. - Aristotle

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Want2help
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Default  Posted: 2:23 PM, June 16th (Sunday)

Beautiful poem. Definitely got the tears flowing.

(((boogerbear)))


BS- me.
FWS- him.
DDay 6/07 (immediately separated)
RDay 8/07
Surprise OC born 3/08 (NC)
7 years into successful R.
"That which can be destroyed by truth should be." -P. C. Hodgell

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LosferWords
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Default  Posted: 3:18 PM, June 16th (Sunday)

(((booger bear)))

If it brightens your day at all, I live just a few miles south of the fire, and we're getting a good rain storm right now. Plus, the firefighters have it at 65% containment!

I grew up in Black Forest, and it has been difficult watching it burn from the vantage point of my back yard. This fire, one year after the Waldo Canyon fire, with two lives and hundreds of homes lost in each of these fires... very sad, but the community is really coming together to support those affected.

PM me if you ever need me to check on anyone locally or need any real time updates.

Take care.


"I would rather take a punch than not give you a shot. I'd rather find out who you are than who you're not."

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jo2love
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Default  Posted: 3:45 PM, June 16th (Sunday)

(((booger bear)))

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booger bear
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Default  Posted: 4:33 PM, June 16th (Sunday)

Thank you everyone ...

I sent him the poem.

Losfer thank you so much. My mom lives in Palmer Lake and my little sis lives on the west side of Springs ... I have friends who live on the east side out by airport ... They all keep me informed ... and I have every local news/radio station feeding into FB ...

Surreal though ... I'm going home for the 4th ... saddened by what I will see.

I am so happy you and yours Losfer are safe ... And yes the rain is such a relief. Thank you again.


I am fiercely independent and I won’t apologize for it. I'd rather be single than settled.

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LosferWords
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Default  Posted: 4:50 PM, June 16th (Sunday)

Thanks, booger bear. I am glad to hear your loved ones are safe as well!

I also really appreciate the well wishes to us SI dads for Father's Day. It can be a rough holiday for a lot of us here, for many different reasons.

My heart hurts for you every time you talk about Nemo, and I honestly don't really know how to respond. All I can think of to do is send you and Nemo a heartfelt hug from your home state of Colorado, from me and my family.

(((Nemo & BB)))


"I would rather take a punch than not give you a shot. I'd rather find out who you are than who you're not."

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HereWeGo62
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Default  Posted: 7:09 AM, June 17th (Monday)

(((booger bear)))

Thank you for posting this.

I lost my daughter in 1999, she was still born. After I caught my wife in the affair she used this as part of her excuse, said I was unemotional then and wasn't there for her. Of course this was a total history re-write, I was with her 24/7. I would have given my life to save my daughter or take my wifes pain away.

The affair just about killed me, when my wife told me she resented me for our DD death I wanted to die.

Thank you again.


If there is reincarnation I hope OM comes back as a low water flush truck stop toilet!

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