User Topic: Final divorce hearing tomorrow
Member # 36559
Default  Posted: 4:26 PM, June 16th (Sunday)

I'm so excited! It's been a long time coming. I am getting a nice settlement from his 401k. That will help the kids and I rebuild. I no longer have any anger towards my X. I can honestly say I am looking forward to coparenting w him. I'm comfortable with this new normal. I'm not envious of his GF/OW. I know what it's like being married to him.

The only thing I kick myself for is this. I wish I married a better man. Next time I will do better. I know better now.

So here's to new beginnings!

Me 36
DS 16
DD 4


I've made a huge mistake - GOB

Posts: 71 | Registered: Aug 2012 | From: missmydogs
Dark Inertia
Member # 30727
Default  Posted: 4:34 PM, June 16th (Sunday)

LOL, I clicked on this thread expecting to read something along the lines of "I am depressed, never thought it would end this way" type of post. Your thread is refreshing. Congratulations!!

"If I listened earlier, I wouldn't be here. But that's just the trouble with me. I give myself very good advice, but I very seldom follow it."

Posts: 1284 | Registered: Jan 2011 | From: The Ohio
Member # 18334
Default  Posted: 4:52 PM, June 16th (Sunday)

Congrats on your new beginning!!!

I think...therefore, I'm single.

It is what it is.

Posts: 4788 | Registered: Feb 2008
Member # 32554
Default  Posted: 5:01 PM, June 16th (Sunday)

I'm happy for your New Beginning. Best wishes!

Me = BS (Stay-at-home-mom)
Him = EX-d out (abusive troglodyte NPD SA)
3 tween-aged kids
Together 20 years
D-Day: Memorial Weekend 2011

Posts: 9827 | Registered: Jun 2011 | From: USA
Member # 31528
Default  Posted: 5:18 PM, June 16th (Sunday)

Congrats!! Wishing you a fabulous NB.

Posts: 35929 | Registered: Mar 2011
Member # 38378
Default  Posted: 7:21 PM, June 16th (Sunday)

I'm glad for you and will admit to being a little bit envious!

I am nodding at the things you wrote, but I struggle with grief and am trying to figure out what it's for? Finally I'm aware of about 90% of what STBX has done, but I can't rid myself of the grief. It's 5.5 months from Dday for me.

Any ideas are welcome. My goal is to get to the point you are at emotionally, MMD, but I don't know how to keep the more pleasant feelings.

Is it easier to do when knowledge of a final settlement comes?

And I wish you luck.

Ashland 13

You gave me nothing and now it's all I've got - Bono

A person is a person, no matter how small. -Dr. Suess

Perserverance and spirit have done wonders in all ages.

-George Washington

Posts: 2290 | Registered: Feb 2013 | From: New England
Member # 36434
Default  Posted: 7:47 PM, June 16th (Sunday)


Me: BW, 34 Him: WH, 35
3 Kids: 9, 3, and 1
Decree nisi will become absolute in January. We are DONE.

Posts: 771 | Registered: Aug 2012
Member # 36559
Default  Posted: 10:07 PM, June 16th (Sunday)

Thanks for all your kind words! I can't tell you how much I admire all of you!

Ash- It has been almost 3 years for me now. Your wound is still fresh. And you're expecting a baby! You are doing so well, I'm in awe of your strength! I went through all the emotions you are. It's such a difficult time. You will get where I am. I promise. Yes a lot of it has to do with knowing where I stand financially. And now the fighting is over. It's just calm now. You will find your way here soon. Sending you warm thoughts, peace, and hugs.

Me 36
DS 16
DD 4


I've made a huge mistake - GOB

Posts: 71 | Registered: Aug 2012 | From: missmydogs
Member # 33226
Default  Posted: 1:47 PM, June 17th (Monday)

Congratulations! You're off to a great new beginning already.

You can call me NIK

"If you carry joy in your heart, you can heal any moment."
- Carlos Santana

Posts: 25774 | Registered: Aug 2011
Member # 34525
Default  Posted: 1:56 PM, June 17th (Monday)

mmd - so good to hear! You sound like you are in a really great place and you are an inspiration to those of us who still have to go through what you have.

Here's a toast to your new beginning! (no "toast" emoticon, sorry!)

BS (me) - 41
WH - 48, EA with HS GF x 2
M: 10 years, T: 20
2 small children
DDay#1 - Christmas 2011 (OW#1)
Confronted - 4/6/12
DDay#2 - July 9, 2012 (OW#2)
He is an SA (Oct 2012)

Posts: 827 | Registered: Jan 2012 | From: the other side
Topic Posts: 10