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copout
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Default  Posted: 12:54 PM, June 17th (Monday)

I saw the OW the other night.I knew she worked there but didn't think that I would run into her,it's a large place.
I started to speak but all that came to mind was thank you.Thank you for taking him away life is so much calmer now.
She was sad looking, a worn out looking older woman,no makeup,bad hair,poorly dressed.
Wasn't sure how to feel.


Every new beginning comes from some other beginnings end.

Posts: 290 | Registered: Jan 2009
Ashland13
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Default  Posted: 8:18 PM, June 18th (Tuesday)

Amazing. I'm proud of you, for it's a situation I don't look forward to and have so far been able to refuse and avoid. Perv chose an OW many hours away, I imagine on purpose? but speaks of our daughter meeting her "someday" and it makes me ill.

I feel like you do most of the time, where now he can spread the drama and lies around there, for there isn't a calm minute when he shows up here.

It seems like feeling confused would be appropriate, for it's probably one of the most difficult and awkward experiences we may ever feel.

I've often been told and read that it isn't always about looks, for what I've seen of Perv's OW, she is rather large and reminiscent of the '80's and has a lot about her that he used to make fun of or complain about in people. It's sometimes about "convenience" and a willing person.


Ashland 13

A person is a person, no matter how small. -Dr. Suess

Perserverance and spirit have done wonders in all ages.

-George Washington


Posts: 2187 | Registered: Feb 2013 | From: New England
FieldsOfLavender
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Default  Posted: 10:48 PM, June 18th (Tuesday)

I saw OW, one month after I found out. She was sitting at a restaurant near my work. What are the chances of that? She was sitting with 2 other women. At that time, I didn't feel the rage toward her that I felt later.

Posts: 190 | Registered: May 2013 | From: East Coast, USA
dmari
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Default  Posted: 11:32 PM, June 18th (Tuesday)

You survived! Good for you! It made me think about when it is my turn to see OW. I don't know if I would recognize her unless she was with stbx. I am also grateful that stbx is no longer in my life as life is much more peaceful and joyful. I'm fortunate because my kids are older so I don't really care who stbx ends up with since they don't have a relationship with stbx therefore no relationship with OW.

Thank you for sharing your experience! I am proud of you!

[This message edited by dmari at 11:32 PM, June 18th (Tuesday)]


Me (BS): 42 Children: DD 18, DS 15
Settled at mediation
Officially divorced ... SOON!

Posts: 2140 | Registered: Oct 2012
ImNellNow
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Default  Posted: 1:47 PM, June 19th (Wednesday)

I hope to her list of woes she now adds, "Beautiful BW seeing me when I looked like absolute hell and she wouldn't even speak to me." Well done, you!

I saw the COW in her office building a few weeks ago. Freaked me out for a minute, but freaked her out more, based on her hiding behind corners and then rushing into her office like her g-string was covered in fire ants! By the time the elevator arrives for me, I was laughing, visualizing her sneaking in and out of her office indefinitely so she won't run into the big bad XBW again!


BS & D
Drinking wine and thinking bliss is on the other side of this.

Posts: 2370 | Registered: Jun 2010 | From: Baby steps on my new path
Dawn58
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Default  Posted: 11:34 PM, June 21st (Friday)

I saw the skank with the pig at a charity event together. I was devastated, took a long time to get over watching my husband leave with her.

Still hurts, but trying to accept what is. I really like the fact that the next time he cheats, it won't be on me, but will be on her. Then she can wipe that smug smile off her face! She thinks she won the prize, well, good luck with that!

You are the far better person, remember, they always affair down. You have your integrity, class and innate goodness.


I got into the marriage, because I loved him. I got out of the marriage, because I love me.

Posts: 467 | Registered: Nov 2012 | From: Southern California
TrustGone
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Default  Posted: 12:36 AM, June 22nd (Saturday)

Good for you!!! It is funny when their little fantasy bubble burst and they finally see what they wound up with. I so wished now that my WH#2 had choose the OW over me. It made it so much simplier with XWH#1 than this half-ass R and rug sweeping I am getting from WH#2. I am a very sweet person who doesn't nag and bitch. The OW is crazy as shit and a manipulative bitch. I have heard her scream at my WH#2 on the phone like she was someone. I have never screamed at him like she was. He said she was always crazy like that. All I could think was why would you want to go be with someone that treats you like that. Must be some really good make-up sex or something.


BW-50
WH#2-51
M-9 yrs T-11 yrs
4 children-none together
DD#1-9/5/11 LTA 2yrs
DD#2-7/3/12 False R
DD#3-4/29/13 (OW broke NC)
Status: Your guess is as good as mine.

Posts: 2420 | Registered: Aug 2012 | From: Texas
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