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ProbableIceCream
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Default  Posted: 10:45 PM, June 17th (Monday)

So I do a lot better with quantified goals than vague goals sometimes, and especially goals I can break down into little pieces.

I've not been going out and getting socially acclimated a lot, so I set a goal to go out and do some social activity involving strangers at least once every 10 days (I can change this over time naturally). I use an online tracker that ensures I meet an average over time, which I've been using all year for some other goals with a lot of success.

I started with something really easy, a movie meetup. It went pretty well. I had a conversation with a couple interesting guys before the movie. I'll go to the one next week if my schedule allows.

The anticipation for these new things is often a little scary, but the event itself is pretty calm. Seems like there's always other new people anyway.


Me, 32. DD, 8. DS, 6 (deceased).

Posts: 819 | Registered: Nov 2012 | From: Pacific Northwest
FaithFool
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Default  Posted: 8:34 AM, June 18th (Tuesday)

There is nothing wrong with being anti-social for the first couple of years after this mess.

It's OK to cocoon if you feel like it. It's called healing.

It was nearly two years for me before I ventured out again with friends.

But I prefer movies alone. Don't have to share the popcorn.


DDay: June 15, 2008
Mistakenly married Mr. Superfreak
20 years of OWs, WTF?
Divorced Dec 26, 2011
"Life is a shipwreck, but we must not forget
to sing in the lifeboats". -- Voltaire

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nowiknow23
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Default  Posted: 12:59 PM, June 18th (Tuesday)

I think it's great that you're stretching yourself! I have been in hibernate mode as well, and have just started meeting up with friends again. I like the idea of the online tracker. Good luck with your goal!


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"Sometimes it takes a good fall to know where you really stand."
-Hayley Williams


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tesla
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Default  Posted: 5:39 PM, June 19th (Wednesday)

I make myself talk to a stranger at races I'm running in. Or I start chatting with the grocery check-out clerk. They are no pressure situations and I can cut out fast if I feel like it.

I'm glad you are getting out a bit and you have a way to kind of hold yourself accountable to your goal.


"Thou art the son and heir of a mongrel bitch." --King Lear

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