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hit-by-a-train
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Default  Posted: 1:56 PM, June 18th (Tuesday)

Has anyone else had them? I'm a bit reluctant to post them here - been told I shared TMI on this forum before -

would you pm me if you'd like to chat about it, please?


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Shutup  Posted: 7:55 PM, June 18th (Tuesday)

I know you're serious about this, but I can't help myself..yes, I've screamed omigod! many times

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Default  Posted: 10:35 PM, June 18th (Tuesday)

Like.


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Default  Posted: 10:47 AM, June 19th (Wednesday)

With my ex? No...can't remember feeling that way at all.

With the man I am now in love with? Pretty close.

There is definitely a difference between sex and making love. <3


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Default  Posted: 10:50 AM, June 19th (Wednesday)

Youo mean the feeling of lighness where you feel like you are actually one person? Or you start to cry because you feel such love?

Yes, I have felt it. I felt it with my wh years ago.


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Default  Posted: 12:26 PM, June 19th (Wednesday)

Faithful, one time did feel like we were one body, but different than what you describe. I could psychicly "feel" on my own body the caresses I was giving to him.

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**Beloved hubby died at home 1/28/2013, age 61..** God sent me two good men in a row......and saved the best for last. Grief & joy coexist.

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Default  Posted: 1:02 PM, June 19th (Wednesday)

Yes hit, I felt that to and you described it good.

It's the best feeling in the world. I hope you get to keep experincing it.


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Will be divorcing soon!
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Wink  Posted: 10:57 PM, June 19th (Wednesday)

In my experience, I have felt it several times. I believe the difference is that we are always afraid to open up our hearts because we don’t want to be hurt.
I have always given myself to my partner in mind and flesh with no regards. I have said to my XW and then to XGF that lovemaking is like being in heaven because you are naked (emotionally speaking too). XGF could not understand that until we were intimate a year later, she used to tell me that she felt like we were one person among the feeling of being in a unique place, her words.
To experience that one must be vulnerable, understanding, compassioned and sincere with oneself and TRUST your partner blindly.
Now, to give everything to someone has two sides. One side loves, and the other hurts. Just remember that time changes everything ever, nothing is forever, so enjoy when you are in love and accept when it is gone.
IMHO. The feeling of intimate spiritual connection with someone is a once in a life time experience, and it out weight the pain when we don’t have that connection anymore.
Hope you understand my writing

[This message edited by missherlots at 11:00 PM, June 19th (Wednesday)]


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Default  Posted: 1:18 AM, June 20th (Thursday)

Very interesting question indeed!

Yes! I've just recently experienced this with my GF. Funny thing is that it just doesn't happen for me during actual sex. We can be just cuddling and talking and all of a sudden I get this feeling of overwhelming closeness... kind of like we're melting into one another. It's hard to put into words because I think when this happens we reach total consciousness and all other thought is obliterated.

As for it happening during lovemaking, unless you're willing to totally let go and just ride the wave, it can be a scary experience. Kind of like losing your breath while sleeping and jumping awake to catch it again before you suffocate. There can be no inward or outward thought going on when this happens. It can only be achieved if your mind is a blank slate and completely open to that exact moment and experience.

For that reason, I've often wondered if it would be possible to make love while in a meditative state. Don't think so though because you'd have to think too much just to get into the right position lol.

Don't know if that was what you were looking for but it's just my take on the subject.


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Default  Posted: 8:33 AM, June 20th (Thursday)

missherlots, you wrote:

To experience that one must be vulnerable, understanding, compassioned and sincere with oneself and TRUST yoor partner blindly.

I no longer trust anyone but myself blindly, as a result of my late hubby's two affairs. And I am painfully aware of the sweeping changes that life can present to us. But my view of falling out of love is a bit different than yours:

Life ebbs and flows like the tide. In a long term committed relationship such as marriage, the "in love" feeling can ebb and flow any number of times. Love endures, "in love" comes and gos and comes and gos.

Panic, yes. Your answer is what I was hoping to learn about. My view of what is scary may be somewhat different than yours. I decided 22 years ago to live my life fully......in spite of my fear. So now I tend to leap..........and the net appears.

[This message edited by hit-by-a-train at 8:38 AM, June 20th (Thursday)]


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Default  Posted: 2:31 AM, June 21st (Friday)

Has anyone else had them?

you mean....where you can look into their eyes...see their thoughts and they bounce off the back of their head and back through their and your eyes into your head?

You can "feel" their soul?

You can feel your hearbeat in sync with theirs?

You want to press your body up against theirs with as much contact between your body as possible?

You kiss them and taste the pheromones? And both of you can? (I love this one!!).

You just want to crawl into their skin with them?

You lie next to them - bodies entwined ...and want to be on the other side of them - at the same time?

You both fall asleep and find that you are caressing each other - in your sleep?

You find the windows in the bedroom have "fogged up"?

The "sex act" is only a small part of the whole evening....the foreplay goes on for hours??....even after the "big Os"..?? (men usually only one - women can have several - even multiples).

You realize that sex is also a mental act...not just a physical one??? And you understand this...


Spiritual experiences while lovemaking

Yes...I have been fortunate to have done that ....probably TMI...and I certainly don't want to lose my man card...with that description...

Yeah...mother nature sure knew what she was doing when she thought that one up...atta girl!!

JMO

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Default  Posted: 3:29 AM, June 21st (Friday)

If I did it was so long ago I forgot, which leads me to believe not. If I ever get off THE BUS and have SEWL you will be the first to know. I hope I have the opportunity before I die! I am so happy for you. FR


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Default  Posted: 3:29 AM, June 21st (Friday)

sorry double post, got too excited about the topic

[This message edited by fadedrainbow at 3:31 AM, June 21st (Friday)]


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Default  Posted: 1:15 PM, June 24th (Monday)

Since I first posted this, I've had yet another very odd and probably spiritual experience and he's had one also.

We are so deeply bonded and I am "safe" in this mated relationship in a way that I've never been before. Yet, I know to the depths of me that I will be OK whether this lasts for the rest of my life or only the rest of this year, this month, etc.

Life is so short and I WILL live it at full speed ahead!


In the depths of winter I finally learned there was in me an invincible summer..Albert Camus
**Beloved hubby died at home 1/28/2013, age 61..** God sent me two good men in a row......and saved the best for last. Grief & joy coexist.

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Default  Posted: 2:26 PM, June 24th (Monday)

Stupid bus.


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Default  Posted: 3:36 PM, June 24th (Monday)

ditto how bufffalo describes it, and more than that...I can look into his eyes and see his soul. He has told me that sometimes when I am asleep, he will tell me he loves me, and I will say back that I love him, and I will use his name....I have no recollection of this because I am asleep. He is the only man I have ever been with that I feel 100% completely comfortable with totally letting myself go when we are intimate. And it is much more than physical......we are so in tune with each other that he can tell if the slightest thing is off with me, and he will do what it takes to help make it right. Ok, and TMI probably, but I don't know if this is what you are looking for, but during climax, staring into each other's eyes, it is almost an out-of-body experience......

[This message edited by NaiveAgain at 3:51 PM, June 24th (Monday)]


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Default  Posted: 7:44 PM, June 24th (Monday)

Yes, I have cried during love making because it was just such an emotional experience.


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Default  Posted: 8:45 PM, June 24th (Monday)

Oh, one time during love making the Giants scored to win a close one...what a moment, it still brings chills. I just wish someone could have been there to share the experience.

[This message edited by asurvivor at 9:17 PM, June 24th (Monday)]


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Default  Posted: 9:16 AM, June 25th (Tuesday)

HBAT, that's so great! Happy for you that you have found a real connection
It's called being in love!


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Default  Posted: 10:43 AM, June 26th (Wednesday)

Those are the exact words I used to use with my husband. I would literally be moved to tears, whether I O'd or not. I just felt so close to him, like we were one.

I cannot imagine feeling that way with him ever again. I hope I'm wrong but he's never really made me feel wanted in our entire marriage. The affair was just the icing on the cake.


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