User Topic: Good bye
Member # 35812
Default  Posted: 1:24 PM, June 19th (Wednesday)

I have left the R forum and have moved to General. Thank you everyone with whom I''ve corresponded here. I appreciate the encouragement and love that you have given me.

Imagine a ship trying to set sail while towing an anchor. Cutting free is not a gift to the anchor. You must release that burden, not because the anchor is worthy, but because the ship is.

D-Day, June 10, 2012

Posts: 4915 | Registered: Jun 2012 | From: So California
Member # 30817
Default  Posted: 1:25 PM, June 19th (Wednesday)

Him WH
2 ddays in '07
"The cure for the pain, is the pain." -Rumi

Posts: 6542 | Registered: Jan 2011
Member # 38924
Default  Posted: 1:39 PM, June 19th (Wednesday)

I'll see you there, Skan. I go to both, still. I'm not sure if R is what I'm doing. I KNOW HE IS. But, I say fuck him in my mind every day, all day...

Me-BW 36. STBXH-35,Recovering Alcoholic, M6yrs T13. Boys 2 & 4 1/2.
DDay #1 Nov,2012. 1 1/2 year false R & TT. 10 OW PA's 1LTA (W lied to) 3 years.
S Nov, 2013 again Jan,2014
Filed for D Feb,2014.

Posts: 962 | Registered: Apr 2013 | From: So Cal, baby. :)
Member # 37154
Default  Posted: 1:39 PM, June 19th (Wednesday)


Dday -9/24/2012

Posts: 1748 | Registered: Oct 2012 | From: northeast
Member # 31349
Default  Posted: 1:39 PM, June 19th (Wednesday)

We're here for you wherever you post.

Cherish those who seek the truth but beware of those who find it. - François-Marie Arouet

Posts: 17758 | Registered: Feb 2011 | From: California
Getting to Happy
Member # 35200
Default  Posted: 1:55 PM, June 19th (Wednesday)


WS him
BS me DD's 26, 25' DS 23
dd1 1-1-10, dd2 Mothers Day 2011, dd3 3-12-12 Hawaii trip with ho-worker...

Never forget what is worth remembering or remember what is best forgotten.

Posts: 1140 | Registered: Apr 2012 | From: La La Land
Member # 36519
Default  Posted: 3:03 PM, June 19th (Wednesday)

So sorry. I don't post a lot, but I'm very grateful for your posts and feel I know you. Lots of love and strength to you.

BS (me): 50
WS: 50
Married: 26 yrs
Kids: 2
OW: Co-worker, 7 yr LTA
DD 8/1/2012, Working on R

Posts: 1060 | Registered: Aug 2012
Member # 35215
Default  Posted: 3:55 PM, June 19th (Wednesday)


I bounce between here and R too because my moods change and my WH's behavior can change rapidly. I can't stick with full R yet.

BS/FWS (me):40 Madhatter
WS/BS:42 Serial Cheater
Together 18 years, Married 13
DD(10) DS(7)
DDay(s) 5/08, 5/09, 3/30/12
Final Dday 7/11/14 Affair never ended

Posts: 2266 | Registered: Apr 2012 | From: California
Member # 36555
Default  Posted: 4:42 PM, June 19th (Wednesday)

Welcome to the club. I'm in both. R is stalled by so many issues. HUH!

BS - Me 43 WS - Her 41
DDAY - June 2012 (found the texts)
DDAY2 - Next Day (found out who) EA
TT- till 9/2012 (some PA)
Married 20yrs. 2kids
Status: in careful R. Sometimes spinning our wheels

Posts: 1391 | Registered: Aug 2012 | From: USA
Member # 38044
Default  Posted: 4:33 AM, June 20th (Thursday)


This is a non linear path. sigh.

Expect to stumble.

Affairs are not unique in America...and, at times, appear to be the norm. sigh.

However, each of us are unique...and only we know what we are capable of.

I will tell you that your posts have helped me along the way. So, just in case you think what you are going through is a waste of time and energy...please think again. At any given moment one of your posts saved another marriage for another day...this is no small thing.

I pray that you will find the path that is right for you. I too get tired and close to breaking.

God be with you. God be with us all.

ME: 42 BH, I don't PM female members
SHE: 38 EA
Married: 15 years
Together: 17 years
D/Day 9-10-12
NC: 10-25-12
NC: Broken early November 2012, OM not respond
2 girls; 7 and 10
Fear is payments on debts you have not

Posts: 3947 | Registered: Jan 2013 | From: Central Missouri
Member # 24786
Default  Posted: 9:50 AM, June 20th (Thursday)

I'll see you over there as I post a lot in General simply because I sometimes worry about name calling the OW and General is a safer forum for me depending on how I'm feeling

BS(Me) FWH(Him) DDay 05.09
A went underground. True R 02.10
I won't let another woman reap the benefit of enjoying the man my H has now become†

Posts: 1583 | Registered: Jul 2009
Member # 37575
Default  Posted: 8:40 PM, June 20th (Thursday)

You have and are an inspiration to me too, wherever you are! Just keep sharing your thoughts!
Sending you support and strength this evening, take care!

Me: BW-54. Him-FWH 54. DDay June 1st 2012 cheating with prostitutes overseas
"Not everything that counts is counted. Not everything that is counted counts." Albert Einstein

Posts: 488 | Registered: Nov 2012 | From: Out West
Member # 36307
Default  Posted: 10:49 AM, June 21st (Friday)

I post here and there and my feeling is we have something to contribute. Who knows when one phrase or comment can assist another. After all we are trying to "survive"

Ultimately, to heal and survive.

BS: Me (63yo)
FWH: HIM (65yo) serial infidelities over past 35 years
OW: Many, most recent 1/2 his age
DD: Multiple unconfirmed until 2012 when I presented evidence, plus LTA with his friends wife lasting 10 years. TT over past year
So done,

Posts: 618 | Registered: Jul 2012
Member # 32423
Default  Posted: 2:53 PM, June 21st (Friday)

Please be ok.

Him WS
Married 10 years together 14
DDay Mar.2011
Mistake-Going through a stop sign because you didn't see it.
Poor choice-You saw the stop sign and went through it anyway.

Posts: 772 | Registered: Jun 2011
Member # 35812
Default  Posted: 7:34 PM, June 21st (Friday)

Hey everyone. Still hanging in there. I''m back in the house, at least, and we''re starting to talk. I have an appointment to go with him to his IC next week so his IC can answer my questions. No trust, of course. But if there is one thing that I have learned with SI, it''s that I can do things in my own good time and no one elses. We shall see how it goes.

Imagine a ship trying to set sail while towing an anchor. Cutting free is not a gift to the anchor. You must release that burden, not because the anchor is worthy, but because the ship is.

D-Day, June 10, 2012

Posts: 4915 | Registered: Jun 2012 | From: So California
Topic Posts: 15