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IrishLass518
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Helpless  Posted: 1:52 PM, June 19th (Wednesday)

XWH and OWifetress are friends on FB with many family members. This is to be expected and is not a source of issue for me. I delete any comments they make unless it is something absolutely inflammatory that I then print off in case I should ever have to go to court again (then I delete). This morning, our niece posted a nice comment on her pregnancy and he husband. OWifetress and xWH posted a reply indicated how lucky they were to have OC and how special she was because she was a surprise. They went on to say how much better xWH felt about the surprise child than the child that was born of pressure (Irishlad). My heart breaks that this would be posted in a public forum, that xWH and OWifetress who claim to love Irishlad could say something so awful about how he came to be. I worry so that someday Irishlad will hear or read his father's words and the damage from that will be irrevocable. I cannot control the relationship xWH has with Irishlad. I can only grieve that my beautiful boy will someday be so hurt by these two and the people who have "liked" this comment. I can only pray that none of them ever see words so hurtful about their own children posted and liked


Me: 45 BS Divorced
Him: 45 Married OW
DDay: 07/04/2008
Divorced: 06/15/2011
5 kids: IrishLass 27,IrishLad 25, IrishLass 22, IrishLad 21 and IrishLad 12
"You can't run from trouble..there ain't no place that far"

Posts: 1676 | Registered: Jan 2012 | From: WA
betrayedfriend
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Member # 19785
Default  Posted: 2:00 PM, June 19th (Wednesday)

That is a terrible thing to say, I am so sorry you had to see that and that your x and his whore, think it's ok to say things like that about an innocent kid.


I originally joined SI as a way to help my best friends find ways of coping with infidelity, but now infidelity has touched my family much closer to home.

Posts: 858 | Registered: Jun 2008 | From: Midwest USA
Ashland13
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Member # 38378
Default  Posted: 2:32 PM, June 19th (Wednesday)

I'm really, really sorry, IrishLass. I sent you a PM.


Ashland 13

A person is a person, no matter how small. -Dr. Suess


Posts: 2134 | Registered: Feb 2013 | From: New England
Nature_Girl
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Member # 32554
Default  Posted: 2:46 PM, June 19th (Wednesday)

(((HUGS))))


Me = BS (Stay-at-home-mom)
Him = EX-d out (abusive troglodyte NPD SA)
3 tween-aged kids
Together 20 years
D-Day: Memorial Weekend 2011
2013 - I DIVORCED HIM, I'M FREE!
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RBOJpIwF47Y

Posts: 9299 | Registered: Jun 2011 | From: USA
lieshurt
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Member # 14003
Default  Posted: 2:51 PM, June 19th (Wednesday)

I hope those sorry pieces of shit rot in hell for saying that.


I'm sorry if you don't like my Honesty, but to be fair I don't like your lies.

Sometimes it's better to push someone away...not because you stopped loving them but because you can't take the pain anymore.


Posts: 13647 | Registered: Mar 2007 | From: Houston
JanaGreen
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Member # 29341
Default  Posted: 3:02 PM, June 19th (Wednesday)

What an asshole. I'm so sorry.


We're both in our 30s. One awesome 4-year-old daughter.

Posts: 6543 | Registered: Aug 2010 | From: Somewhere in the South
DeadMumWalking
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Member # 25341
Default  Posted: 3:07 PM, June 19th (Wednesday)

OMG - what a fucking asshole!!!

Big bigs hugs to you and your precious child.

((((IrishLass & lad))))


Me (BS), Him (WH): early 50's
3 DS: teens!!! :)
M: 24 (19 1/2 at Dday), Together 29
Dday: Dec 2008
re-separated (in-house), for good (??) <-- should really remove these, shouldn't I...

Posts: 2538 | Registered: Aug 2009 | From: EU
Faithful w/Love
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Member # 33128
Default  Posted: 3:11 PM, June 19th (Wednesday)

They are nothing but broken. Broken people say things before thinking. Feel sorry for them if anything.

Your boy is special and blessing. And if his father is suck a jerkwade he is better off without him.

Maybe the OW posted that. You know those OW's are always trying to look better and protray themselfs as better than others.

I am sorry.


BS(ME)40 WH(HIM)38
DD 19 and DS 15
Separated Aug 2012
Moved back home Oct 31 2013
False R. Still Lying.
Will be divorcing soon!
"You never know how strong you are until being strong is the only choice you have"!

Posts: 2660 | Registered: Aug 2011
Faithful w/Love
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Member # 33128
Default  Posted: 3:12 PM, June 19th (Wednesday)

By the way he is a DICK!


BS(ME)40 WH(HIM)38
DD 19 and DS 15
Separated Aug 2012
Moved back home Oct 31 2013
False R. Still Lying.
Will be divorcing soon!
"You never know how strong you are until being strong is the only choice you have"!

Posts: 2660 | Registered: Aug 2011
IrishLass518
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Member # 34373
Default  Posted: 3:16 PM, June 19th (Wednesday)

Thank you all. I appreciate your support much more than you know.
Faithful, it was OWiftress who posted it but xWH ALLOWS this to be said in a public forum. It really doesn't matter to me, I know it is a lie and I know what he said about OC during false R and what OWifetress said about her sons conception with her xH when we were friends. I seriously pray that all of these people NEVER see something so awful posted about themselves or their children.


Me: 45 BS Divorced
Him: 45 Married OW
DDay: 07/04/2008
Divorced: 06/15/2011
5 kids: IrishLass 27,IrishLad 25, IrishLass 22, IrishLad 21 and IrishLad 12
"You can't run from trouble..there ain't no place that far"

Posts: 1676 | Registered: Jan 2012 | From: WA
tesla
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Member # 34697
Default  Posted: 3:40 PM, June 19th (Wednesday)

This is just terrible. If she is typing it in a public forum than she's sending those vibes out when Irishlad is around. His father is a piece of shit for allowing it.

((((Irishlass and lad))))


"Thou art the son and heir of a mongrel bitch." --King Lear

Posts: 4554 | Registered: Jan 2012 | From: Indiana
IrishLass518
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Member # 34373
Default  Posted: 3:52 PM, June 19th (Wednesday)

Tesla, this is what I fear the most. That my sweet little man has already heard or felt these awful words, thoughts, lies. I cannot stop these two from doing their damage to the relationships of now or the future. I can only love my boy with everything I am.
I will never understand how people can justify their messed up choices by doing more damage to innocent children


Me: 45 BS Divorced
Him: 45 Married OW
DDay: 07/04/2008
Divorced: 06/15/2011
5 kids: IrishLass 27,IrishLad 25, IrishLass 22, IrishLad 21 and IrishLad 12
"You can't run from trouble..there ain't no place that far"

Posts: 1676 | Registered: Jan 2012 | From: WA
crazyblindsided
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Member # 35215
Default  Posted: 4:07 PM, June 19th (Wednesday)

(((IrishLass518)))

That is sick and disgusting. People like that should be publicly shamed. I hope someone calls them out on their post. What POS's!!!

I do hope your kids realize how awful and toxic their Dad is and hopefully one day cut him from their lives.


BS/FWS (me):40 Madhatter
WS/BS:42 Serial Cheater
Together 18 years, Married 13
DD(10) DS(7)
DDay(s) 5/08, 5/09, 3/30/12
Final Dday 7/11/14 Affair never ended

Posts: 2266 | Registered: Apr 2012 | From: California
Dark Inertia
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Member # 30727
Default  Posted: 4:47 PM, June 19th (Wednesday)

That is a real horrible thing to say. My heart breaks for your son that his father feels that way.


"If I listened earlier, I wouldn't be here. But that's just the trouble with me. I give myself very good advice, but I very seldom follow it."

Posts: 1176 | Registered: Jan 2011 | From: The Ohio
SBB
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Member # 35229
Default  Posted: 5:09 PM, June 19th (Wednesday)

Oh honey. Please block them both - you don't need to see this shit.

I cannot believe people think like that - let alone post it on FB.


Buzz- The word you are searching for is 'Space-Ranger.'
Woody- The word I'm searching for, I can't say, because there are Pre-school toys here.

Posts: 5424 | Registered: Apr 2012 | From: Australia
IrishLass518
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Default  Posted: 5:21 PM, June 19th (Wednesday)

I am not sure that I want to block them, they give me so much useful ammo should I need to go to court in the future. I NEVER EVER respond. I usually just let it roll off of my back and in extreme times like this, I post here.

I do have to add that this comes on the heels of Father's Day, when my oldest 2 tried repeatedly to contact their father to no answer, no returned calls etc. It later came out that "their" phone was having issues. By the time oldest son went to see his father, they had left for a BBQ at the park. My oldest son was deeply hurt and later allowed the phone excuse to slide. My question was left unsaid and unexpressed, if they knew something was wrong with the phone why didn't they call the kids? Why weren't all of his children invited to the BBQ before hand?


Me: 45 BS Divorced
Him: 45 Married OW
DDay: 07/04/2008
Divorced: 06/15/2011
5 kids: IrishLass 27,IrishLad 25, IrishLass 22, IrishLad 21 and IrishLad 12
"You can't run from trouble..there ain't no place that far"

Posts: 1676 | Registered: Jan 2012 | From: WA
shiloe
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Member # 1224
Default  Posted: 4:52 AM, June 20th (Thursday)

This is where the myth of the evil step-mother was born from.

I have seen this so many times.
Second wives so often resent the first children.


But remember, good love is hard to find . . -Tom Petty and the Heartbreakers
BS - 54
Cheater -54
Married 26 yrs
DD - 21 DD -19 DS-17
A#1 2000 with married ho-worker/neighbor ow#1
A#2 2007-? OW#2 LTA with married ho-worker. Kicked him out, he filed

Posts: 573 | Registered: Mar 2003
cmego
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Default  Posted: 6:21 AM, June 20th (Thursday)

My ex didn't want our second child. He was kinda a surprise because it took 5 years to stay pregnant with our 1st. So, I knew he wasn't exciting about another child, but we knew it might take awhile. BAM, pregnant the first month we tried (I really feel he is my miracle baby for many reasons.)

What I remember so clearly was showing him the positive pregnancy test...and him glancing at it, and rolling over. The entire pregnancy was like that. I remember when we were finding out the sex, he just sat there like a lump. Wasn't kind to me at all, and I was in and out of the hospital and on bedrest most of the pregnancy. He made it very, very clear he didn't want that baby.

Of course, I know now that he was in his first "serious gay relationship affair" during this time. It disgusts me knowing he not only exposed me, but my son while I was pregnant.

When we were working on the S he said "Well, I just went along with trying to get pregnant because I thought you couldn't. I didn't want a second child. But, I do love him. "

They are stupid. Nothing you can do about it.


me...BS, 43 years old, 2 small kids
WS, 41, multiple gay affairs
M 15 years, together 17
Divorced

"For whatever we lose, like a you or a me, it's always ourselves we find in the sea" ee cummings


Posts: 4031 | Registered: Dec 2010 | From: Virginia
itainteasy
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Member # 31094
Default  Posted: 7:25 AM, June 20th (Thursday)

I'm so sorry you had to see that...and see all the assholes who "liked" it.

I have 3 brothers. One full brother, and 2 half brothers.

When my mom was pregnant with my full brother, my father told her to "abort it". She said "NO." My brother was a pill baby. Years later, after they were divorced and both remarried...my first half brother was born. My mother congratulated my father on the birth of his son and said how excited my full brother and I were to have a new baby brother. He said "IT was a mistake. IT will never happen again."

He had a vasectomy. Then he had it reversed because his 4th wife wanted a baby. So now I have my 8 yr old buddy.


My mother told me what my father said about my first two brothers......when she was in a lot of pain. My oldest brother began placing my father on this pedestal...he could do NO wrong. EVER. And he started treating my mother and stepfather (who raised us when my dad wanted to be single, with no kids) like shit. LIKE SHIT (and it continues to this day). My mother said she never should have told me....and she feels horrible about that.

It made me so sad to know that my father never wanted two of my brothers.

I'm sure he loves them.....but he never wanted them.

And that is painful.

Some things should never, ever be voiced, or written down.

OWifetress should know better. She should be ashamed of herself. What a horrible, vapid, shitty excuse for a human being.

I hope they are both wonderful actors so your sweet boy NEVER knows that's what they think of him.


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