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Must Survive
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Default  Posted: 5:34 PM, June 19th (Wednesday)

So today I took my posse (2 adult kids, 1 adult son-in-law, 1 perfect grandbaby, 1 teenage son) to a restaurant to meet up with my sister and her husband that were in town. I chose the place, and it was one that has history for STBXH and me. Now it has different memories. Yeah, 1 more thing I took back.


Me BS
WS: Just a squished bug on the window of my life!
Divorcing, STBXH is engaged/living with OW#3

They have a choice: they can live in my new world, or they can die in their old one." Daenerys Targaryen


Posts: 781 | Registered: Jan 2012 | From: Must Survive
Pass
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Default  Posted: 6:25 PM, June 19th (Wednesday)

Good job, Musty!


Loyal spouse: Me; Disloyal spouse: The Princess
Two sons: Now 11 and 14
DDay: Nov 15, 2012
Separated: Mar 2, 2013 after 17 year marriage, now divorcing!

The best thing about hitting rock bottom is that everything after that looks fucking fabulous


Posts: 2081 | Registered: Jan 2013
Kajem
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Member # 36134
Default  Posted: 6:43 PM, June 19th (Wednesday)

I am in the process of doing that... Good for you. New memories and traditions fuel new beginnings.

Hugs,

K


I trust you is a better compliment than I love you, because you may not trust the person you love, but you can always love the person you trust. - Unknown
Relationships are like sharing a book, it doesn't work if you're not on the same page.

Posts: 5264 | Registered: Jul 2012 | From: Florida
Phoenix1
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Default  Posted: 6:55 PM, June 19th (Wednesday)

I've been doing the exact same thing. I stayed away from places because I had memories with the POS/family being there. I decided to not let that shape my future thinking, so DD16 and I have been purposefully going to some of those same places together specifically to create new, happy memories.

I even bought a new garbage can at home because POS insisted on the previous one, and I wanted to get rid of that memory and create a new one...sad, but true...


BS - Me
XPOS - too many OW/OCs over 20+yrs
Kids - DDs 23,18 -DS20 Deceased
M Dissolved 2013

This above all: to thine own self be true, and it must follow, as the night the day, thou canst not then be false to any man ~ Shakespeare, Hamlet


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fallingquickly
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Default  Posted: 8:06 PM, June 19th (Wednesday)

Congratulations. Every once in a while I realize that something or somewhere that used to hurt no longer does. I celebrate those things.


Divorced and beginning my new life.


2 Ddays and lots of TT
divorcing

Scars remind us where we've been. They don't have to dictate where we're going. (Criminal Minds)

I saw him, I could not unsee him. -StrongButBroken


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