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User Topic: So.....2 phone calls .....2 different guys! Interesting.
She11ybeanz
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Default  Posted: 12:37 PM, June 20th (Thursday)

So, yesterday I had 2 different guys on the paid OLD site ask if they could actually talk to me on the phone. I saw this as a positive thing....because I've had the typical "wanna text" messages which actually turn me off pretty quick.

So, one of the guys I am very interested in....single dad....degree...seems to have his life together so I gave him my phone number and we picked a day that would work and he is going to call me tomorrow evening. The other guy made a comment about how he liked my profile...so I read his and was intrigued... he has like 5 degrees and seems pretty smart....Christian guy... but is a little goofy in his pictures. My therapist said I should step out of my usual box and try more of the nerdy type.... and he gave me his phone number because he liked my witty comeback to his email and said I could call him tonight if I wanted to talk on the phone.....

Thoughts??


"Sometimes your knight in shining armor ...is just a douchebag in tin foil!!"

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D day: November 15th, 2009
Married: 5 Years, together 8
Divorced: December 13th, 2010
New Beginning: Piper/8-3-12


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Amazonia
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Default  Posted: 12:46 PM, June 20th (Thursday)

I hope both calls go well. But I also think people take time to unfold, and I hope that one or both of them unfold well for you. Keep your eyes open and your wits about you.


"You yourself deserve your love and affection as much as anybody in the universe." -Buddha
"Let's face it, life is a crap shoot." -Sad in AZ

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She11ybeanz
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Default  Posted: 1:00 PM, June 20th (Thursday)

Okay.....I guess it can't "hurt" to talk...and I think you can learn a lot more about someone with an actual phone conversation as opposed to over text messages or email..... so we shall see!


"Sometimes your knight in shining armor ...is just a douchebag in tin foil!!"

ME - BW - 35
HIM - XWH - 39
D day: November 15th, 2009
Married: 5 Years, together 8
Divorced: December 13th, 2010
New Beginning: Piper/8-3-12


Posts: 2721 | Registered: Feb 2010 | From: Virginia
Amazonia
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Default  Posted: 1:02 PM, June 20th (Thursday)

No!! I definitely think calls are a good idea. Just don't rush into snap judgments following one call.


"You yourself deserve your love and affection as much as anybody in the universe." -Buddha
"Let's face it, life is a crap shoot." -Sad in AZ

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I.will.survive
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Default  Posted: 8:14 PM, June 20th (Thursday)

Enjoy the phone calls! I remember after 2 dates saying "I wish the spark would just hurry it self up" with my current boyfriend. If I had given up or gone on pics alone....I wouldn't be as happy with him as I am now.

It does take time if you're on the fence. You'll know in person if you don't want to give it another chance I think.


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