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She11ybeanz
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Frustrated  Posted: 7:54 AM, June 21st (Friday)

So....the nerdy guy I told you about that gave me his phone number just emailed me again on the dating site....and I was supposed to give him a call this weekend....but now I'm having second thoughts.... He just sent this message:

Are you a person that wants to be in a relationship? If we were lovers and so forth and I had to move bc of work, would you and your daughter move with me?

First of all, I wouldn't be PAYING to be on a dating site if I didn't want to be in a relationship....and second of all.....It would depend on the extent of the relationship and connection that I had with someone that would determine whether or not I would uproot myself from my career and family for another person.... and that is not a question that I am in a position at this time to answer!


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Default  Posted: 8:11 AM, June 21st (Friday)

Kind of weird stating the "you and your daughter " why not just you?

Its almost like he is testing the waters of how co-dependent you are or will be.

And how easy it will to get to the daughter of the women he is dating.


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She11ybeanz
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Default  Posted: 8:13 AM, June 21st (Friday)

I just like how presumptuous he is saying "If we were lovers" blah blah blah... and then asking if my daughter and I would move away with him! Um....DUDE....we haven't really even talked that much yet! Is this a scare tactic???

Its working....

[This message edited by She11ybeanz at 8:14 AM, June 21st (Friday)]


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cmego
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Default  Posted: 8:17 AM, June 21st (Friday)

I would still talk to him just to gauge what he is like. It is a bit...presumptuous...of him to already ask that question.

BUT, he may be thinking, "Whats the point in even talking to her if she cannot relocate". You don't know the reason he asked the question.

For me, it would be an automatic "No" since I cannot relocate due to my custody arrangement.

I used to ask guys in the first email or two if they cheated on their wives. That put a few off...so I learned to temper my "screening tools" until further along in the process.

If you get a bad vibe when you chat with him, just say..."Although you have some great qualities, but I don't think we are a match and I am not interested in taking this any further. Good luck in your search!"


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Amazonia
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Default  Posted: 8:22 AM, June 21st (Friday)

BUT, he may be thinking, "Whats the point in even talking to her if she cannot relocate". You don't know the reason he asked the question.

This was my first thought. I talked to a lot of military guys when I was doing OLD, and almost all of them asked me, very early on, if I'd be willing to move if things developed.

I'm now looking at a career that will take me abroad for years at a time, and will need to submit that same question to anyone who I might enter a serious relationship with. I'd rather not waste someone's time, and I'd rather they not waste mine, if it's a complete deal breaker from the start. Trust me, it sucks to high heaven to really fall for someone and then have something like geography prevent things from developing.

First of all, I wouldn't be PAYING to be on a dating site if I didn't want to be in a relationship

You need to be aware that not everyone who is on a paid site is looking for the same type of relationship you are. Some are, even many if you're on one of the more expensive sites like eHarmony or Chemistry, but paying for OLD does not automatically mean that everyone wants the same thing.

ETA:

It would depend on the extent of the relationship and connection that I had with someone that would determine whether or not I would uproot myself from my career and family for another person

Honestly, it's okay to tell him this - if he is seriously looking to relocate (and I'm speaking from being in his shoes right now), this^ is a very different answer than "no, I wouldn't". He's not asking you to pack up tomorrow. He's asking if it's a dealbreaker and should he not waste his time, or if you'd be open to the possibility if things developed to that point between the two of you.

It's actually not an unreasonable question.

[This message edited by Amazonia at 8:24 AM, June 21st (Friday)]


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Default  Posted: 8:29 AM, June 21st (Friday)

Okay....here was my reply...

Well, I definitely wouldn't be on match if I wasn't interested in being in a relationship. I don't have the time or patience for a casual type of thing. As far as relocating, it would depend on the circumstances as to whether or not I would uproot my daughter and move leaving behind my family and career. I would need to feel very confident with someone and know that the relationship was worth it. Its not really a yes or no question. Would I just move away a month from now with someone I met on here, probably not. A couple of years from now? Its a possibility. Does that answer your question?


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Default  Posted: 8:30 AM, June 21st (Friday)

That made my creep meeter go off...or at least my defenses went up as someone who isn't quite as stable and rational and cautious as I would want during a new beginning.


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Default  Posted: 8:32 AM, June 21st (Friday)

I think it is not unreasonable. In fact, I would have replied " Interesting question. Why do you ask?" It may be he doesn't like where he is living and might be looking. Or maybe his career choice has him moving from place to place every few years.

Shelley, I think your creep-o-meter is mis calibrated. Look at it this way: you have very little invested and even if you meet for coffee, you have very little invested. Why not adopt the "sit back and let him show you who he is" approach.

You are very quick to assign negatives. Why not ask what is going on--might give you the answers--the real answers--you are seeking.

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She11ybeanz
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Default  Posted: 8:35 AM, June 21st (Friday)

I went ahead and answered his question. Like you said, I really have nothing to lose but I will admit...my creep-o-meter is set on a low toleration level....for sure! I've had too many bad OLD experiences.... but I'm working on trying not to "jump the gun" so to speak.

I've already been smart enough to not even respond to the guys that send me the one-liners "You're beautiful" or "wanna text?" Um....no.


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Default  Posted: 8:45 AM, June 21st (Friday)

Its almost like he is testing the waters of how co-dependent you are or will be.

This was my initial reaction as well and I probably would have nexted him.

Even if I went off of Ama's theory, it still means he probably doesn't have the best communication skills. He should have started that message explaining why he was asking those questions. But no one is perfect and it can't hurt to give him a chance, just keep your eyes open for more creep-o-signs.


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Default  Posted: 8:58 AM, June 21st (Friday)

I don't think asking about moving would be a huge flag for me... assuming he is in a position where that might be a possibility.

The flag for me was saying "If we were lovers and so forth." That just really sounded... off to me.

Something like "if we were in a serious committed relationship..." would be better. Or "if we got to the point of talking marriage and..."

Of course, using "lovers" this way has always been a little off-putting to me anyway. Whenever I hear it used, it always seems to come off a little creepy to me. That's probably just me, though.

But using it this soon seems rather presumptuous.


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Default  Posted: 9:30 AM, June 21st (Friday)

It rubs the lotion on its skin.

This gives me the heebie jeebies big time.


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Default  Posted: 10:02 AM, June 21st (Friday)

Okey Dokey..... 2nd email from him.... still not sure what to think yet....

These are just to get a feel for you. I like you and want to really give us a chance. I guess my weekness is I'm very trusting and loving. Sorry for that. Ok redhead, here goes: are our distances too far from each other? I am looking for a job right now so I hope that doesn't count against me. Do you like to dance? Would you be open to a Friday the 13th marathon? They're scary movies from the 80's. Favorite ice-cream. I'm a very confident person when it comes to my intelligence and my caring nature. I just know the heart that I have and don't like it to be broken. Anyway, you're talking to a good guy so don't pursue me unless you really like me. Have a great day


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Default  Posted: 10:08 AM, June 21st (Friday)

 probably doesn't have the best communication skills

Thats what I thought. Secondly, maybe he's been burned recently.


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Default  Posted: 10:10 AM, June 21st (Friday)

I'm thinking he's been burned recently by the 2nd email...refer to above!!


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Default  Posted: 10:45 AM, June 21st (Friday)

Dating is a process of getting to know each other, and it sounds almost as if he expects you to be in or out right now, which is not realistic.

Have you talked to each other on the phone and just had a conversation? If you do want to give him a chance, maybe you should do that, and if that goes well, then go out with him again.

Isn't dating fun?


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Default  Posted: 10:58 AM, June 21st (Friday)

Yeah, slow down dude. I can see the first email, but to say that he "like you and wants to give us a chance" stuff is wierd.

If you haven't met yet, then "liking you" already is odd. I mean, I generally have a decent idea of if I will like someone, but to want to really give something a chance when you haven't even met yet just screams of wierdness to me.

He is WAY overinvested in someone he hasn't met.


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Default  Posted: 10:59 AM, June 21st (Friday)

hmmmm. At this point I would probably say something along the line of..

"You sound like a great person and I don't have any idea if I am pursuing you or not at this point. I take getting to know someone slowly. Think, "move like a slug...'"

I would give him a warning that he is moving too fast for your comfort level. I even told one guy "slug like"...he got the hint and backed off.

Some of his questions are good, and some people just come off odd during email. Some of it feels like he moves quickly...but...again...hard to tell unless you move to phone/coffee.


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Default  Posted: 11:23 AM, June 21st (Friday)

Anyway, you're talking to a good guy so don't pursue me unless you really like me.

This is what really sticks out to me in the second email. Sorry, but if you have to tell someone you're a good guy, you're probably not.

If you do respond, I would use cmego's suggestion of explaining that you're just getting to know each other still and that you do this slowly. If he is truly a "good guy" he will respect this and back off a bit.


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Default  Posted: 12:00 PM, June 21st (Friday)

I responded and said exactly what you guys said.... and if he comes back with the lamp in my face and his interrogation glasses on again.....then I might have to nix this conversation and move on. This is wayyyy too much for me and I don't like to feel like I'm in an interview. I know that we need to get to know each other.... but I don't like to feel like this is an exam....pass/fail situation... ya know??


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Default  Posted: 12:03 PM, June 21st (Friday)

Shelly, one thing that helped me slow OLD to the pace I wanted was establishing a personal rule that I don't message the same person more than once every 24 hours/day. Seeing as you've already sent at least 2 rounds back and forth with this guy in less than six hours today, get off the computer and let his response (which I don't doubt will come in about 30 minutes or less! ) sit until tomorrow. Establish your own pace.


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Default  Posted: 12:25 PM, June 21st (Friday)

Good idea Amazonia! Sounds like a plan!


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Default  Posted: 12:28 PM, June 21st (Friday)

OLD got a lot easier for me when I became proactive rather than reactive - things like setting my own boundaries, establishing a (mental) checklist of what I needed at bare minimum from a guy to even respond, etc. I do think you'll get there, hopefully without too many bumps from the drama along the way.


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Default  Posted: 12:32 PM, June 21st (Friday)

Well, I've already avoided answering emails that are "one-liners" or worse.... one comment... like "What's up?" "How are you" "You are beautiful" "Wanna text?" etc..... those are lazy and non-engaging. If someone takes the time to write to me and depending on the content of their message is whether or not I will respond or not.

I've had a few guys that I was absolutely not interested in (most of whom were like 20 years my senior) email me ODD messages like one said,

"Do you believe in ghosts?"

I did not respond. Weird.


"Sometimes your knight in shining armor ...is just a douchebag in tin foil!!"

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Divorced: December 13th, 2010
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Default  Posted: 1:53 PM, June 21st (Friday)

His response to me asking him to take things slow was:

"Let's start as friends"

Okay...


"Sometimes your knight in shining armor ...is just a douchebag in tin foil!!"

ME - BW - 35
HIM - XWH - 39
D day: November 15th, 2009
Married: 5 Years, together 8
Divorced: December 13th, 2010
New Beginning: Piper/8-3-12


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Default  Posted: 1:54 PM, June 21st (Friday)

Ok redhead, here goes:

I don't know about anyone else, but I find this a little disturbing. I'd expect to be addressed by my name, or at the very least, the name I chose for my profile. "Redhead", to me, seems like a depersonalization. It comes off as VERY awkward, especially in the context of the rest of the message. Just... weird.

I am looking for a job right now so I hope that doesn't count against me.

Maybe I'm shallow, but this would definitely be a death knell. Someone who is unemployed, to me, suggests that he has other, more important, issues to be taking care of right now. Like, say, how he's supporting himself.

Not a good sign.

Anyway, you're talking to a good guy so don't pursue me unless you really like me.

He protests a little too much, there, doesn't he?

I'd "next" this one.

Well, I've already avoided answering emails that are "one-liners" or worse....

I always HATED that, when I was doing the OLD thing. First impressions and all that - people must really think that "hey babe ur beautiful" will stand out from the rest.

I met my now-husband, then SO, on OLD (OKCupid, if you can believe it) - he sent back a weird one-liner, which normally would have warranted a "next!". However, that one line was directly related to something I had written IN my profile - and it showed me that he was PAYING attention to what I wrote.

That's what I really looked for - someone that could read!


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Default  Posted: 2:28 PM, June 21st (Friday)

OMG it's almost like you're potentially dating my exBF.

I echo this sentiment:

This is what really sticks out to me in the second email. Sorry, but if you have to tell someone you're a good guy, you're probably not.

While I'm ok with him asking the "would you relocate" question, I think his second email to you is a little...creepy. It can't hurt to give him a chance and see how things might play out, but I would proceed with caution.


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Default  Posted: 2:28 PM, June 21st (Friday)

That's what I really looked for - someone that could read!

SEE!!!! That's ME!!! I rarely email guys....but on occasion I will come across a profile that I really like...and when I email a guy...I will take the time to send something very witty and detailed about something they said in their profile or several things and comment on it...to show that I read their profile.. and to ME....that shows that I took the time and effort in reading about them....

I hope that guys appreciate that sort of thing....and not just care about the pictures....


"Sometimes your knight in shining armor ...is just a douchebag in tin foil!!"

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D day: November 15th, 2009
Married: 5 Years, together 8
Divorced: December 13th, 2010
New Beginning: Piper/8-3-12


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Default  Posted: 2:58 PM, June 21st (Friday)

I'm not going to even proceed with this one...its not worth my time and effort to pursue a "friendship" with this guy and after our few interactions.....it sounds like he may have a little baggage he should be checking before he should be dating.... IMO... but its just not something I want to deal with at this point....no thanks.

NEXT!!!


"Sometimes your knight in shining armor ...is just a douchebag in tin foil!!"

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HIM - XWH - 39
D day: November 15th, 2009
Married: 5 Years, together 8
Divorced: December 13th, 2010
New Beginning: Piper/8-3-12


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Default  Posted: 4:33 PM, June 21st (Friday)

Are you really ready for this, Shelley?? You told him in no uncertain terms to slow the hell down, he comes back and says,"Let's be friends" and you want to NEXT him??

And as for baggage, there's a lot of that to go around...

If you were still creeped out (trust your gut) or saw his unemployment as a problem, I could understand, but this sounds like you're just not ready.


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Default  Posted: 6:15 PM, June 21st (Friday)

Sometimes a really BAD beginning does not predict the future. My cousin met her SO online, and he wanted the first in person date to be a picnic in the mountains.

I was positive that he was a serial killer and was all over her with the "only meet at a public place, in the daytime, with a friend along" type of advice. He turned out to be a real sweetie.


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Default  Posted: 6:54 PM, June 21st (Friday)

Anyway, you're talking to a good guy so don't pursue me unless you really like me.

Him asking about relo right off the bat made me roll my eyes but this is a definite "no thanks" to me.


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Default  Posted: 9:39 PM, June 21st (Friday)

I'd run, those emails are creepy!


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Default  Posted: 10:01 PM, June 21st (Friday)

Sad...

I had decided BEFORE he said "Let's just be friends" that I was creeped out by him. I just didn't get a good vibe from his emails. I felt interrogated and it just didn't feel natural at all to me. I'm just going with my gut on this one!


"Sometimes your knight in shining armor ...is just a douchebag in tin foil!!"

ME - BW - 35
HIM - XWH - 39
D day: November 15th, 2009
Married: 5 Years, together 8
Divorced: December 13th, 2010
New Beginning: Piper/8-3-12


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Default  Posted: 10:07 PM, June 21st (Friday)

I personally think his emails make him sound like a guy who does nothing but hover around the online dating sites. He comes off as needy and controlling. It's all about his security, seems to me. You can do so much better.

If you're someone for whom getting together for a cup of coffee is no big deal, than skip the email screening and get the cup of coffee. It's no more of an investment than trying to decipher these strange emails.

But if you'd rather screen by email, IMHO this guy is *not* coming off well at all. He sounds like someone who would put you in an emotional vice grip.


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Default  Posted: 10:12 PM, June 21st (Friday)

I agree OnceInALifetime!

He did scream "needy" in his emails... and very insecure... he needed me to reassure him that I wouldn't break his heart and that I really liked him and it seemed like he needed concrete definitive answers on everything and it was just way too early for me to give him what he wanted. I just thought it was best for us to go our separate ways. Maybe he will be able to find a girl who lives near him that is looking for a nice smothering pillow type of relationship... but I don't need a guy telling me he loves me on the 3rd date.... and this guy kinda came across like he might be that type of guy....IDK... but I just have no desire to find out...


"Sometimes your knight in shining armor ...is just a douchebag in tin foil!!"

ME - BW - 35
HIM - XWH - 39
D day: November 15th, 2009
Married: 5 Years, together 8
Divorced: December 13th, 2010
New Beginning: Piper/8-3-12


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Default  Posted: 9:26 AM, June 22nd (Saturday)

What creeps me out is if I knew what I was sending was being scrutinized by people on forums. I know we all ask friends for advice, but maybe you need to move on to the next or feel them out a little more. I am sure you would be a real breaker if he knew you were discussing him here.

No 2x4 here, just remember some people are just awkward.


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