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Chefj9
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Default  Posted: 4:00 PM, June 21st (Friday)

and I'm OK with that.

Lord, she's still pining away and posting music in the hopes that he'll break down and go to her FB page. She talks everyday about how she just can't believe how it wasn't real and how sad she is. That she'll never love another or trust anyone ever again....

I'm having OK days, can smile again... laugh and I don't think of it 24/7. MC is going well, and fWH is making changes that I thought I'd never see. I have hope that as he stays the course to recovery that we have a future that is going to be even better than our past. I still have pain, and it's not all roses, but she's really wallowing in self pity and longing.


ME - BS 49, Him - WS 46 trying to "R"
4 DD's - blended 25, 15, 15 and 12
Multi DDays the grand finale 5/13/2013
From here on out, I am only interested in what is real. Real people, real feelings, that's it, that's all I'm intere

Posts: 470 | Registered: Mar 2013 | From: Texas
DeadMumWalking
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Member # 25341
Default  Posted: 4:02 PM, June 21st (Friday)

((((Chefj9))))

Good for her, she's a stupid POS.

I'm glad you are on an upswing, and that fWH is on board as well.

Sending R mojo your way!!

((((Chefj9))))


Me (BS), Him (WH): early 50's
3 DS: teens!!! :)
M: 24 (19 1/2 at Dday), Together 29
Dday: Dec 2008
Limbo-ish, again (after multiple S) -- weighing my options

Posts: 2587 | Registered: Aug 2009 | From: EU
Holly-Isis
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Member # 13447
Default  Posted: 4:48 PM, June 21st (Friday)

I know they say don't look at the OWs page. NC= no new hurts.

But boy- a small part of me is jealous. schadenfreude - I would have liked to see some misery in either xOw!

I'm glad you're getting stronger from this.


"Being in love" first moved them to promise fidelity: this quieter love enables them to keep the promise. *CS Lewis*

Posts: 11186 | Registered: Jan 2007 | From: Just a fool in limbo
Chefj9
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Member # 38604
Default  Posted: 4:53 PM, June 21st (Friday)

She can''t hurt me, I have taken that control back. She irritates me and makes me mad. I look at her FB page hoping to see she''s moving on. Nope, she''s stuck big time. She can''t see anything going on with us.... Except I did let one picture "slip" public that was my WH''s new tattoo. One that was clear that it was for me (a double infinity). He only has 2, this new one and my name :-)

She started posted songs about "waiting for as long as it takes". Pathetic


ME - BS 49, Him - WS 46 trying to "R"
4 DD's - blended 25, 15, 15 and 12
Multi DDays the grand finale 5/13/2013
From here on out, I am only interested in what is real. Real people, real feelings, that's it, that's all I'm intere

Posts: 470 | Registered: Mar 2013 | From: Texas
DeadMumWalking
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Member # 25341
Default  Posted: 4:57 PM, June 21st (Friday)

She started posted songs about "waiting for as long as it takes". Pathetic

and


Me (BS), Him (WH): early 50's
3 DS: teens!!! :)
M: 24 (19 1/2 at Dday), Together 29
Dday: Dec 2008
Limbo-ish, again (after multiple S) -- weighing my options

Posts: 2587 | Registered: Aug 2009 | From: EU
LivinginLimbo
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Member # 35004
Default  Posted: 5:54 PM, June 21st (Friday)

I do love the self-inflicted pity parties.


BS - 62
FWH - 60
Married 34 years
D-Day 2/12/12
Doing well with R

Posts: 1031 | Registered: Mar 2012
pewpewpew
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Member # 38116
Default  Posted: 6:18 PM, June 21st (Friday)

Ugh. She's a sad POS.
anyone that "thinks" they can be in love with someone - when that someone loves someone else - baffles the shit outta me.
Really?!
Find someone SINGLE. These AP disgust me.


ME: 30
WH: 35

Fool me once - Shame on you. Fool me twice - pack your shit and get out.


Posts: 310 | Registered: Jan 2013
Chefj9
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Member # 38604
Default  Posted: 6:38 PM, June 21st (Friday)

She actually said to me "I never thought in couldn''t trust him". I was like UH He''s married and cheating!! Does that sound trust worthy to you?


ME - BS 49, Him - WS 46 trying to "R"
4 DD's - blended 25, 15, 15 and 12
Multi DDays the grand finale 5/13/2013
From here on out, I am only interested in what is real. Real people, real feelings, that's it, that's all I'm intere

Posts: 470 | Registered: Mar 2013 | From: Texas
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