After years of knowing she had esteem and self-worth issues and accepting it - but believing she had solid boundaries and values.
After a year of that "gut" feeling screaming that something was way off.
After hearing her tell me "I'm not in love with you any more".
After months of being demonized and vilified for no rational reason.
After months of believing her need to spend the night at her girlfriends house to "think about us".
After discovering the Valentines Day "love" letter that she wrote to her adultery partner - right after I gave her the letter I wrote telling her how much I missed her.
After telling her that there may be forgiveness and a possibility of putting our family back together - and her agreeing.
After being deceived again and discovering her car at his house.
After confronting them together - as a father, not a husband - and telling them that our children are going through hell because of their selfish, dysfunctional behavior.
After months and months of being blamed for her behavior, given irrational excuses, and witnessing complete irresponsibility.
After months of separation knowing she was still seeing the adultery partner all-the-while denying it.
After finally filing for divorce from this self-deluded, dysfunctional, bag of dishonest, deceitful shit.
After her being served and finally realizing their will be a life-changing consequence for is shit-bag behavior.
After getting the tearful phone calls asking if we can reconcile.
After searching every part of my heart, mind, and soul for any iota of a chance to remain married to this woman.
I could not.
The marriage finished. The divorce is final. The family is broken. She is feels guilt, shame, remorse, and regret. My children lost the foundation from which they would have drawn their greatest strength. Now they are members of a stupid statistic.