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cuppacoffee
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Member # 39313
Default  Posted: 3:44 PM, June 24th (Monday)

How did you handle it? Did you ignore it? Did you celebrate?

We are about 6 weeks out and trying to R but I don't know how I'm going to feel when it rolls around on Sunday. It will be 12 years for us.


I'm like a vacuum bag
That holds all that old dirt
Remember that time we said we'd be together forever?
Don't hate me, don't regret me, don't ever forget me
Wherever you go, whatever you do, don't say I never loved you

Posts: 360 | Registered: May 2013
brokensunflower
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Member # 38674
Default  Posted: 3:46 PM, June 24th (Monday)

we celebrated ours he spent almost thousand dollars on me . just take it one day at a time & take it slow.. play it by ear when anniversary comes a see where your emotions are ...


me 33
him 32
5 wonderful kids 12 yrs 8 yrs 5 yrs 4 yrs and 2 yrs ..and new baby
married 10 years together for 12 yrs
working on R

my give a damn is busted


Posts: 212 | Registered: Mar 2013 | From: cold ohio
2married2quit
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Member # 36555
Default  Posted: 3:52 PM, June 24th (Monday)

6 weeks out is not much at all. We were one year out and didn't celebrate at all. Maybe next year. The A was it its highest point during our Anniversary a year ago so this year we bypassed it.


BS - Me 43 WS - Her 41
DDAY - June 2012 (found the texts)
DDAY2 - Next Day (found out who) EA
TT- till 9/2012 (some PA)
Married 20yrs. 2kids
Status: in careful R. Sometimes spinning our wheels

Posts: 1311 | Registered: Aug 2012 | From: USA
unfound
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Member # 12802
Default  Posted: 4:01 PM, June 24th (Monday)

our anniversary was a few months after dday, and it sucked. I just wanted to go about the day as any other, you know crying, curled up in a ball .

talk to your H about how you're feeling about it. let him know how you want to celebrate or not celebrate the anniversary. let him know that if you do celebrate it, that there's a chance that you might need to stop, go home, be alone etc, so have a back up plan.

knowing ahead of time and sharing what you're doing, how you might be feeling and how you'll both deal with it helps.


ka-mai
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From time to time, I do consider that I might be mad. Like any self-respecting lunatic, however, I am always quick to dismiss any doubts about my sanity. DK

Posts: 14838 | Registered: Nov 2006 | From: mercury's underboob
2married2quit
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Member # 36555
Default  Posted: 4:09 PM, June 24th (Monday)

I just wanted to go about the day as any other, you know crying, curled up in a ball

My daily routine for a year. I still get the urge to go back to that here and there.


BS - Me 43 WS - Her 41
DDAY - June 2012 (found the texts)
DDAY2 - Next Day (found out who) EA
TT- till 9/2012 (some PA)
Married 20yrs. 2kids
Status: in careful R. Sometimes spinning our wheels

Posts: 1311 | Registered: Aug 2012 | From: USA
cuppacoffee
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Member # 39313
Default  Posted: 4:11 PM, June 24th (Monday)

Yesterday was a great day. We talked and enjoyed life. I didn't even peek on her FB.

Then we were talking about something and she came up. I was crushed. Today we were able to talk it out but damn it stings and hurts.

I know he's starting to feel it all and understand what he actually did. His depression is definately making this all more difficult.

For our anniversary I'd like to go to dinner, go to the movies, and punch the COW in the face.


I'm like a vacuum bag
That holds all that old dirt
Remember that time we said we'd be together forever?
Don't hate me, don't regret me, don't ever forget me
Wherever you go, whatever you do, don't say I never loved you

Posts: 360 | Registered: May 2013
Jospehine85
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Member # 35971
Default  Posted: 5:06 PM, June 24th (Monday)

I will never celebrate our anniversary again.


Me - BS 40s
WH - 50s
4 Kids
Dday May 2012

Posts: 839 | Registered: Jun 2012
Lostinthismess
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Member # 39210
Default  Posted: 5:09 PM, June 24th (Monday)

Our 12 year anniversary was 3 days after dday.... So yeah, we ignored it. Sad that we didn't even have plans that had to be cancelled though


Dday- 4/4/13
fwh- harrypotter
'You just keep living, until you are alive again'
'I don't want perfect, I want honest'

Posts: 330 | Registered: May 2013 | From: Ca
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