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brokenhearted76
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Member # 39616
Frustrated  Posted: 10:04 PM, June 27th (Thursday)

Wow, 3 weeks out, and keep hitting lows. I have been living on this site, posting and reading like crazy. When i happen to land. On another topic in another section about std's. OMG!! I feel so stupid! The thought never occurred to me because i have been completely faithful, and the "ow" is married also, so i just assumed her hubby was faithful because he is as devestated as me. But then reality hit me like a mac truck. She cheated on her hubby with mine. Who knows how many others shes jumped into bed with! And my hubby cheated with her, how many more has he slept with that i dont know about. And he admitted they didnt use protectioon because "shes fixed", idiot! Theres more to protection then just preventing pregnancy! So..now i have to make an apt to be tested! Ontop of all the other hell they have caused me! I hate them both right now! Ive already dealt with and survived cancer, and i have fibromyalgia! And now he may have exposed me to who knows what!! Emotions are so high right now, im crying and shaking. "Wh" is at work, lucky him! Stupid stupid stupid!!! Im losing my flippin mind now. Cant get into a counselor til next week, and now have to call my doctor!! So humiliated!!!


~Me~ Blindsided wife, age 37
~Him~ XWH, age 37
~Son~ age 14
~Daughter~ age 18, special needs
~Dday~ June 4th 2013
~him: several affairs during our marriage both emotional and physical, latest physical affair in may 2013~

Posts: 85 | Registered: Jun 2013 | From: brokenhearted76
Jospehine85
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Member # 35971
Default  Posted: 11:19 PM, June 27th (Thursday)

(((brokenhearted76)))

I hope you have been reading the Healing Library. It is very helpful.

Your emotions are going to be all over the place. How is your WH behaving? Is he NC with the OW? Is he completely transparent with you? Is he patiently answering your questions?

You know, you can go to Planned Parenthood and get all your screening done if you are too embarrassed to see your regular OB/GYn.

Trust me, they see EVERYTHING there, they know all the tests to run. Then, if you do test positive for anything treatable, they can prescribe the medication. You can take the lab results for anything more "permanent" to your regular doctor.

Your WH needs to go in and be tested too.


Me - BS 40s
WH - 50s
4 Kids
Dday May 2012

Posts: 831 | Registered: Jun 2012
brokenhearted76
Member
Member # 39616
Default  Posted: 11:41 PM, June 27th (Thursday)

"Wh" has his moments. Sometimes he seems regrettful other times not so much. The affair is over and he is sticking with no contact with her, or so he says. I am skeptical. It never occured to about stds, i know i was not thinking. I am going to demand he get tested also.


~Me~ Blindsided wife, age 37
~Him~ XWH, age 37
~Son~ age 14
~Daughter~ age 18, special needs
~Dday~ June 4th 2013
~him: several affairs during our marriage both emotional and physical, latest physical affair in may 2013~

Posts: 85 | Registered: Jun 2013 | From: brokenhearted76
LifeReDefined01
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Member # 39656
Default  Posted: 10:59 AM, June 28th (Friday)

((brokenhearted76)) I just went through all of this. Confirmed with an std. Could scream, and I do, frequently. Get the full panel of tests. I'm so sorry you are having to deal with this pain on top of everything else. Sending you lots of love and light.


Me: BS 30
Him: WS 32
M: 8 years, together 13
Children: DS4, DD2
Dday: 6/21/13, ONS
Status: Working on it.

Posts: 12 | Registered: Jun 2013 | From: United States
Jospehine85
Member
Member # 35971
Default  Posted: 5:28 PM, June 28th (Friday)

(((Brokenhearted76))) make sure your WH brings you in to see the lab results and that they are explained to you also. The stuff about HIV and HEP C antibodies can be confusing.

Also, you need to go in a get tested for HPV. There is no test for men, just women.

Don't have unprotected sex until you both come back clean at least 6 months AFTER his last contact with OW. The doctor will tell you when you need to come back for rechecks.

IF your WH gives you any grief about getting tested, claiming OW wouldn't have anything and she can be trusted. Just point out that NO. She can NOT be trusted. She is a known liar.

Also point out to him that it is unlikely he is the only man she was sleeping with. It's not like he has a magic penis she couldn't keep away from.


Me - BS 40s
WH - 50s
4 Kids
Dday May 2012

Posts: 831 | Registered: Jun 2012
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