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VioletPush
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Default  Posted: 10:33 PM, June 27th (Thursday)

ETA: *waves hand* this is not the post you're looking for... Hahaha :)


I don't drink to excess that offen, but it seems like lately I do at my once a month book club. Whenever I leave there, I have an overwhelming urge to text the last guy I dated - the one who broke it off with me, the one I'm not truly over.

It's stupid. I text him while I'm sort of drunk, I tell him I've been thinking about him. His favorite show TV show is a show my friend is a regular on. So he always texts me back that he watches that show and thinks of me...

But it's crap. He's not really thinking of me, he's just thinking its cool that he has a connection to his favorite show.

I should know better than to text him when I've been drinking.... Sigh

Tomorrow I'll be stronger :). I hope!

[This message edited by VioletPush at 2:30 PM, June 28th (Friday)]


Got rid of a lot of baggage, moved across the country, and am moving on with my life!

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homewrecked2011
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Default  Posted: 2:10 AM, June 28th (Friday)

I used to call up old boyfriends every time my friends and I went out! It was before cell phones, when it was time to leave the club my friends would always go looking for me at the nearest payphone!

It's alcohol. Can you stop drinking for maybe just 6 months until you are really stronger?


me BS 52
him - 46
married 15 years DIVORCED 10 31 12
children - ds15 ds12
d-day 12-19-11
I gave a 24hour ultimatum then went to attorney next day
Divorce filed

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foreverempty
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Default  Posted: 2:46 AM, June 28th (Friday)


It's alcohol. Can you stop drinking for maybe just 6 months until you are really stronger?

That's a great idea. It's pretty much what I did to help get me through.

I realised drinking was directly associated with me feeling low and wanting contact with XWW. A break from alcohol made me stronger and also helped my AD meds do their job.

It's great for the waist line too!


Me BS: 35
Her WW: 34
D Day 5th December 2011
Current status: Filled for divorce 23rd Jan 2012. Response from WW was not to beg for forgiveness, but deleting me from Facebook.

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Sad in AZ
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Default  Posted: 8:49 AM, June 28th (Friday)

1. Stop drinking for a while.
2. Delete his phone number.


I solemnly swear that I am up to no good.

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VioletPush
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Default  Posted: 2:24 PM, June 28th (Friday)

I'm embarrassed I even posted this last night! Yes, I think I will not be drinking at next months book club :) thanks for the advice folks.

Homewrecked - your comment about your friends looking for you at the pay phones made me laugh :)


Got rid of a lot of baggage, moved across the country, and am moving on with my life!

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SBB
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Default  Posted: 11:33 PM, June 28th (Friday)

Ah, the other DUI. Dialling Under the Influence.

I was so scared of it I stopped drinking at all for several months. I wasn't scared of loving DUI's I was scared of unleashing hell DUI's.

The first night I went out I made my girlfriend change the PIN on my phone for the night. I've had a few rip-snorters since then and I'm happy to say I haven't needed anyone to 'Intervention' me. No urge to resist, I don't even think about him.

I suggest you do something similar.

Being drunk doesn't break down your boundaries, it breaks down the false barriers you have to those boundaries. Start building real boundaries and you won't need the false boundaries that are so easily knocked over.


I may have reached a point where I'd piss on him if he was on fire.... eventually!!

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