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Elaine2012
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Default  Posted: 1:49 PM, June 28th (Friday)

So today is my birthday. I was happy to see that I was wished a Happy Birthday in the Fun and Games forum! That brightened my morning!

I'm not one to announce my birthday. So really it makes no sense that I'm feeling sorry for myself. Without mentioning it is my birthday I asked a group of friends who get together most Friday evening, if we were meeting this week, turns out everyone has plans. Even if they didn't know I was still looking forward to being with friends.

With my girls all living out of state I won't be with them. Checked the mail and not a single birthday card! I did get a wish from a CC and my auto insurance company!

Last year I was with my mom for my birthday the only time in my adult life I spent my birthday with my mother. Turned out to be the last time it would ever happen.

It was after I went home that my world feel apart. I then went on to have the worst year of my entire life, bar none.

So I have decided that I will take myself out to a movie and dinner. And wish myself my own Happy Birthday! And I dream about the plans I have for a having a better year this year.

ETA: I should mention that I wouldn't have made it through this year without some of the most amazing friends that have surrounded me with love friendship and concern!

[This message edited by Elaine2012 at 2:00 PM, June 28th (Friday)]


Me- 53
WH- 57
Divorced - May 22, 2014
Dday - Blindsided July 2012
Married 35 years
4 adult DD's, 2 SIL, 3 grandchildren

Posts: 287 | Registered: Jul 2012
lostmommy
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Default  Posted: 2:17 PM, June 28th (Friday)

Happy Birthday! (((Elaine2012)))


Me (BS): 32, Mommy to J: 2 1/2 Divorced: 4/10/13
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Sad in AZ
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Default  Posted: 2:22 PM, June 28th (Friday)

It sounds like you're doing OK Have fun, enjoy yourself and make it an annual tradition. I celebrate my birthday for the entire month leading up to the day.

Happy Birthday!!


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Jrazz
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Default  Posted: 2:25 PM, June 28th (Friday)

I'm sorry, hon. Summer is a tricky time to get people together - -we're all running in so many directions.

I hope that you treat yourself to something nice today - we ALL deserve that.


(((Elaine2012)))


Cherish those who seek the truth but beware of those who find it. - François-Marie Arouet

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fallingquickly
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Default  Posted: 2:30 PM, June 28th (Friday)

((Elaine))

Happy birthday!
I go to the movies by myself and quite enjoy it. I think it's great that you will use the day as a jumping off point, visualizing your new life.

BTW, I'm a photography buff as well. I love catching moments.


Divorced and beginning my new life.


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divorcing

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I saw him, I could not unsee him. -StrongButBroken


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ladies_first
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Default  Posted: 3:00 PM, June 28th (Friday)

Checked the mail and not a single birthday card!

Birthday cards may become extinct due to the electronic age, so I wouldn't take it personally.

Have a Happy, joyous birthday.


"We must be willing to let go of the life we planned so as to have the life that is waiting for us." ~J. Campbell
"In the final analysis, it is your own attitude that will make or break you, not what has happened to you." ~D. Galloway

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Kajem
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Default  Posted: 5:22 PM, June 28th (Friday)

Happy Birthday Elaine, may the upcoming year bring you much happiness and joy.

Hugs,

K


I trust you is a better compliment than I love you, because you may not trust the person you love, but you can always love the person you trust. - Unknown
Relationships are like sharing a book, it doesn't work if you're not on the same page.

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gypsybird87
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Default  Posted: 6:39 PM, June 28th (Friday)

Happy Birthday, Elaine! Treat yourself to something decadent and enjoy just pleasing yourself today!

You are not alone. You are with your best friend, your personal cheering section, your silliest companion, the keeper of all your dreams and secrets, and your most steadfast supporter. And that is YOU.

Celebrate you and all you are!

Hugs!!!


Me: Enjoying life
Him: Someone else's problem

Life shrinks or expands in proportion to one's courage. ~ Anais Nin


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kernel
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Default  Posted: 8:11 PM, June 28th (Friday)

Happy birthday to you! And kudos for spoiling yourself a bit with dinner and a movie. If I lived near you I would totally hang with you. Instead, I'll have a drink and toast to you - here's to a new beginning over this next year - all the best Elaine!


"On particularly rough days when I'm sure I can't possibly endure, I like to remind myself that my track record for getting through bad days so far is 100% and that's pretty good."

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tesla
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Default  Posted: 8:21 PM, June 28th (Friday)

Happy Birthday! I'm drinking a beer in your honor tonight


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nowiknow23
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Default  Posted: 8:31 PM, June 28th (Friday)

Happy Birthday!!!


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- Carlos Santana


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Elaine2012
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Default  Posted: 11:18 AM, June 29th (Saturday)

Thank you everyone for the birthday wishes and the toasts!

SadinAz I like the idea of the annual tradition. Even the month long celebration would be fun.

One of the best things about the movie by myself I didn't have to share my popcorn. And I liked the movie.

gypsybird87 I'm finding this to be so true! I'm have discovered it can be about me for now. I really am getting better at cheering for myself.

You are not alone. You are with your best friend, your personal cheering section, your silliest companion, the keeper of all your dreams and secrets, and your most steadfast supporter. And that is YOU.


Me- 53
WH- 57
Divorced - May 22, 2014
Dday - Blindsided July 2012
Married 35 years
4 adult DD's, 2 SIL, 3 grandchildren

Posts: 287 | Registered: Jul 2012
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