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FaithFool
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Exclaimation  Posted: 7:31 PM, June 28th (Friday)

Following up on the last one where he was in my kitchen and I was yelling at him to get out, this morning I had another one where we were in a big sunny house, all open plan, and he had tons of friends over for some kind of gathering.

He was explaining what happened and why we weren't together anymore and why I was upset, but he was getting it all wrong.

I was yelling at them to get out get out get out, and one of them came over and gave me a big hug. She was a grandmotherly type and said we could go hang out at bookstores sometime if I felt so inclined.

I tried to retreat to bedroom but the rooms had no doors.....

Guess I'm at the "get out of my head" phase now.


DDay: June 15, 2008
Mistakenly married Mr. Superfreak
20 years of OWs, WTF?
Divorced Dec 26, 2011
"Life is a shipwreck, but we must not forget
to sing in the lifeboats". -- Voltaire

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kernel
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Default  Posted: 7:40 PM, June 28th (Friday)

Didn't you have contact from the ex recently? Maybe that's why you're having those dreams. I just had contact with my ex this past week, and I've found it still affects me in negative ways even after all this time. I spend too much time thinking of the past, and notice I'm feeling stressed when I really don't have a reason. I totally understand the "get out of my head" phase!


"On particularly rough days when I'm sure I can't possibly endure, I like to remind myself that my track record for getting through bad days so far is 100% - and that's pretty good."

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FaithFool
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Default  Posted: 7:46 PM, June 28th (Friday)

We do have occasional contact, I've let go of a lot of the hostility this year and have no feelings for him IRL.

It doesn't traumatize me to see him anymore. He's just someone I used to live with at this point. Meh.

I think my subconscious is just processing some vestigial stuff.


DDay: June 15, 2008
Mistakenly married Mr. Superfreak
20 years of OWs, WTF?
Divorced Dec 26, 2011
"Life is a shipwreck, but we must not forget
to sing in the lifeboats". -- Voltaire

Posts: 17173 | Registered: Jul 2008 | From: Canada
SBB
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Default  Posted: 11:28 PM, June 28th (Friday)

I think my subconscious is just processing some vestigial stuff.

I don't have those dreams often but I do find myself doing in the dreams what I wish I had done IRL.

Except the one where he's drowning and I'm waving at him "bye bye". I wouldn't do that. I would totally shout out for someone to save him.

[This message edited by StrongButBroken at 11:34 PM, June 28th (Friday)]


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InnerLight
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Default  Posted: 12:05 AM, June 29th (Saturday)

I have dreams where even tho IRL we've been S/D for 5 yearns I say to my x, well I guess we shouldn't be living together anymore and in my dream I wonder how I will manage.

I think there are many, many, many levels of S/D from RL to the depths of our nonconscious.

It's still progress that its just troublesome in the dream state!


BS, age 53, d-day 6-2-08, divorced after 17 years and 20 together. dating again, living in the sticks with a cat. It's taking a long time to create new dreams and a new life but it is slowly coming together.

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InnerLight
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Default  Posted: 12:05 AM, June 29th (Saturday)

Sorry DP

[This message edited by InnerLight at 12:06 AM, June 29th (Saturday)]


BS, age 53, d-day 6-2-08, divorced after 17 years and 20 together. dating again, living in the sticks with a cat. It's taking a long time to create new dreams and a new life but it is slowly coming together.

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jadasae
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Default  Posted: 1:29 AM, June 29th (Saturday)

Except the one where he's drowning and I'm waving at him "bye bye". I wouldn't do that. I would totally shout out for someone to save him

Fell off my chair laughing at this....I'm so with you on it!


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including 10 years of false R
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Divorced Dec 2011

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FaithFool
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Default  Posted: 10:29 AM, June 29th (Saturday)

IL, I totally agree. We are complicated beings, aren't we?

[This message edited by FaithFool at 10:29 AM, June 29th (Saturday)]


DDay: June 15, 2008
Mistakenly married Mr. Superfreak
20 years of OWs, WTF?
Divorced Dec 26, 2011
"Life is a shipwreck, but we must not forget
to sing in the lifeboats". -- Voltaire

Posts: 17173 | Registered: Jul 2008 | From: Canada
thebighurt
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Default  Posted: 11:42 PM, June 29th (Saturday)

The dreams I had at first of xpos were of him coming back and climbing into bed with me as I slept. I would wake up yelling and crying and realize happily that he wasn't there. Those dreams stopped when the locks were changed with deadbolts added.

One last one came as I was thinking of making a purchase and I dreamed that he told me which one I should buy and that my choice was stupid. That was the way life had been. I guess I was having a hard time realizing that it was MY choice now and no one would tell me it was stupid or wrong.

Except the one where he's drowning and I'm waving at him "bye bye". I wouldn't do that. I would totally shout out for someone to save him

Fell off my chair laughing at this....I'm so with you on it!

Laughing, too, except that I am having trouble clearing my throat enough to shout!


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thebighurt
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Default  Posted: 11:42 PM, June 29th (Saturday)

Sorry, my finger stuttered again! Danged phone!

[This message edited by thebighurt at 11:45 PM, June 29th (Saturday)]


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FaithFool
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Default  Posted: 9:02 AM, June 30th (Sunday)

I dreamed that he told me which one I should buy and that my choice was stupid.

Were we married to the same guy? I can't count the number of times he 'let' me do the grocery shopping and I would have to go back because I bought "the wrong cheese."

You can't make this shit up.


DDay: June 15, 2008
Mistakenly married Mr. Superfreak
20 years of OWs, WTF?
Divorced Dec 26, 2011
"Life is a shipwreck, but we must not forget
to sing in the lifeboats". -- Voltaire

Posts: 17173 | Registered: Jul 2008 | From: Canada
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