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shudistayorgo
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Default  Posted: 12:25 AM, June 29th (Saturday)

Dday was exactly 4 weeks ago. WH has been away this past week (just home today) from a business trip. We were supposed to do some reading and thinking.
The past month has been a roller coaster but I thought we were making some progress and the physical part of our relationship has been amazing. Well we got into arguing tonight and I told him if he was really going to be honest, I would need to have access to his phone and emails. So he gave me all the pass codes. When he went to bed, I checked the emails...nothing really there except for chats he had forwarded from a different account...
Then I went through his phone. He had taken her off of BBM but there was this other App on there called "Viber" that I hadn't heard of before. And there were chats from June 22 and again from today...as his plane was landing. And he signed it "LU"...aka "love you".

So of course I confronted him and freaked. I told him he needs to pack his shit in the morning and get out. Also out of rage I messaged OW's boyfriend on facebook and told him of the affair. And I texted her telling her she could have WH. And I also texted WH's best friend and cancelled for the weekend...explaining it was because his best friend was cheating on me with a 25year old co-worker.

I'm done.


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avicarswife
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Member # 35799
Default  Posted: 12:47 AM, June 29th (Saturday)

I'm so sorry.

Lots of hugs - keep posting so we can support you.


BS: 47 (me)
WH: 51
Married 26 yrs, 3 kids (16-24)
D-Days 2012: 23 - 24 May + TT
D-Day 2013: 12 Apr OW#3
mOW #1 EA yrs PA Feb 2009-end 2011
mOW #2 EA months PA 4 months 2010
OW #3 PA single time 2010
Status: Maybe 'R'

Posts: 726 | Registered: Jun 2012 | From: "down-under"
Ladyogilvy
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Member # 31558
Default  Posted: 3:00 AM, June 29th (Saturday)

Wow, I am so sorry you are going through this. I'm also really impressed with how you handled it. Whatever happens next... You did good!


Me: BW a youthful 49
Him: alcoholic, sober now, WH 56
Married 19 years
Two sons, 16 & 17 years old
DD? He's still keeping secrets and only admits to what I have indisputable
evidence of... the $2000 earrings he bought her for x-mas.

Posts: 1531 | Registered: Mar 2011 | From: California
Jrazz
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Member # 31349
Default  Posted: 3:03 AM, June 29th (Saturday)

Good for you for being so strong! How did he respond? Also, I think it's a good thing on a lot of levels that you told her bf. Don't ever give yourself a hard time about that. Sending hugs.

[This message edited by Jrazz at 3:04 AM, June 29th (Saturday)]


If life is just a series of ridiculous attempts to be alive, you're a hero. - J. Winger

Posts: 17529 | Registered: Feb 2011 | From: California
wannabenormal
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Member # 19772
Default  Posted: 3:24 AM, June 29th (Saturday)

I know this is hard for you, but IMO - you have done exactly the right thing.

I think we BS' often think - we don't want to rock the boat or scare WS away...but we don't realize at the time is that often they're either in or out; so showing your WS *YOU* are out (in that you won't put up with this junk; it's not HIS choice) you did what was good for you, hard as it was.

Her BF also deserves to know.

We are here for you ((Shudi))



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