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User Topic: the past frustrates me
little turtle
Member # 15584
Default  Posted: 2:22 PM, June 29th (Saturday)

Today marks 7 years from when XH started his A.

While my life is pretty awesome, I'm feeling kind of down today. I didn't even know that XH was cheating when it started. I was up north with my family getting ready to celebrate 4th of July. I found out the actual date later on. XH was with OW off and on for nearly 4 years.

I bought VIP tickets for an event tonight for SO and I. I don't feel like doing anything. I need to get out of this funk.

SO told me some semi-bad news when he got home from work a bit ago. Next month, while we're visiting his cousin (and his family) for a week, we won't be sleeping in the same bed, per his cousin's request. SO says it's just a week, but that's my time to spend alone with him. I'm already anxious about the trip. Staying with his family. I've met his cousin twice, but not his wife or kids. Part of me doesn't wanna go now. I don't know if I'm just being emotional or what.

Failure is success if we learn from it.

Posts: 4212 | Registered: Aug 2007 | From: michigan
Member # 33226
Default  Posted: 2:51 PM, June 29th (Saturday)

((((little turtle))))

You can call me NIK

"If you carry joy in your heart, you can heal any moment."
- Carlos Santana

Posts: 25848 | Registered: Aug 2011
Member # 31528
Default  Posted: 3:05 PM, June 29th (Saturday)

(((little turtle)))

I'm sorry. I can understand feeling down. While it gets easier as time passes, there are still moments where this stuff smacks me in the face. Sending you hugs and strength.

Can you and SO stay in a hotel for part of the week?

[This message edited by SI Staff at 3:06 PM, June 29th (Saturday)]

Posts: 36048 | Registered: Mar 2011
Member # 28376
Default  Posted: 5:12 PM, June 29th (Saturday)

So sorry you are feeling down. I would have to agree and ask if you can stay in a hotel?

Personally, when I am not with my kids, I don't want to be around other kid, let alone, a whole week.

Me: 44/WH (SA): 49
M: 24 years 3 kids over 10 yrs old
EA/ PA Dec. 2009 -Divorce pending

Posts: 1240 | Registered: Apr 2010 | From: Midwest
little turtle
Member # 15584
Default  Posted: 9:39 PM, June 29th (Saturday)

My kids are going to be there with us. I don't know if a hotel is an option or not. I could look into it.

Failure is success if we learn from it.

Posts: 4212 | Registered: Aug 2007 | From: michigan
Member # 36134
Default  Posted: 10:47 AM, June 30th (Sunday)


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