SurvivingInfidelity.com Forums
General
User Topic: Just so angry
PrincessPeach06
Member
Member # 39588
Default  Posted: 7:42 PM, June 29th (Saturday)

I am just so angry at WS! He has been so wonderful and honest and supportive that I almost feel bad for it. I am happy that he instantly realized his mistake but I am so angry that he let it happen! He even admitted he could have stopped it but didn't. Now I can't stand watching movies or tv where people kiss/have sex even if its not an A because all I can think about is him kissing her. I didn't ask for this and it makes me so mad!!!!!!


Me (BS): 35
Him (fWS): 36
Married 16 years 6 kids ages 15-6
DDay #1 (EA) July '08
DDay #2 (EA/ONS- different OW) May 15, 2013

Finally this is R 8/14/13

"Forgiving is a journey; the deeper the wound, the longer the journey".


Posts: 299 | Registered: Jun 2013
SisterMilkshake
Member
Member # 30024
Default  Posted: 8:28 PM, June 29th (Saturday)

(((PrincessPeach06)))

Totally understand all you are saying. Very normal for a BS going through this at this stage. You have a right to be angry! Don't stuff your feelings.

Your WS needs to know you are angry. It doesn't mean you have to rage at him, but you can tell him "I am feeling very angry at you!"

What else is your WH doing to help you feel safe and to show his remorse?


BW (me) 50ish FWH 50ish
Married 34 years, 3 children
d-day 3/10 LTA (4 yrs./fucking & flirting)

"Oh, why do my actions have consequences?" ~ Homer Simpson
"She knew my one weakness: That I'm weak!" ~ Homer Simpson


Posts: 9513 | Registered: Nov 2010 | From: The Great White North USA
PrincessPeach06
Member
Member # 39588
Default  Posted: 11:43 AM, June 30th (Sunday)

He talks me with for hours everyday - he makes time for us to walk or drive or just sit on the couch with no distractions. He answers every question I have and holds me when I cry and apologizes over and over. We have gone to MC several times and he has started taking a look at his childhood and how it led him to become the selfish cold hearted man he was. He gave up his phone, emails, Facebook acct ect and basically never leaves my side except to work. Even there I can hang out with him a lot.

Yet I am still so mad!


Me (BS): 35
Him (fWS): 36
Married 16 years 6 kids ages 15-6
DDay #1 (EA) July '08
DDay #2 (EA/ONS- different OW) May 15, 2013

Finally this is R 8/14/13

"Forgiving is a journey; the deeper the wound, the longer the journey".


Posts: 299 | Registered: Jun 2013
OnceInALifetime
Member
Member # 26023
Default  Posted: 1:23 PM, June 30th (Sunday)

Your D-day is very recent. If you weren't angry I'd be concerned you were just pushing it under the rug.

Limbo sucks, but it cannot be rushed, IMHO.


BH, now divorced

Posts: 3012 | Registered: Oct 2009
Ashland13
Member
Member # 38378
Default  Posted: 1:46 PM, June 30th (Sunday)

I'm sorry, Peach.

I've had those same triggers for months and the visions in my mind have nearly driven me mad sometimes.

Happy Pants is still with OW in "this" case and it brings fresh tears to think of them off together while I am alone...and he still married and was all the while he knew her.

Yes, HP also mentioned something like that when dday was upon us, "It was supposed to be a fling that I didn't stop." That was one of the elements that pushed me to divorce.

I'm sorry again for your pain.

It's not something I've ever felt before, even with deaths and sickness.


Ashland 13

A person is a person, no matter how small. -Dr. Suess

Perserverance and spirit have done wonders in all ages.

-George Washington


Posts: 2187 | Registered: Feb 2013 | From: New England
Topic Posts: 5