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livebythesea
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Default  Posted: 9:16 PM, June 29th (Saturday)

It has been a week now since H told me about another sexual encounter he had which started while he was doing f ... laundry. It has been a difficult, and very emotionally draining.

Last night, after reading one response, someone mention I should have a STD test done. It had never occurred to me. Naive. I spent my Saturday night at the hospital emergency unit, had a vaginal test done and told my horror story to a doctor I never met before. We will get the results in a week.


HIM - 55 (looks older by the day)
his time has come
ME - 55 (heart aged lately)
DD1 April 5 2013 (he made that one up)
DD2 April 23 2013
DD3 June 8 2013
DD4 June 22 2013
3 children
1 grand child

Posts: 181 | Registered: Apr 2013 | From: Near the ocean ... Canada
SoVerySadNow
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Default  Posted: 9:23 PM, June 29th (Saturday)

It's good you got checked. Hopefully you will have no worries.

[This message edited by SoVerySadNow at 9:23 PM, June 29th (Saturday)]


Me:BW
Him:WH
D-day(s),after years of TT and Gaslighting was Labor Day Weekend 2012, continuing for a week after. *Dammit! More TT 3/9/13
Really trending toward D- planning about it is my "happy place" now.

Posts: 1264 | Registered: Sep 2012 | From: Sunny Florida
kernel
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Member # 27035
Default  Posted: 9:34 PM, June 29th (Saturday)

I'm so sorry you had to go through that. It truly sucks. But you did the smart thing, taking care of your own health. ((livebythesea))


"On particularly rough days when I'm sure I can't possibly endure, I like to remind myself that my track record for getting through bad days so far is 100% - and that's pretty good."

Posts: 4661 | Registered: Jan 2010 | From: Midwest
Jospehine85
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Default  Posted: 11:54 PM, June 29th (Saturday)

I hope the physician explained to you that you should not have unprotected sex with your spouse until he is tested and tests negative for all STDs.

Also, I hope he mentioned when you need to come back for retesting as HIV and HepC antibodies can take some time to develop and thus test positive.

(((livebythesea)))


Me - BS 40s
WH - 50s
4 Kids
Dday May 2012

Posts: 810 | Registered: Jun 2012
Nature_Girl
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Member # 32554
Default  Posted: 1:45 AM, June 30th (Sunday)

I'm so sorry. I was so angry when I went to my test. Not embarassed, just pissed. I told everyone why I was there.


Me = BS (Stay-at-home-mom)
Him = EX-d out (abusive troglodyte NPD SA)
3 elementary school-aged kids
Together 20 years
D-Day: Memorial Weekend 2011
2013 - I DIVORCED HIM, I'M FREE!
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RBOJpIwF47Y

Posts: 8778 | Registered: Jun 2011 | From: USA
Ashland13
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Default  Posted: 11:44 AM, June 30th (Sunday)

Good for you.

It's one of the hard things, I think, because of all that this denotes.

I had to tell the obgyn when I got pregnant and they test me periodically now. Negative, thank heaven.

FWIW, I did not tell Happy Pants this and I note that he was horrified when I brought it up during false R. He flat refused and at first thought it was part of my idiot problem he apparently thought I have.

What's ironic is that he had a midlife crisis and had been bezerk about health issues prior to the A being outed, so this totally amazed me that he was flighty, bit... and worked very hard to get out of the testing.

STD's can also turn to ugly other things, from what I understand, if they are certain types or levels.


Ashland 13

The only thing that stays the same, is change. -M. Etheridge


Posts: 1965 | Registered: Feb 2013 | From: New England
solus sto
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Default  Posted: 12:30 PM, June 30th (Sunday)

I hope the physician explained to you that you should not have unprotected sex with your spouse until he is tested and tests negative for all STDs.

Also, I hope he mentioned when you need to come back for retesting as HIV and HepC antibodies can take some time to develop and thus test positive.

You state that you had testing by vaginal swab.

Was blood testing also done?

Were you advised that some diseases do not appear immediately, and that you will require blood tests, at intervals, for a period of months (or years; my doctor recommends tests for 24 months)?

Were you advised that your husband must also be tested, over a period of months?

Were you told not to engage in unprotected sex until the testing, over time, has been completed---and then, only if you are certain your husband has been faithful in the interim?

I ask, because the doctor who diagnosed my first STD did not do any of these things.

And it could have cost me my life.


BS-me, 52
WH(Mr. Trac-fone), 52, PD
2 kids-DD25, DS17
multiple d-days
DIVORCING
Alone, most strangely, I live on~Rupert Brooke

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