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c6284x
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Default  Posted: 9:57 PM, June 29th (Saturday)

UGH Is there anything worse than Facebook snooping on an ex and seeing how much fun they are having ?

Posts: 21 | Registered: Jun 2013 | From: Florida
nolight
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Default  Posted: 11:14 PM, June 29th (Saturday)

Block block block!

Posts: 462 | Registered: Jul 2011 | From: Hawaii
h0peless
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Default  Posted: 11:27 PM, June 29th (Saturday)

To be fair, if you looked at my Facebook over the past few months, you'd think I was having the time of my life. I'm not. My ex is blocked, though, so she wouldn't know either way.

Posts: 1552 | Registered: Sep 2012 | From: Arizona
missherlots
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Default  Posted: 11:33 PM, June 29th (Saturday)

yes! keeping doing it over and over. Just stop and change the channel when you get the desire to check on her.
Train your mind to do it. Look for letting go on Youtube.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=USC5MJVZLy8
hope you find peace in your heart soon
My two cents.


Pain and suffering is part of life, but I choose to feel love and compassion for all people excluding no one.

Posts: 95 | Registered: Jan 2011
foreverempty
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Member # 34426
Default  Posted: 12:50 AM, June 30th (Sunday)

I'd been doing it the last couple of months for some reason, usually at night time in bed, it always made me feel pretty crap.

I deleted my fake Facebook a few weeks ago and haven't looked since despite the desire to be a little nosey.

Delete, block, do whatever. Just try and stay strong. There's nothing stopping me starting another fake account and looking again. I just have to stay focused on not wanting to cause me any more hurt. Besides her falsely happy life isn't that enviable anyway.


Me BS: 35
Her WW: 34
D Day 5th December 2011
Current status: Filled for divorce 23rd Jan 2012. Response from WW was not to beg for forgiveness, but deleting me from Facebook.

Posts: 605 | Registered: Jan 2012 | From: United Kingdom
ButterflyGirl
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Default  Posted: 2:08 AM, June 30th (Sunday)

I'm having the opposite problem. His page is public, so I looked at it a couple weeks ago after his birthday to see who had wrote to him. After years of having 50+ people wish him a happy birthday, he had 9 people write to him, 6 were family, 1 was a friend out of state who I don't think knows about the affair, and the other 2 were other women. It made me happy so many people shunned him this year. I know, I know, I shouldn't look, but it did make me feel better..

Since he's already cheated on MOW since we separated, I think he's keeping her the dirty little secret that she is and doesn't plan on announcing their relationship publicly..

But whether it's making us feel better or worse, I really think blocking and staying away is the best thing. How are we supposed to have any fun of our own when we keep wasting our time looking at what they are doing? That's what I keep telling myself anyway. Hopefully one day it sinks in..


xBW~ 35
Two of the most darling sons ~ 10 and 6

Posts: 1990 | Registered: Feb 2013 | From: Florida, USA
canteat
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Member # 39636
Default  Posted: 5:40 AM, June 30th (Sunday)

Just today I unfriended him, his family and mutual friends that were "his". I have one mutual friend that is "mine" who is friends with him and I know she will unfriend him when I ask her. This way I can log into FB without something popping up on my page without me going looking for it. I hope it will help me to not want to snoop. I am thinking about not going on FB at all for a while-I think that may be best.


Me: BW 42
Him: WH 47
Married 9 years-together 18
Dday: 6/17/2013 EA/PA(EA 1yr/PA 6mos-OW out of state)
status: Starting R 7/22/13

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eyenight
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Member # 39488
Default  Posted: 9:01 AM, June 30th (Sunday)

I've done it. But it was to verify he was actually in a different state then what he told child support. I got my info and haven't looked since.

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newlysingle
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Member # 38735
Default  Posted: 9:18 AM, June 30th (Sunday)

STBX and OW both blocked me. I'm not interested in what they're doing anyway. Everyone's lives look fantastic on Facebook. So I wouldn't be envious of anything you see on there.


BW - Me (37)
XWH - (37) The Gnat
OW - Some dumb whore he picked up in another state and moved here here. Known as Hello Kitty.
M for 8 years, together for 10
1 DD (5), 1 DS (1 year)
Dday 3/13
Divorced 9/20/13

Posts: 808 | Registered: Mar 2013
FaithFool
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Default  Posted: 9:27 AM, June 30th (Sunday)

I made mine public so he can look all he wants. My life is FABulous.


DDay: June 15, 2008
Mistakenly married Mr. Superfreak
20 years of OWs, WTF?
Divorced Dec 26, 2011
"Life is a shipwreck, but we must not forget
to sing in the lifeboats". -- Voltaire

Posts: 17111 | Registered: Jul 2008 | From: Canada
ButterflyGirl
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Member # 38377
Default  Posted: 10:20 AM, June 30th (Sunday)

^^^ LIKE!


xBW~ 35
Two of the most darling sons ~ 10 and 6

Posts: 1990 | Registered: Feb 2013 | From: Florida, USA
foreverempty
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Member # 34426
Default  Posted: 11:15 AM, June 30th (Sunday)

One thing to point out. Don't just unfriendly them, block them.


Me BS: 35
Her WW: 34
D Day 5th December 2011
Current status: Filled for divorce 23rd Jan 2012. Response from WW was not to beg for forgiveness, but deleting me from Facebook.

Posts: 605 | Registered: Jan 2012 | From: United Kingdom
katiesmom
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Default  Posted: 12:30 PM, July 1st (Monday)

I so know what you mean! This weekend I had the pleasure of reading my newsfeed and seeing a mutual friend of mine and my ex's gushing about how much fun they had at my ex's and the homewreckers' house the other night.

She said that they are just the "best people" ...yeah right....and that she loved the food, wine and the late night high speed golf cart ride around their land. Barf!

Then she put a cutesy little picture up about how God made short people perfect and whatever other nonsense and tagged the homewrecker in it. Because she and the homewrecker are both short and perfect! How adorable!

Needless to say, my weekend was ruined after reading that. And I now have one less facebook friend!


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