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pjkmkjm23
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Default  Posted: 7:00 AM, July 1st (Monday)

I rcvd a letter last month informing me that my petition for divorce would be granted and in 30 days it would be official. Today is 30 days. I 'believe' I am divorced today!!

I am out of town and haven't got my mail in a few days so I don't know if I get mailed anything else or this is it?! Seems rather anti-climatic. After all our years M and the big deal it was to get M and all the work and celebrating....a simple signature from a judge and wait 30 days brings it all to a close!?

Well, it's Canada Day here today too so if I'm right about today this holiday will also always have another meaning to me now. I'm conflicted...it's good and bad. I'm glad to be out now but I also really meant my vows when I said them (who doesn't?!) and I didn't want my kids to go through this as I did and always promised myself I'd work hard through anything in my M instead of just giving up....as that seems the normal thing to do these days. But infidelity changes everything...and I got a double dose....and you can only take so much.

So I may or may not be divorced today...I think I am....I feel like I am. Thanks SI for being there for me throughout all of this so far


Me (BS) - 40
Her (EX) - 47
3 kids - D13, S12, D6.
M 15yrs, together ~17 yrs.
DD#1: Sept. 2004 mOM #1 (rugswept, I forgive...eventually)
DD#2: May 2012 mOM #2 (she walked-away)
Divorced: July 2013
Custody battle from hell: ongoing :-(

Posts: 273 | Registered: Jun 2012 | From: Canada
nowiknow23
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Default  Posted: 7:03 AM, July 1st (Monday)

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There's always failure. And there's always disappointment. And there's always loss.
But the secret is learning from the loss, and realizing that none of those holes are vacuums.
- Michael J. Fox


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jo2love
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Default  Posted: 10:57 AM, July 1st (Monday)

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