User Topic: Positive reaction from me
Member # 29184
Default  Posted: 2:48 PM, July 2nd (Tuesday)

I can still get knocked down by triggers occasionally and sometimes it hits me out of nowhere. I finally have been hit out of nowhere and realized I overcame a trigger.

FWH sent the OW a text once that told her how pretty she looked in a picture she had shared with him. It was that text that set me off and made me finally face the fact that something wasn't right in our M. It has made me sick for years. The thought of her going out of her way to share an intimate family moment with him. Him thinking about her in the middle of his work day. Him taking the time to take his phone out of his pocket and text her to let her know he thought she was pretty. I think you can get the picture. :) Well, this afternoon he sent me a text and said he can't stop thinking about how pretty I looked this morning in my nightgown and I smiled. I didn't trigger. I didn't go there. I smiled. It hit me about 3 hours later that I smiled and didn't trigger. It's the little things.......

Me:BS married 29 yrs.
5 kids

Time really does heal.
EA D-Day May 2008
PA D-Day May 7,2010 (same A)

Posts: 885 | Registered: Jul 2010
Member # 12802
Default  Posted: 2:52 PM, July 2nd (Tuesday)

From time to time, I do consider that I might be mad. Like any self-respecting lunatic, however, I am always quick to dismiss any doubts about my sanity. DK

Posts: 14861 | Registered: Nov 2006 | From: mercury's underboob
Member # 38879
Default  Posted: 5:01 PM, July 2nd (Tuesday)

Thanks for sharing - gives me hope.

I have similar triggers, so maybe I'll get past them as well!

BS - mid 50's
WH - mid 50's
DDay - 3/2/13 - 2:07pm
TT until 9/02/13
NC broken 4/15/14
2year+ "passionate" EA/PA

Married 30+ years and here I am. Heartbroken.
4/14 Trying to make it thru each day
9/14 - getting better. we

Posts: 217 | Registered: Apr 2013 | From: Nor Cal
Member # 6864
Default  Posted: 5:22 PM, July 2nd (Tuesday)


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