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brokenhearted76
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Member # 39616
Default  Posted: 11:45 AM, July 4th (Thursday)

Well here I am, 1 month since Dday. Happy July 4th! Yeah right. I am currently in the truck with "wh", and wanting to smack him. But I wont, hes really not worth it. I am nauseated, headache, didnt sleep at all last night. So far exactly what i expected. We are on our way to a family gathering, with his family. Yay rah! The inlaws know, and they truly support me and my kids. They have gone so far as to say that if i divorce him, so do they. The hubby is acting the part of the busted cheater, but i dont know if im buying. He says hes sorry, says he loves me, wants to fix it. But..he still deletes his msgs on his phone before he goes to sleep. But swears hes not hiding nothing. Yeah ok.


~Me~ Blindsided wife, age 37
~Him~ STBXWH, age 37
~Son~ age 14
~Daughter~ age 18, special needs
~Dday~ June 4th 2013
~him: several affairs during our marriage both emotional and physical, latest physical affair in may 2013~

Posts: 83 | Registered: Jun 2013 | From: brokenhearted76
Gipper
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Member # 32232
Default  Posted: 11:54 AM, July 4th (Thursday)

Words don't count from him at this point. Actions are all that count. Hang in there, he has a long way to go. Total transparency is the minimum.

Posts: 714 | Registered: May 2011
Jospehine85
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Member # 35971
Default  Posted: 1:25 PM, July 4th (Thursday)

Tell your WH that deleting texts is unexcusable. It won't be allowed.

Check the phone bill and see who he is texting.


Me - BS 40s
WH - 50s
4 Kids
Dday May 2012

Posts: 810 | Registered: Jun 2012
stillhere09
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Member # 24924
Default  Posted: 1:27 PM, July 4th (Thursday)


You have every right to see all messages that are on his phone. Don't tolerate him erasing messages without you seeing them.

Those who have nothing to hide hide nothing.

There can only be one reason for him to do this.

Get an online cell phone account, if you don't already have one, and monitor his texts and calls - who sends and who receives, and do so without his knowledge.


Me-50 BW
Him-55,STBXWH

Walk a Mile In My Shoes
Married 14 yrs. Now Separated & in NC
2 grown DD's - his from previous M
4 grown kids (2DS, 2DD) mine from previous M


Posts: 3020 | Registered: Jul 2009 | From: Ohio
brokenhearted76
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Member # 39616
Default  Posted: 2:19 PM, July 4th (Thursday)

I know who he is texting, and thats the problem. Its a mutual friend of ours. Yes a female. Guess no one can be trusted. Im not doing so well at this family get together. Im trying to keep to myself, but everyone keeps coming an asking if im ok. Obviously saying "im here" isnt working. Im just not happy. All i want to do is cry.


~Me~ Blindsided wife, age 37
~Him~ STBXWH, age 37
~Son~ age 14
~Daughter~ age 18, special needs
~Dday~ June 4th 2013
~him: several affairs during our marriage both emotional and physical, latest physical affair in may 2013~

Posts: 83 | Registered: Jun 2013 | From: brokenhearted76
Jospehine85
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Member # 35971
Default  Posted: 5:41 PM, July 4th (Thursday)

If the female married? Out her to her BH

Let your in-laws know that you are not ok. Tell them what he is still doing. Honey, they already know he cheated. Let them help you.


Me - BS 40s
WH - 50s
4 Kids
Dday May 2012

Posts: 810 | Registered: Jun 2012
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