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Lost_Hope
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Default  Posted: 5:28 PM, July 5th (Friday)

Just a quick recap ... back in May the OW showed up at my door.
You can read my last post to get all the wonderful details ... ugh

Anyways ... There has been no contact from her until yesterday. Tuesday was our anniversary and yesterday she was "kind" enough to text my H and wish him a Happy Anniversary and tell him she hopes he is fucking happy.

He didn't respond, but I really want to tell her to go fuck off ... should I or should I not feed the crazy??


“Marriage is three parts love and seven parts forgiveness of sins.”

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Me: BS - 36
Him: WS - 40
Married: 8 years...Together 12 yrs
Kid: SD - 14
Recent DDay: Dec 2, 2011 and again Oct 10, 2012


Posts: 169 | Registered: May 2009
Chicky
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Member # 18622
Default  Posted: 5:44 PM, July 5th (Friday)

Ignore her completely. Don't even give her a hint of satisfaction. Contacting her back will do just that. CRICKETS!!!


Half of the truth is a WHOLE lie.

Posts: 550 | Registered: Mar 2008 | From: Somewhere Over The Rainbow
LisaP
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Member # 15088
Default  Posted: 5:51 PM, July 5th (Friday)

No...you will just play into her hands.

Instead, send her a cease and desist letter demanding all activities/communications stop. State any further communications either in person, through internet, cell phone, etc... will be considered harassment at which time you will seek the advice of an attorney and/or law enforcement. Send it certified, sig required.

And if she breaks contact...have an attorney send one.

If you paper trail her...you will have a better chance of getting her to stop. My OW immediately stopped after receiving my letter stating the above.

Additionally, block her from your husbands phone. Just knowing he is receiving her messages is enough to keep her going.

Good luck!

[This message edited by LisaP at 5:52 PM, July 5th (Friday)]


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Posts: 2187 | Registered: Jun 2007 | From: Oregon
Rainbows
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Member # 39362
Default  Posted: 6:07 PM, July 5th (Friday)

Don't feed the crazy, it's exactly what she wants. Having gone through something similar fairly recently, I followed the advice I got here and didn't respond.

There was something nice about choosing not to engage the drama that made my life feel a little more peaceful.


There is always a rainbow after every storm.

Posts: 404 | Registered: May 2013 | From: California
Lost_Hope
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Member # 24170
Default  Posted: 7:58 PM, July 5th (Friday)

Thanks for the advise ... I'm not going to contact her, even though I really want to go to her house and stomp her ass to the ground!! This bitch is driving me crazy! But, I'm going to take the high road and ignore her. Hopefully one day she would move on.


“Marriage is three parts love and seven parts forgiveness of sins.”

***********************************
Me: BS - 36
Him: WS - 40
Married: 8 years...Together 12 yrs
Kid: SD - 14
Recent DDay: Dec 2, 2011 and again Oct 10, 2012


Posts: 169 | Registered: May 2009
LivinginLimbo
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Member # 35004
Default  Posted: 7:57 AM, July 9th (Tuesday)

If you have Verizon, it's very easy to block a number.

Unfortunately, the nut job whore that my H picked went and got a new phone to get around the block. It only ended after he hired a lawyer to send her a letter telling her to stop or risk arrest.


BS - 62
FWH - 60
Married 34 years
D-Day 2/12/12
Doing well with R

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