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poppy123
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Member # 28069
Default  Posted: 5:47 PM, July 5th (Friday)

Hi all! It's been a loooong while since I've been on here. I went through my "ordeal" over two years ago now. It took a long time to process everything, but I have moved on and am remarried now, to a Wonderful, Loving, Supportive man who went through similar experiences. And, we are expecting our first ( and only) child together!

One of the key things for me was making sure I had healed myself before moving into this new relationship. I tried dating before I was ready, and found myself making old mistakes. once I decided that I was going to spend some time just getting to know myself, and not " looking" for anyone to date, I was able to become the person I wanted to be. And then, when I met my husband by chance, I was ready.

Just letting you all know that new beginnings are possible, but don't try to rush it! Heal yourself Completely first. I was to the point that I was no longer mad at my exwh, and I could genuinely wish him happiness and genuinely feel nothing other than general human emotions toward him.


Posts: 75 | Registered: Mar 2010
HurtsButImOK
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Member # 38865
Default  Posted: 7:10 PM, July 5th (Friday)

What a great post! It gave me hope that in time, when I am ready, I too might get the chance to experience real love.

Im looking forward to it. So glad you have found it.


Me: Awesome - 35.... ummm, not anymore

"I’ve learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel". –Maya Angelou


Posts: 756 | Registered: Apr 2013 | From: Australia
OnceInALifetime
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Member # 26023
Default  Posted: 11:26 PM, July 5th (Friday)

Are you offering hope that one can enter into a truly loving relationship once one is healed?

If so, what's the shelf life for healing? How long do you have after a good healing before loneliness works its poison?

Or is the hope you offer even better, that one need never long for a partner again?

Pardon my curmudgeon-ness. I think I'd better go do some more healing.


BH, now divorced

Posts: 3012 | Registered: Oct 2009
OnceInALifetime
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Member # 26023
Default  Posted: 11:35 PM, July 5th (Friday)

Sorry, ignore my post.

I'm happy for you.

Maybe one day I'll find whatever the hell I'm looking for as well.


BH, now divorced

Posts: 3012 | Registered: Oct 2009
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