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aLadypilot
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Content  Posted: 11:42 PM, July 5th (Friday)

Just got married!

I got married in 1993, and just now in 2013. Ha! Just realized that.

I don't post much, so I don't expect any to know me, but just wanted to extend hope to the newer people here. I am NOT saying, "someday you will find your special someone." I mean, I certainly hope you do! But what I've learned through all this infidelity experience, and we hear it all the time, is how important healing is. I am at a very happy place in my life now, and I can say that if my new husband ever cheats on me, having gone through it before, I know that I can survive and even thrive after the experience. I am a complete person all on my own and do not NEED a partner. It is nice to have one, but I am my own soul mate.

I hope that doesn't come across as diminishing my new sweet, wonderful amazing, nearly perfect hubby, but I hope you get what I'm trying to say?


Divorced 9/2010
Just married 7/4/13

Posts: 4081 | Registered: Aug 2003 | From: Twin Cities
MovingUpward
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Member # 14866
Default  Posted: 11:47 PM, July 5th (Friday)

Congratulations!!!!!!


AKA Moo

Think of the haters in your life as sandpaper; they’ll scratch you up time and time again but in the end you’re polished, smooth, and spotless..while they end up useless

We make a living by what we get, but we make a life by what we give.


Posts: 52320 | Registered: Jun 2007 | From: Big Blue Nation
thyme2go
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Member # 12908
Default  Posted: 11:47 PM, July 5th (Friday)

Yay! You look so happy in the pictures on FB! :-)


BH - no longer 48
3 DD's - (27, 24 and 17)
Divorced on 8/6/09

Posts: 9179 | Registered: Dec 2006 | From: Eastern Washington
nowiknow23
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Member # 33226
Default  Posted: 12:05 AM, July 6th (Saturday)

Yay! Congratulations!!


You can call me NIK

"Sometimes it takes a good fall to know where you really stand."
-Hayley Williams


Posts: 25508 | Registered: Aug 2011
ThoughtIKnewYa
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Member # 18449
Default  Posted: 12:43 AM, July 6th (Saturday)

Congratulations!!

I remember you!


Posts: 11686 | Registered: Mar 2008
okaynow
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Member # 13813
Default  Posted: 12:56 AM, July 6th (Saturday)

Congratulations!!!


Married 18 yrs, together 25+.
D-day: 2/18/07.
1 child
The story doesn't really matter anymore. Time is a great healer. Life is good.

Posts: 2431 | Registered: Mar 2007
really trying
Member
Member # 5311
Default  Posted: 12:59 AM, July 6th (Saturday)

congratulations!


Me: late 40's
XH: A parasite and that might be a compliment
My S-23, Our D-15
Married 5/93 D-Day: 11/18/03
Divorced 5/19/08

The future's so bright - I got to wear shades

Plant Seeds of Kindness


Posts: 10397 | Registered: Sep 2004 | From: California
m334455
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Member # 26893
Default  Posted: 1:20 AM, July 6th (Saturday)

I say "Whoo-hoo! Awesome! Congrats! Now get the heck out of here and enjoy your honeymoon, lady!"


BW 38, 5 kids
Dday Dec. 2009

Posts: 4034 | Registered: Dec 2009
cayc
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Member # 21964
Default  Posted: 3:26 AM, July 6th (Saturday)

Yay, best wishes to you!


"The difference between involvement and commitment is like ham and eggs. The chicken is involved, the pig is committed." -Martina Navratilova
"The question isn't who is going to let me; it's who is going to stop me." -Ayn Rand

Posts: 3106 | Registered: Dec 2008 | From: Mexico
stronger08
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Member # 16953
Default  Posted: 3:39 AM, July 6th (Saturday)

I remember you well. Congrats and thanks for the update.


You cant eat soup with chopsticks.

Posts: 5675 | Registered: Nov 2007
Sad in AZ
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Member # 24239
Default  Posted: 4:17 AM, July 6th (Saturday)

Congratulations!


I solemnly swear that I am up to no good.

Posts: 20221 | Registered: Jun 2009 | From: Upstate NY
sadcat
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Member # 8637
Default  Posted: 7:47 AM, July 6th (Saturday)

Of course I remember you! Congratulations and I hope you have many happy years together.


I need not suffer in silence while I can still moan, whimper and complain.

If this isn't what I consider soulmate crap, I don't know what is.


Posts: 13248 | Registered: Oct 2005 | From: GA
cmego
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Member # 30346
Default  Posted: 8:17 AM, July 6th (Saturday)

congrats!


me...BS, 43 years old, 2 small kids
WS, 41, multiple gay affairs
M 15 years, together 17
Divorced

"For whatever we lose, like a you or a me, it's always ourselves we find in the sea" ee cummings


Posts: 4153 | Registered: Dec 2010 | From: South
jo2love
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Default  Posted: 10:12 AM, July 6th (Saturday)

Congratulations!!

I am so happy for you!


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wildbananas
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Member # 10552
Default  Posted: 10:13 AM, July 6th (Saturday)

I remember you, too... congratulations!


Travel light, live light, spread the light, be the light. ~ Yogi Bhajan

Posts: 15403 | Registered: Apr 2006 | From: Now an AZ girl
tearsofjade
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Member # 25778
Default  Posted: 10:17 AM, July 6th (Saturday)

So happy for you Congrats!!!


FBW(me)48
Divorced and really happy!
The best revenge is a life lived well!

Posts: 653 | Registered: Oct 2009 | From: michigan
I think I can
Member
Member # 17756
Default  Posted: 10:59 AM, July 6th (Saturday)

Oh wonderful! Perhaps I'll meet him this summer???


I'm not the winner, I'm the prize.

Posts: 8816 | Registered: Jan 2008
Threnody
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Member # 1558
Default  Posted: 11:16 AM, July 6th (Saturday)

Congratulations! Now I wish I'd bought that silly hat girlalmostgone and I found yesterday. I'd have sent it special, just for you.

Please tell me you played Bollywood music at your reception.


“If you don't like my opinion of you, you can always improve.” ~ Ashleigh Brilliant
"Great love requires determination." ~ tryingtwo
"Don't try to win over the haters, you're not the jackass whisperer." ~ Brene Brown

Posts: 14040 | Registered: Jun 2003 | From: Middle-of-Diddly, TX
aLadypilot
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Member # 1822
Default  Posted: 2:00 PM, July 6th (Saturday)

Ha ha Threnody, that is a great idea! As it turns out, we are saving the reception til the fall, so now I may have to incorporate that idea!

It was just us and kids, no family or friends, as we just wanted to seize the moment.

I think I can, not this year sadly. He doesn't have enough vacation time to come with us. I'll be out there the week of August 11th, just fyi.

Thank you everyone for the congratulations!

edited to fix a typo

[This message edited by aLadypilot at 2:02 PM, July 6th (Saturday)]


Divorced 9/2010
Just married 7/4/13

Posts: 4081 | Registered: Aug 2003 | From: Twin Cities
gma56
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Member # 19595
Cool  Posted: 4:06 PM, July 6th (Saturday)

I remember you when I first arrived at SI !

Congrats to both you and your husband !

Gma


BW-Divorced
It's my life now, my choices, my mistakes to make and my victories to celebrate. His choices made me free of liars and betrayers in my life. That is priceless.

Posts: 20377 | Registered: May 2008 | From: Half way to where I want to be.
NaiveAgain
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Member # 20849
Default  Posted: 5:53 PM, July 6th (Saturday)

Aaawwww! Congratulations, and thanks for the update! We haven't heard much from you lately and I had been wondering how you were doing. That is so wonderful!


Original WS D-Day July 10, 2008. Kept lying, he is gone.
New WS (2 EA's, no PA) 12-3-13
If you don't like where you are, then change it. You are not a tree.

Posts: 15241 | Registered: Aug 2008 | From: Ohio
I think I can
Member
Member # 17756
Default  Posted: 6:27 PM, July 6th (Saturday)

You are on the calendar, aLadyPilot!


I'm not the winner, I'm the prize.

Posts: 8816 | Registered: Jan 2008
WhiteWolfWinning
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Member # 12475
Default  Posted: 9:42 PM, July 6th (Saturday)

ALP,
I'm an old timer who doesn't post much these days ... but I sure as heck remember you!

I am thrilled for you. Congratulations and godspeed.

Wolf


Live simply. Love generously. Care deeply, Speak kindly. Leave the rest to God

Thank you, Lord, for the lightness of my burdens


Posts: 8233 | Registered: Oct 2006 | From: midwest
gahurts
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Member # 33699
Default  Posted: 7:45 AM, July 8th (Monday)

Congrats! Best wishes to you both!


"Strength does not come from physical capacity. It comes from an indominable will" - Mahatma Gandi

"Courage is being scared to death and saddling up anyway." - Aubrie


Posts: 3421 | Registered: Oct 2011 | From: Georgia
InnerLight
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Member # 19946
Default  Posted: 11:47 AM, July 8th (Monday)

Sure I remember. I wish you both loads of happiness. Congratulations!!!!


BS, age 53, d-day 6-2-08, divorced after 17 years and 20 together. Now I am living alone in the beautiful rural property that was once the dream retreat with X. It's taking a long time to create new dreams but despite some struggles I am mostly happy.

Posts: 5833 | Registered: Jun 2008 | From: Rural California
better4me
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Member # 30341
Default  Posted: 1:07 PM, July 8th (Monday)

Happy and hopeful stories Rock! Congratulations!!


DDay 11/17/2010 BW:52
Divorced

Posts: 3156 | Registered: Dec 2010 | From: Iowa
TrulyReconciled
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Member # 3031
Default  Posted: 2:12 PM, July 8th (Monday)

Congratulations!!! How could we forget you??


"In a time of deceit, telling the Truth is a revolutionary act."

Posts: 21168 | Registered: Dec 2003 | From: Hell and back, way back :o)
cryingdaily
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Member # 7276
Default  Posted: 2:28 PM, July 8th (Monday)


Congratulations!


Me: BS 48
Him: Doesn't matter any more.
The Royal Court, formerly known as the Princess Posse:
DD31 - Belle
DD23 - Xena
GD10 - Jasmine
GD8 - Ariel
GD Born 9/4/12 - Tink
GS Born 6/23/2014 - Little Prince

Posts: 14400 | Registered: Jun 2005 | From: Massachusetts
damncutekitty
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Default  Posted: 8:35 PM, July 8th (Monday)

Squeeeee! Congrats!


Keep calm and carry on.

Posts: 49480 | Registered: Nov 2004 | From: Minneapolis
aLadypilot
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Member # 1822
Funny  Posted: 9:07 PM, July 8th (Monday)

Awwwww, you all are so sweet! I love my SI peeps!


Divorced 9/2010
Just married 7/4/13

Posts: 4081 | Registered: Aug 2003 | From: Twin Cities
booger bear
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Member # 26584
Default  Posted: 7:04 PM, July 10th (Wednesday)

CONGRATS !!!!!!!!!!!!!


I am fiercely independent and I won’t apologize for it. I'd rather be single than settled.

Posts: 18795 | Registered: Dec 2009 | From: OK - Hot as hell here !!!!!!
TryingToBreathe
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Member # 14935
Default  Posted: 7:27 PM, July 10th (Wednesday)

Congratulations!! Of course, I remember you . . . a fellow runner.

I have to ask . . . is Mr. aLadyPilot also a runner?


Posts: 2079 | Registered: Jun 2007
aesir
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Member # 17210
Default  Posted: 5:06 AM, July 11th (Thursday)

Congratulations.

And yes, I remember you.


Your mileage may vary... in accordance with the prophecy.

Do not back up. Severe tire damage.


Posts: 14924 | Registered: Nov 2007 | From: Winnipeg
MoeGreen63
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Member # 6832
Default  Posted: 4:39 PM, July 11th (Thursday)

I'm not here much these days but it is nice to pop in out of curiousity and see that one of the "old gang" has found their new happiness.

Congrats and the very best of wishes!!!


Posts: 14112 | Registered: Apr 2005
metamorphisis
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Member # 12041
Default  Posted: 4:44 PM, July 11th (Thursday)

Many Congratulations to you!!!!



“We don't see things as they are; we see them as we are.”... Anais Nin

Posts: 44804 | Registered: Sep 2006
aLadypilot
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Member # 1822
Default  Posted: 7:38 PM, July 11th (Thursday)

I have to ask . . . is Mr. aLadyPilot also a runner?

Actually, not really. He gets some knee pains. However, he has surprised me at 6 am at the starting line of one of my half marathons! (I don't know if I'd have done that?) He rented a bike and met me at various points on the course to cheer me on. Awwwwww!


Divorced 9/2010
Just married 7/4/13

Posts: 4081 | Registered: Aug 2003 | From: Twin Cities
Mousse242
Member
Member # 6330
Default  Posted: 8:32 PM, July 11th (Thursday)

He's a great guy and I'm so happy for you two. Just remember, any problems, just call. "Chicago" will make a trip north for a visit! LMAO

CONGRATULATIONS again!!


Posts: 5473 | Registered: Jan 2005 | From: Chicago
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