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wildbananas
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Revenge  Posted: 10:30 AM, July 6th (Saturday)

Long story short, last night, ex-asshat sent away baby banana and told her she too wasn't welcome at his house. And why? Because she was so stressed out there, she melted down and cried for me and to come home.

She's 10.

And he wonders why his children can't stand him.


Travel light, live light, spread the light, be the light. ~ Yogi Bhajan

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inconnu
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Default  Posted: 10:33 AM, July 6th (Saturday)

that's just heartbreaking.(((babybanana)))


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Kajem
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Default  Posted: 10:37 AM, July 6th (Saturday)

I am sooo sooo glad she has you to come home to. While you can't take away her pain... you can show her your love, and she will know that she is worthy of love, kindness and respect because you will teach her that.


Can I nominate him for the Biggest Dick Award? He has some stiff competition....
Hoping ^^^^made you smile just a wee bit.

Don't forget ... The Banana's ROCK.


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GabyBaby
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Default  Posted: 10:43 AM, July 6th (Saturday)

What an ass.
I feel so bad for Baby Girlnana. Big hugs to her.

Thank goodness she has you, WB.


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Sad in AZ
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Default  Posted: 11:00 AM, July 6th (Saturday)

t/j:

Can I nominate him for the Biggest Dick Award? He has some stiff competition

Kajem, you're killin' Smalls; you're goddam killin' me!

I'm sorry, wb; he is indeed a dick. You're girls are such dolls; his loss.


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wildbananas
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Default  Posted: 12:39 PM, July 6th (Saturday)

Can I nominate him for the Biggest Dick Award? He has some stiff competition

And thanks... she's a pretty good kid. I like her (and her sisters) a little bit.


Travel light, live light, spread the light, be the light. ~ Yogi Bhajan

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jo2love
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Default  Posted: 1:07 PM, July 6th (Saturday)

(((baby banana)))

Poor little banana. How's she feeling today?


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OnceInALifetime
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Default  Posted: 1:22 PM, July 6th (Saturday)

10 years old?

I'm glad you see his behavior so clearly for what it is.


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nowiknow23
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Default  Posted: 1:54 PM, July 6th (Saturday)

(((((babynana))))) I'm sorry he's such an ass.


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aLadypilot
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Default  Posted: 2:03 PM, July 6th (Saturday)

What a POS!


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kernel
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Default  Posted: 2:08 PM, July 6th (Saturday)

What an ass. I can never understand people that treat their own children so badly. Then they blame the kid for it. My heart hurts for her. Don't forget to document, document, document.

I just want to give her a hug. (((baby banana)))


"On particularly rough days when I'm sure I can't possibly endure, I like to remind myself that my track record for getting through bad days so far is 100% - and that's pretty good."

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wildbananas
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Default  Posted: 6:48 PM, July 6th (Saturday)

She's okay, jo... she's actually in a pretty good mood right now. I think she's relieved she doesn't have to go back there anymore. Sad but I'm glad she's okay for the moment.


Travel light, live light, spread the light, be the light. ~ Yogi Bhajan

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BrokenPieces
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Default  Posted: 7:08 PM, July 6th (Saturday)

What a turd... I'm so sorry for your sweet nana girl.


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jo2love
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Default  Posted: 8:24 PM, July 6th (Saturday)

I'm glad she's doing ok. So glad she has the best banana in the bunch as a momma.

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persevere
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Default  Posted: 3:19 AM, July 7th (Sunday)

This is not ok - he's a fuck head...but I'm glad she's doing better....

And he totally deserves the biggest Dick award....


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gahurts
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Default  Posted: 8:54 AM, July 7th (Sunday)

He's told your girls that they are not welcome in his home? Then the best thing is for you to help them grow and thrive without him. They will be much better off without all that stress.


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missherlots
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Wink  Posted: 1:05 PM, July 7th (Sunday)

you do not worry. he is setting his own bed for the future.

He will regret it later and it will be too late, besides they have you!!!!

Hug her and tell her how much you love her. she will remember it for the rest of her life.
my two cents

[This message edited by missherlots at 1:05 PM, July 7th (Sunday)]


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hurtinky
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Default  Posted: 1:17 PM, July 7th (Sunday)

Wow. What an idiot.

Can you get your custody agreement changed? He doesn't sound mature or stable enough to care for children.
I'd be concerned about him having any overnights with the kids.

Sounds like a selfish, stupid, childish, immature f*ck up to me.


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better4me
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Default  Posted: 3:15 PM, July 7th (Sunday)

Poor thing! Glad she's feeling better today and I'm really really really glad she's got you for a mama!


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willowiris
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Default  Posted: 9:38 PM, July 7th (Sunday)

Your poor baby girl. I want to kick him in the balls. So sorry, sweetie.


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She11ybeanz
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Default  Posted: 8:34 AM, July 8th (Monday)

What an ASSHOLE!!! Poor baby banana!!! I just want to huggle her...


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ajsmom
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Default  Posted: 9:46 AM, July 8th (Monday)

And he does it again!

So why am I not shocked?

Grrr...what a douche.


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NaiveAgain
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Default  Posted: 4:51 PM, July 9th (Tuesday)

Aawwwww What an ass. I'm so sorry your babies have to deal with an idiot for a father.


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Jrazz
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Default  Posted: 5:12 PM, July 9th (Tuesday)

3 strikes, right??

I'm literally angry/crying right now.

Baby Banana is so sweet and kind.... this effing sucks.

Thank GOD for you, wildbananas. Your kids have love and stability in abundance from you. More than enough to make up for asshat.

URGH!!!


It is better to be slapped with the truth than kissed with a lie. -Russian Proverb

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Default  Posted: 5:28 PM, July 9th (Tuesday)

As awful as it all is, this is probably best in the long run for all of you bananas. He can't even be grown up enough to be a father to is children? Then he shouldn't be. You are all better off without his drama.


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wildbananas
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Default  Posted: 12:32 AM, July 10th (Wednesday)

Thank you, all... she's trying to stay happy and positive but it's eating at her. Poor thing, I wish I could make it better for her. She really is such a joy. All the girls are.

He has no idea what he's missing.


Travel light, live light, spread the light, be the light. ~ Yogi Bhajan

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Kajem
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Default  Posted: 8:52 AM, July 10th (Wednesday)

He has no idea what he's missing.

No he doesn't. And it truly is his loss.

DD22 (has not talked to her father in a year) told me the other day - she feels better about herself than she has in a long long time and she realized that she doesn't need him in her life. She is also OK - no better than OK because she isn't waiting for the other shoe to drop like it always seems to with XH.

She wondered if she was addicted to the drama that XH/NW bring? I think so... Thank God she sees this.. because the drama he caused.. was affecting the serenity in my space. I HATED that.

WB.. I am hoping your girls (whom all sound lovely) get some drama free time and space to see just how toxic his koolaid can be.

Hugs for you, cause it is so hard to be the stable parent and watch the push away/draw in games happen. I feel for you.

More hugs for you girls too.

K


I trust you is a better compliment than I love you, because you may not trust the person you love, but you can always love the person you trust. - Unknown
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Default  Posted: 10:29 AM, July 10th (Wednesday)

The fact that he considers it *his* home and not *their* home (as a family) tells me everything I need to know about him. Asswipe.


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MoeGreen63
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Default  Posted: 1:42 PM, July 10th (Wednesday)

He's decided to pass on the best thing about being alive. His loss.

She'll be fine and one day she'll even forgive him, but he'll never get back these precious moments in time that he's chosen to miss.


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