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Dreamboat
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Default  Posted: 10:14 PM, July 6th (Saturday)

I was texting with my DD tonight and I used ;-P

She told me that I was too old to use smiley faces. she said that no one over the age of 13 used smiley faces anymore ...

Later I texted her LOL. And she promptly told me that I was WAY too old to use acronyms. So I texted back roflmao

geez


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So shake him off
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jrc1963
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Default  Posted: 10:26 PM, July 6th (Saturday)

Well... to your DD... I'm way old and I LOL and :-) all the time!!!

BTW I GTG b/c it's


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Him: FWSO - 69
DS - 13
D-Day - 12-11-09,
R - he finally came home
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jrc1963
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Default  Posted: 10:27 PM, July 6th (Saturday)

PS: I'm just teaching my DS how to text... well, he's been text for just 'bout a year now and he thinks I'm cool!!!


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Him: FWSO - 69
DS - 13
D-Day - 12-11-09,
R - he finally came home
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sad12008
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Default  Posted: 10:37 PM, July 6th (Saturday)

I've heard similar, Dreamboat; my response was similar, too....

I'm too old to change...or better, I'm old enough to not care whether I'm too old or whether anyone else does it or what they think about those who do. It sure takes a tough hide and a good sense of humor to survive adolescence!

[This message edited by sad12008 at 10:37 PM, July 6th (Saturday)]


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nowiknow23
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Default  Posted: 10:41 PM, July 6th (Saturday)

My DS rolls his eyes at me all the time because I not only spell things out (correctly) when I text, but I also use punctuation and form complete sentences. Deal with it, Boy.


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Mama_of_3_Kids
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Default  Posted: 10:45 PM, July 6th (Saturday)

I'm not old, I'm legendary (the kids at camp said so ) and I still use smiley's


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Dreamboat
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Default  Posted: 12:00 AM, July 7th (Sunday)

I'm not old, I'm legendary

Mama, I LOVE that!!!!! I will definitely use that in the future


And it's hard to dance with a devil on your back
So shake him off
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metamorphisis
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Default  Posted: 7:37 AM, July 7th (Sunday)

I texted my daughter (16) the other day with "k". She texted back "Don't "k" me, it's dismissive and rude".



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KBeguile
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Default  Posted: 7:54 AM, July 7th (Sunday)

NIK, should we start a club for "proper texters"? We could wear top hats, monocles, bushy mustaches for the men, and all talk in stuffy British 1800s accents.


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authenticnow
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Default  Posted: 8:11 AM, July 7th (Sunday)

DS and I will have emoji texting contests. (Unofficial, but you know when one of us starts with them, it's ON!).

For example, I'll text him, 'What's up?' and he'll say, 'NM, just walking around in the city', and he'll put in a few emojis, like a taxicab, a bus, and throw in a police car for good measure.

I'll text back, 'I'm sitting on the porch enjoying the fresh air' and try to impress him with a bird, a tree, a few flowers.

He comes back with, 'I'm getting some lunch soon', and throw in a whole bunch of food pics.

It goes on until one of us gets tired of it. It has become quite the competition between us. I know I'm way cooler than he is, he just won't admit it.


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nowiknow23
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Default  Posted: 8:54 AM, July 7th (Sunday)


You can call me NIK

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-Hayley Williams


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mainlyinpain
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Default  Posted: 9:15 AM, July 7th (Sunday)

I text my son k all the time

He said something about maybe Springsteen sang that song better than me and I should just leave it that way (I love to sing around the house, he doesnt love to listen)

I started texting back "Potassium" to his texts

Took him awhile to figure it out


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nowiknow23
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Default  Posted: 9:42 AM, July 7th (Sunday)

I started texting back "Potassium" to his texts


You can call me NIK

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letitout
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Default  Posted: 9:52 AM, July 7th (Sunday)

I need to learn how to text. I'm way behind times. My 17 yo DD won't answer her phone any more, just texts.

Actually drives me crazy, all the time, in the car, at stores, walking, eating, in the bathroom! When we are having a conversation. Constant! I personally think her texting is being quite rude to me. I got to be strong and have her suffer without it for a few minutes while we talk.

What is "k" is that short for "okay". Any other things I should know? Before I start on this texting adventure?


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nowiknow23
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Default  Posted: 10:07 AM, July 7th (Sunday)

Yes - k is short for ok. Because two characters are TOO MANY!

Similarly:
U = you
R = are

Texting uses a language all it's own. And it will make you fear for the literacy of those "darn kids these days."


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SweetheartVixen
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Default  Posted: 10:34 AM, July 7th (Sunday)

This isnt text related but similar. My DD told me the day of my sons wedding I was WAY to old to wear a toe ring. She said anyone over 40 should never wear one.

Guess what. Shes over 40 now and yep she wears toe rings all the time lol.


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letitout
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Default  Posted: 12:14 PM, July 7th (Sunday)

k, so i just typed my first text to DD while she was sitting here texting to her boyfriend. She laughed at the k. I put a smiley in also. Gotta get me one of those toe rings.


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2 years of prostitutes.

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nowiknow23
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Default  Posted: 12:16 PM, July 7th (Sunday)


You can call me NIK

"Sometimes it takes a good fall to know where you really stand."
-Hayley Williams


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authenticnow
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Default  Posted: 12:23 PM, July 7th (Sunday)

You go, letitout!


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kernel
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Default  Posted: 12:40 PM, July 7th (Sunday)

I started texting back "Potassium" to his texts

*snork*

Love it!


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aesir
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Default  Posted: 1:25 PM, July 7th (Sunday)

I take it Oklahoma would be for more formal communications.


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tushnurse
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Default  Posted: 2:11 PM, July 7th (Sunday)

I too am a proper English texter. I refuse to respond to my kids if They opt to text me using texteese.

I tell them in the real world if you sen messages, emails etc using texteese they will not be considered seriously. I know that when I receive stuff like that from coworkers or subordinates I don't take them seriously.


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itainteasy
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Default  Posted: 11:06 AM, July 8th (Monday)

No textese here either.

I will use "LOL" and I do use smileys though.

If someone texts me a message that lQQkz lyke dis I do not respond until they text again using English.


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TrulyReconciled
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Default  Posted: 11:10 AM, July 8th (Monday)

I'm not old, I'm legendary (the kids at camp said so )

No ... they said you were a legend in your own mind ...


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UndecidedinMA
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Default  Posted: 11:31 AM, July 8th (Monday)

I alawyas told mine when he said I was too old or embarassing him:

It can always get worse!


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Rebreather
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Default  Posted: 1:31 PM, July 8th (Monday)

Yes, my 14 yo son tells me it is weird when I use lol or a smilie. I keep explaining to him I've been texting much longer tha he has!


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unfound
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Default  Posted: 1:46 PM, July 8th (Monday)

I too am a proper English texter. I refuse to respond to my kids if They opt to text me using texteese.

same here.

sometimes though I'll respond with their original text correctly spelled out, other times I'll just respond with a random picture of my foot or a light switch.

unfoundling: "wht??? that mks no sense!"

me: "neither does your text, buy a vowel".

I do think that LOL and such has been around long enough that it's acceptable and understood and no longer cool or uncool. it just *is*. meh.

although when I got a phone that had emoticons on it, I could hear my kids eyes rolling when I texted them .

[This message edited by unfound at 1:47 PM, July 8th (Monday)]


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lieshurt
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Default  Posted: 2:03 PM, July 8th (Monday)

other times I'll just respond with a random picture of my foot


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Default  Posted: 2:20 PM, July 8th (Monday)

I love txting, been doing it since the start. For me, the txting makes sense because.....
I took and used shorthand for work years ago. To me txting is just like shorthand.

My kids don't like that I use "k". But it is ok to use r, u, 2 etc? Not sure why.


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shatteredheart7
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Default  Posted: 2:42 PM, July 8th (Monday)

I am getting a big laugh out of this. My kids, including my dd's boyfriend of over 2 yrs, get on me all the time because I will be lecturing them by text and get tired of saying the same things over and over so I will say something like this; what did I tell you about not letting me know what you were going to be doing after work? You know how that upsets me..., instead of having to complete my sentence over and over again. In response I get; you and those stupid dots!!! So now I do it ALL the time, just between sentences for absolutely no reason other than I know it pisses them off!

I love the idea of texting them back potassium, I'll have to use that next time because they also hate when I say K. My oldest dd actually writes it out, Okay, in her texts.lol

Paybacks are a bitch kids...and your momma can be too! I figure this is the most harmless way I can get revenge for their teenage yrs! Lmao!


Me~40
FWH~46
Married 8yrs
Together 11 1/2
Me~ 3 kids, 21,17,14
Him~no kids
A with a mutual "friend" for 2+yrs
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A was over 2/12
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wincing_at_light
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Default  Posted: 3:01 PM, July 8th (Monday)

If you want to text me, you play by my rules and like it...otherwise, you can fucking call like a grown-up.

That's my philosophy on texting.

Oh, that and "any text exchange that goes beyond 5 texts had better be foreplay for sex, otherwise you're just trying to pissing me off."

If whatever it is can't be said in 5 text messages, it's likely too important for you to be thumb-typing it to the fucking cellphone I leave in Jeep 90% of the time anyway.


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unfound
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Default  Posted: 3:09 PM, July 8th (Monday)

also, the kids texting me when we're both in the same house . wal's head would probably explode .

[This message edited by unfound at 3:10 PM, July 8th (Monday)]


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jrc1963
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Default  Posted: 3:35 PM, July 8th (Monday)

WAL - FWSO and I text each other when we're sitting on the same couch...


Me: BSO - 46
Him: FWSO - 69
DS - 13
D-Day - 12-11-09,
R - he finally came home
Your life is an Occasion. Rise to it. - Mr. Magorium, "Mr. Magorium's Wonder Emporium"

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want_to_forgive
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Default  Posted: 3:31 AM, July 9th (Tuesday)

This is so inappropriate but it made me laugh (it's from damnyouautocorrect.com, if you haven't seen it you have to!)

College age daughter is trying to text her boyfriend but accidentally texts her mom: "I want to see you tonight, I am DTF"

Mom texts back: "what is DTF?"

Daughter, realizing her mistake, texts back: "down for food!"


M 11 years
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DDay June 2006, LTA BFFOW
Divorced April 5, 2013
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Bluebird26
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Default  Posted: 6:04 AM, July 9th (Tuesday)

My ds who is 14 tells me if I am going to write LOL I better be laughing out loud. I use smilie faces or abbreviations I get NO mum just don't and the facepalm. So now I do it just to annoy him


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