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User Topic: I only cried 4 times today...
Member # 39707
Default  Posted: 10:15 PM, July 6th (Saturday)

..and I'm calling that progress!!
Yeah, the day isn't quite over but, that is the lowest count since Dday so, seems like a milestone or something.

Now who is going to bake me a cake or something?

Me: BS
Him: doesn't matter anymore...or does it...

Being very, very careful

D-day 14 June 2013

I'm smart, good looking and gosh darn it, people like me!

Posts: 155 | Registered: Jun 2013 | From: trying to figure it out
Member # 22870
Default  Posted: 10:17 PM, July 6th (Saturday)

Woohoo!! That's progress. Keep going!

You can stuff your sorries in a sack, mister. -George Costanza
There is a special place in hell for women who don't help other women. - Madeleine Albright

Posts: 7427 | Registered: Feb 2009 | From: Western PA
Member # 39169
Default  Posted: 10:18 PM, July 6th (Saturday)

We take our victories where we can! Sending you a virtual cake!

40 somethings - me BW after 20 years
D Day April 2013
Divorced November 2013

Be happy with what you have while you work for what you want - Hellen Keller

Posts: 616 | Registered: May 2013
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Member # 39319
Default  Posted: 10:42 AM, July 7th (Sunday)

It takes time. I cried everyday for a few weeks then only a few times a week. Now I only cry when I talk about it (and occasionally when I think too much). Take your victories as they come, I'm baking you a cake now, decorated with a huge smile.

Me - 25
FWH (BF at the time of A) - 27
DD - 10 weeks
His other daughter - 1 1/2

DDay - May 9

"You are strong and brave." - My fortune shortly after DDay, the cookie knew just what to say.

Posts: 19 | Registered: May 2013 | From: Tennessee
Member # 24938
Default  Posted: 11:13 AM, July 7th (Sunday)

That is progress.

I cried every day, most of the day for a year after d-day! I was traumatized by his LTA.

Then it was once a week for another year....and gradually, because my FWH was doing everything he could to help with the R it kept getting better.

I would love to bake you a cake! Things may seem bleak now but they will get better.

It just takes time.

Me- BS
Him- WH
Long term marriage
D-day- Jan. 2007
5 yr. LTA

Posts: 3151 | Registered: Jul 2009 | From: NJ
Member # 35812
Default  Posted: 11:30 AM, July 7th (Sunday)

Welp, I tried, but it didn''t come through. But congratulations anyway!

[This message edited by Skan at 11:31 AM, July 7th, 2013 (Sunday)]

Imagine a ship trying to set sail while towing an anchor. Cutting free is not a gift to the anchor. You must release that burden, not because the anchor is worthy, but because the ship is.

D-Day, June 10, 2012

Posts: 4585 | Registered: Jun 2012 | From: So California
Member # 39616
Default  Posted: 12:42 PM, July 7th (Sunday)

Huge hugs!! Take every victory no matter how small!! Ive thought the tears were never going to stop. Then for a few hours they would. Its only been a month and a few days since dday for me. And still there are days that all i wanna do is cry.

~Me~ Blindsided wife, age 37
~Him~ XWH, age 37
~Son~ age 14
~Daughter~ age 18, special needs
~Dday~ June 4th 2013
~him: several affairs during our marriage both emotional and physical, latest physical affair in may 2013~

Posts: 84 | Registered: Jun 2013 | From: brokenhearted76
Member # 36813
Default  Posted: 1:05 PM, July 7th (Sunday)

That really is progress! I know it's hard, but try and focus on the positives. There will soon be days that you don't shed any tears, and also days you might actually put the A out of your mind for a whole day! It's so consuming in the beginning! Hang in there!

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