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soveryweary
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Member # 32265
Default  Posted: 5:00 PM, July 7th (Sunday)

I politely asked when he would tell his family since I am extremely close to my mother in law and his sister is one of my closest friends. He said, "Sovery, I don't feel the need to tell right now. I eventually will tell Larry, moe and curly.(his three best friends), since they are who I see the most."
He has always been eh about his family, the sun rises and sets on his one best friend.
His total lack of regard for the members of his family is appalling on so many levels.
WHO IS THIS MAN????
I just pray my heart catches up with my head soon. I am my user name.


Divorced 1/3/14

Posts: 627 | Registered: May 2011
hurtbs
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Member # 10866
Default  Posted: 5:30 PM, July 7th (Sunday)

Big hugs (((sovery)))

Has he always been an avoider? Sounds like that's what he's doing.


Me BW Him XSAWH
DDays 2006, and then numerous more
Divorced 2012

"In life, unlike chess, the game continues after checkmate." - Asimov
"Be patient and tough; someday this pain will be useful to you." - Ovid


Posts: 15325 | Registered: Jun 2006
inconnu
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Member # 24518
Default  Posted: 5:45 PM, July 7th (Sunday)

(((soveryweary)))

I ended up being the one who told my (now-ex) mil & fil, 4 months after I filed for divorce, and after now-ex was already living with OW. I think they knew he wasn't living at the house, but they didn't know about the divorce. I viewed it as yet more more of his messes I had to clean up, as if I hadn't had enough to deal with at the time.


Say what you wanna say and let the words fall out...honestly
I wanna see you be brave

Pretty pretty please, don't you ever ever feel
Like you're less than, less than perfect


Posts: 12150 | Registered: Jun 2009 | From: TX
GabyBaby
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Member # 26928
Default  Posted: 5:46 PM, July 7th (Sunday)

XWH didn't tell his family either. I emailed my ex-MIL when I filed. I never heard from her or their side of the family again.
I can't say that I'm real choked up about it either.


Me - 40s
SorryInSac - WH#2 - 40s. DDay 7/12/14
Married 4, together 7yrs total
Status - ??

DD(21), DS(18, PDD-NOS)
6 Furkids - 4 dogs, 2 cats

WXH (serial cheater, 12+ OW)
Legally married 18yrs, together 16.5yrs

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Posts: 6443 | Registered: Dec 2009 | From: California
peridot
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Member # 18334
Default  Posted: 6:00 PM, July 7th (Sunday)

If it ever comes up or they start asking you questions, you should tell the truth. You also shouldn't hide anything.


I think...therefore, I'm single.

It is what it is.


Posts: 4780 | Registered: Feb 2008
fraeuken
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Member # 30742
Default  Posted: 12:41 PM, July 9th (Tuesday)

I had to tell too. He was too much of a coward to do so. Don't lie for him, if it comes up, tell.


Temporarily independent with the whole world at my feet.

Posts: 1255 | Registered: Jan 2011 | From: California
soveryweary
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Member # 32265
Default  Posted: 1:21 PM, July 9th (Tuesday)

I'm avoiding them as best I can because I don't want to p him off before all is said and done. Just went to the lawyers yesterday. He's being nice, but I can see he's starting to lose it. His mask came off and I'm the one who sees that.


Divorced 1/3/14

Posts: 627 | Registered: May 2011
doggiemom12
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Member # 36041
Default  Posted: 4:56 PM, July 9th (Tuesday)

I told everyone. Not my secret to keep. He didn't like it but too bad.

He made alot of noise and threats but he did nothing. A coward through and through.


White bird must fly or she will die . . .

Posts: 268 | Registered: Jul 2012 | From: in divorce land
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