User Topic: How do you know?
Member # 33628
Default  Posted: 6:25 PM, July 8th (Monday)

How do you know if you don't love your W anymore? Is it a feeling? A lack of feeling? How do you know that the love is gone?

EA 18 years ago - found out and ?NC
LTA - 2005-2011 with same woman
DD 2011

Posts: 343 | Registered: Oct 2011
Member # 22870
Default  Posted: 6:29 PM, July 8th (Monday)

I knew that I was done with the marriage when the thought of staying with him was unfathomable, and the thought of being alone was not scary at all.

I would rather be alone than with the soul crushing experience of living with an unremorseful spouse.

You can stuff your sorries in a sack, mister. -George Costanza
There is a special place in hell for women who don't help other women. - Madeleine Albright

Posts: 7765 | Registered: Feb 2009 | From: Western PA
Member # 33867
Default  Posted: 6:29 PM, July 8th (Monday)

I would thing that there would be nothing love, no hate ~ just nothing over an extended period of time.

ME: 54 BS
HIM: 61 WH
Married: 28 years
D'Day: 10/29/10
in R 4 years and it's working but he is putting 200% into it (as he should) to make it right again.

The truth hurts, but I have never seen it cause the pain that lies do.

Posts: 2122 | Registered: Nov 2011
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Member # 39776
Default  Posted: 6:29 PM, July 8th (Monday)

I think it's a lack of a feeling. When you look at them (with plenty of effort and time having passed) and you feel nothing. Any feeling is something.

BW (me) - 40
WH (him) - 42
Children - 1 DS(9), 2 DD (6,2)
OW - married with DD (7)
DD - 7/6/13

Posts: 42 | Registered: Jul 2013
Member # 34827
Default  Posted: 7:03 PM, July 8th (Monday)

Gosh what a great question. I thought I was done with the love "thang" with ws but these posts above say maybe not. I don't know if its my co dependent self or if I still care. It's hard for me to not like someone but sounds like its just total indifference..Dammit guess I'm not there yet. I still care, I still want to do things that make him smile, not all the time but more than I should. My question would be...when does it end. I want to feel nothing but can't.
Been with him over half my life
DD1 10-01-09 DD2 02-12-12 discovered it never ended
OW..nothing special. Just your average skank

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