User Topic: I just found this
Member # 34697
Default  Posted: 9:41 PM, July 8th (Monday)

in a box of junk I was cleaning out:

My Dearest Wife,
In my darkest moments at the depths of my own depravity, no matter how hopeless I feel, I find comfort knowing you stand beside me. I love you desperately, enduringly, and without condition. And every now and then you need to hear it.

Your faithful and adoring husband.



I got a mind to send it to stripper whore...but she can barely fucking read.

It was always about him, about his crisis, about his struggle, about all the shit in his life that he overcame. He was going to be the guy that made it out of a horrible childhood. He was going to be a truly self-made man.

Darkness and depravity reclaimed him. They pulled him under. And thank god I cut the rope before they claimed me too.

Wow, it's like D-day rage all over again.

"Thou art the son and heir of a mongrel bitch." --King Lear

Posts: 4687 | Registered: Jan 2012 | From: Indiana
Member # 33226
Default  Posted: 9:43 PM, July 8th (Monday)


You can call me NIK

"If you carry joy in your heart, you can heal any moment."
- Carlos Santana

Posts: 25774 | Registered: Aug 2011
Member # 33698
Default  Posted: 9:48 PM, July 8th (Monday)

Ugh. I hope that's the last of what you find. I hate things that trigger rage, an emotional setback, etc.


BS (Me) 39
Happily liberated!
Two DS and One DD
It matters not how strait the gate,/How charged with punishments the scroll./I am the master of my fate:/I am the captain of my soul.--"Invictus," William Ernest Henley

Posts: 3620 | Registered: Oct 2011
Member # 23890
Default  Posted: 9:50 PM, July 8th (Monday)

F.T.G. is right!

Let the anchor sink into the mud, entrench itself in the mire at the murky bottom!

Sail on Tesla! Sail on!

"We must be willing to get rid of the life we've planned, so as to have the life that is waiting for us." Joseph Campbell...So, If fear was not a factor - what would you do?

Posts: 4135 | Registered: May 2009 | From: New England
Member # 36134
Default  Posted: 9:52 PM, July 8th (Monday)


Deep Breath and again....

I trust you is a better compliment than I love you, because you may not trust the person you love, but you can always love the person you trust. - Unknown
Relationships are like sharing a book, it doesn't work if you're not on the same page.

Posts: 5282 | Registered: Jul 2012 | From: Florida
Member # 32554
Default  Posted: 9:55 PM, July 8th (Monday)

I bet that card made him feel really good about himself.

IT's all about him.


Me = BS (Stay-at-home-mom)
Him = EX-d out (abusive troglodyte NPD SA)
3 tween-aged kids
Together 20 years
D-Day: Memorial Weekend 2011

Posts: 9827 | Registered: Jun 2011 | From: USA
Member # 36599
Default  Posted: 10:18 PM, July 8th (Monday)


Divorced and beginning my new life.

2 Ddays and lots of TT

Scars remind us where we've been. They don't have to dictate where we're going. (Criminal Minds)

I saw him, I could not unsee him. -StrongButBroken

Posts: 453 | Registered: Aug 2012
Member # 34697
Default  Posted: 10:41 PM, July 8th (Monday)

I just had me a little FTG bonfire. Under a crazy ass lightening storm. I may even have ranted a little.

"Thou art the son and heir of a mongrel bitch." --King Lear

Posts: 4687 | Registered: Jan 2012 | From: Indiana
Member # 25957
Default  Posted: 10:45 PM, July 8th (Monday)

Oh tesla! Hugs to you.

It's so painful to be reminded of what was promised and subsequently undelivered.


Posts: 1274 | Registered: Oct 2009
Member # 38271
Default  Posted: 10:54 PM, July 8th (Monday)



"The Secret of Change is to focus all your energy - not on fighting the old, but on building the new" ~~Lori Greiner FB post~~

Posts: 510 | Registered: Jan 2013 | From: Pennsylvania
Member # 27148
Default  Posted: 10:55 PM, July 8th (Monday)


Donít get to the end of your life and find that you lived only the length of it; live the width of it as well.†

Posts: 2713 | Registered: Jan 2010
Member # 38458
Default  Posted: 1:26 AM, July 9th (Tuesday)


What a piece of crap love letter.

Me-29 Starting over
ExWH-29 Probable NPD, PA, manchild
3 beautiful young children
DDay 1/20/13 Admits PA
No remorse so NO R. DIVORCED! 9/2013

Posts: 541 | Registered: Feb 2013 | From: USA
Member # 33523
Default  Posted: 1:36 AM, July 9th (Tuesday)

FTG, but you already knew that.

Me: MH 40s; Him: MH 40s (I had RA)
OW: 30s, moron; one of many
M: 8 yrs
3/13: D'd
Everything is as it should be.

Posts: 767 | Registered: Oct 2011 | From: Vulcania
Member # 34477
Default  Posted: 6:50 AM, July 9th (Tuesday)


Me: BW (35)
Him: ExWH (31) EA/PA with MOW coworker
Married 9 years, 2 small kids
dday 3/12/2011 divorced fall 2012

My ipad does a lot of crazy typos.

Posts: 651 | Registered: Jan 2012
Member # 32789
Default  Posted: 7:50 AM, July 9th (Tuesday)

I just had me a little FTG bonfire. Under a crazy ass lightening storm. I may even have ranted a little.

^^^You go girl!!!

BS: (Me) 47
Kids: twins DD(10)
D-Day April 18, 2011
Him:out Sept. 11, 2011
He moved to Europe June 27, 2014.
"They say that absence makes the heart grow fonder but I am growing more and more fond of his absence"

Posts: 1422 | Registered: Jul 2011 | From: Ontario, Canada
Member # 35229
Default  Posted: 8:21 AM, July 9th (Tuesday)

Darkness and depravity reclaimed him. They pulled him under. And thank god I cut the rope before they claimed me too.

A-freaking-men sister. A-MEN.

I've been free almost a year to the day. I'm still astonished at the bullshit he spewed - moreso that I ever found comfort in those pretty words even though his actions were so damn ugly.

I'm having bonfire envy right now.

I may have reached a point where I'd piss on him if he was on fire.... eventually!!

Posts: 5609 | Registered: Apr 2012 | From: Australia
Member # 34373
Default  Posted: 8:34 AM, July 9th (Tuesday)


Me: 46 BS Divorced
Him: 45 Married OW
DDay: 07/04/2008
Divorced: 06/15/2011
5 kids: IrishLass 27,IrishLad 25, IrishLass 23, IrishLad 21 and IrishLad 12
"You can't run from trouble..there ain't no place that far"

Posts: 1778 | Registered: Jan 2012 | From: WA
Member # 33882
Default  Posted: 9:37 AM, July 9th (Tuesday)

Ugh. FTG FTG FTG FTG. Oh, and FTG.


me (BS)
him (NPD Ex)
2 dds
DDay 10/7/11

Divorced 1/17/2013

"Diamonds aren't a girl's best friend, freedom is."

Posts: 2601 | Registered: Nov 2011 | From: MA
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