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n0tm3
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Member # 37884
Default  Posted: 11:02 AM, July 9th (Tuesday)

I am having a bad day. I am triggering a lot. Reality sucks. The fantasy marriage I had in my mind was a whole lot better. We loved each other. We were faithful and dedicated to each other. We could survive anything together. Our love and relationship had been that strong for 20 years. It was all a fantasy.


Me: BS 45
Him: WH 45
DDay #1: 12/17/12; OW 47 married 23
years
DDay #2 2/1/13 EA 6 years ago for 2 weeks with a married college friend through FB
Married 18 years, together 21 years
3 kids; 7,13,16
R trying IC and MC

Posts: 235 | Registered: Dec 2012
TrustGone
Member
Member # 36654
Default  Posted: 11:10 AM, July 9th (Tuesday)

I am so sorry you are having a really bad day. Yes, the fantasy marriage we had was so much better than the reality we are now having to live. It is hard to see our marriage was not what we thought and our WS is not the person we thought we married. I still have days where I want my old marriage and husband back. Unfortunately we can't have them back again and must either create a new marriage with them or start a new life without them. It sucks either way and I just wanted you to know I feel your pain.
(((HUGS)))


BW-50
WH#2-51
M-9 yrs T-11 yrs
4 children-none together
DD#1-9/5/11 LTA 2yrs
DD#2-7/3/12 False R
DD#3-4/29/13 (OW broke NC)
Status: Your guess is as good as mine.

Posts: 2420 | Registered: Aug 2012 | From: Texas
simplydevastated
Member
Member # 25001
Default  Posted: 11:13 AM, July 9th (Tuesday)

(((HUGS))) I'm sorry you're hurting today.


Me - BS, 39 (I'm not old...I'm vintage)
Two Wonderful children - DS10, DD7
Married, for now... (4+ D-Day - listed in profile.)

Posts: 5854 | Registered: Jul 2009 | From: In the darkest depths of hell!
nowiknow23
Guide
Member # 33226
Default  Posted: 11:59 AM, July 9th (Tuesday)

(((((n0tm3))))) These days are an uncomfortable yet necessary part of the healing process, honey. Sending you strength and comfort.


You can call me NIK

"Sometimes it takes a good fall to know where you really stand."
-Hayley Williams


Posts: 25018 | Registered: Aug 2011
thecosmogirl
Member
Member # 39707
Default  Posted: 12:43 PM, July 9th (Tuesday)

I'm having a bad day too. It crushes me so bad that all those times I was telling my friends how awesome he was and he was out getting his afternoon delight

I will send you a cyber margarita and we can watch the ocean waves together (((((big hugs))))


Me: BS
Him: doesn't matter anymore...or does it...

Being very, very careful

D-day 14 June 2013


I'm smart, good looking and gosh darn it, people like me!


Posts: 155 | Registered: Jun 2013 | From: trying to figure it out
n0tm3
Member
Member # 37884
Default  Posted: 1:08 PM, July 9th (Tuesday)

I would love the margarita.
I know that it is all part of the process of healing. I wish I could choose to take a break, had some control over the pain and could have him feel what I am feeling for awhile. This is all emotionally exhausting.


Me: BS 45
Him: WH 45
DDay #1: 12/17/12; OW 47 married 23
years
DDay #2 2/1/13 EA 6 years ago for 2 weeks with a married college friend through FB
Married 18 years, together 21 years
3 kids; 7,13,16
R trying IC and MC

Posts: 235 | Registered: Dec 2012
Topic Posts: 6