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circleoflife
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Default  Posted: 10:42 AM, July 10th (Wednesday)

I want to do IC and he is going to do IC. Then eventually do MC. Which I'm up in the air about b/c I'm not sure if I want to R or not at this point.
Anyways, my question is should our IC and MC person be the same for us? or is it best to get separate counselors?
TIA!


Me BW (36)
WH (39)
together 16 years
2 kids: 6 DD & 10 month DS
Dday:4/18/13
TT: 4/26/13
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WakingFromADream
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Default  Posted: 10:56 AM, July 10th (Wednesday)

My opinion is that it would be best to have three; one each for IC then a separate MC. That way you both have a somewhere "safe" to go talk about things on your own and get a different perspective.


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scaredyKat
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Default  Posted: 11:39 AM, July 10th (Wednesday)

Do the IC first for as long as it takes. We didn't start MC for a long time. At that point we did/are doing it with my IC, the reason being, we both trust her and I just DID NOT want to start fresh with a brand new person who needed to get to know both of us establish a relationship, with us, hear the whole sordid story again from scratch, etc. That may not work for you, but the point is, get some significant IC under your belt before you decide. That's paramount.

[This message edited by scaredyKat at 11:42 AM, July 10th (Wednesday)]


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