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MovingUpward
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Default  Posted: 8:54 PM, July 10th (Wednesday)

I posted a few weeks ago about my dd and her financial aid fiasco. Well she reapply and was only able to get loans. We met again tonight along with the XW. After understanding the situation, XW wanted to talk with me alone about seeing if we could cover the small amount that DD was wanting to take an unsubsidized loan for. While XW was trying to explain to DD that she wanted to talk with me before she accepts her loans because tuition for the Fall is due this Friday. In the course of conveying that to DD everything went downhill between XW and DD.

So on the bright side DD got some loans so I am not faced with dealing with her crisis and possible manipulation. On the down side it sucked see XW and DD both being bull headed and neither was listening to the other. And DD's sense of entitlement is still running high.

Thanks to all for your support.


AKA Moo

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nowiknow23
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Default  Posted: 9:01 PM, July 10th (Wednesday)

I'm so glad the loans came through for DD, Moo.


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sad12008
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Default  Posted: 9:33 PM, July 10th (Wednesday)


All's well that ends well! Glad the immediate crisis passed, Moo ~


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jo2love
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Default  Posted: 10:07 PM, July 10th (Wednesday)

I'm glad she was able to get the loans.

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TattoodChinaDoll
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Default  Posted: 12:46 AM, July 11th (Thursday)

One step at a time. Glad to hear you got some good news.


Me (BW): 32
WH: 33 TimeToManUp
Married: 11 years, together 16 years
3 daughters: 9, 5, 3, and and 2 angel babies (2013 and 2014)
D-Day: 12/21/2011
Confronted him: 12/22/2011


Posts: 1720 | Registered: Jan 2012 | From: New Jersey
Jrazz
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Default  Posted: 12:54 AM, July 11th (Thursday)

Big relief for the most part.

I'm sorry that you still have to get tangled the frustrating/emotional side of this. You're a GREAT dad and just doing what you can.


(((Moo)))


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Posts: 17360 | Registered: Feb 2011 | From: California
authenticnow
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Default  Posted: 5:37 AM, July 11th (Thursday)

I'm glad she got the loans, Moo.

Not sure when that sense of entitlement ends. I'm sorry there was friction, but it sounds like for now things are moving forward for DD and that's good!


Take up your space (and do it well).

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lynnm1947
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Default  Posted: 9:13 AM, July 11th (Thursday)

I'm happy for your (sort of) positive outcome, MOO. One less rock on your back.


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Posts: 7217 | Registered: Jul 2007 | From: Toronto, Canada
tushnurse
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Default  Posted: 11:17 AM, July 11th (Thursday)

Ahhh it's a nice feeling when things work out.

Good for you.


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Posts: 8527 | Registered: Oct 2008 | From: St. Louis
thebighurt
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Default  Posted: 1:26 PM, July 11th (Thursday)

I'm glad you have a solution for the current semester. Hopefully she won't get in too deep with loans. I hope you can talk with her about that.
All my kids went cheap enough that there were no loans, but DGD finished a few years ago, now has the equivalent of two house payments and is very sorry she went that route.

You're doing a great job, but hope DD and XW can learn to talk with each other.


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Kajem
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Default  Posted: 2:04 PM, July 11th (Thursday)

I am glad DD is continuing her education. I think college, graduation, and looking for job will temper her sense of entitlement.

Hugs,

K


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Posts: 5107 | Registered: Jul 2012 | From: Florida
persevere
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Default  Posted: 9:03 PM, July 12th (Friday)

I'm glad the fall is worked out. That sense of entitlement seems to ebb and flow around here.... Real life seems to help at times.


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Together 9 yrs
DDays: 1/10/2011
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Posts: 4528 | Registered: Mar 2011 | From: Texas
chopper
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Default  Posted: 7:22 AM, July 15th (Monday)

I'm glad Moo! Sorry haven't been up to date. Big hugs!


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wildbananas
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Default  Posted: 8:46 AM, July 15th (Monday)

Sorry for the friction between XW and DD but good news on the loans! One less thing to worry about.


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