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Williesmom
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Default  Posted: 7:36 PM, July 12th (Friday)

Earlier this week, there was a very loud outburst from an office near mine. It was yelling and profanity from one of the big shots, directed at 2 subordinates.

A lot of people heard it, including me. I work for the entire executive group, but the rest of the execs were on vacation.

This person and his temper is the main reason why I left the company 6 years ago. I just returned 6 months ago.

Today, the owner returned. I had a word with him about it, because I think that he needs to know. Everyone is talking about it, and the recipients of the tirade apologized to me -they were sorry that I had to hear it.

I'm just sick over it. The owner thanked me, but it's just such an uncomfortable situation.

Please send good thoughts.


You can stuff your sorries in a sack, mister. -George Costanza
There is a special place in hell for women who don't help other women. - Madeleine Albright

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Amazonia
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Default  Posted: 7:42 PM, July 12th (Friday)


I hope he loses his job. He's been getting away with abusing people way too long.


"You yourself deserve your love and affection as much as anybody in the universe." -Buddha
"Let's face it, life is a crap shoot." -Sad in AZ

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Williesmom
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Default  Posted: 8:00 PM, July 12th (Friday)

No, that won't happen. They need him.

Incidents like this have happened 5 times that I'm aware of in the 15 years that he has worked there.

Oh, and he thinks women are 2nd class citizens in the workplace. The beauty of it is that he has 3 daughters-my fervent hope is that they all work for a man just like him.

I miss my boss - he'll be back on Monday. He is a kind and rational man. I dread telling him what happened. I spoke to HR about it this week. They suggested that I let my boss know because I was a witness to it. This is going to get so ugly.


You can stuff your sorries in a sack, mister. -George Costanza
There is a special place in hell for women who don't help other women. - Madeleine Albright

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jrc1963
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Default  Posted: 9:07 PM, July 12th (Friday)

Nobody should have profanity shouted at them.


Me: BSO - 46
Him: FWSO - 69
DS - 13
D-Day - 12-11-09,
R - he finally came home
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Kajem
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Default  Posted: 9:19 PM, July 12th (Friday)

Sending good thoughts your way... I hope it cleans the toxicity out of your workplace.

Hugs,

K


I trust you is a better compliment than I love you, because you may not trust the person you love, but you can always love the person you trust. - Unknown
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TrustNoOne
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Default  Posted: 9:27 PM, July 12th (Friday)

Your Sr Executives are creating a serious financial liability for themselves and the corporation.

By allowing these outbursts, repeatedly, without corrective action, performance advisories, or disciplinary action - up to and including termination....they are knowingly permitting a hostile work environment.

Not only can the company be named in the suit, but this Exec can be named personally and so can any of his superiors who are aware of his inappropriate, hostile, and abusive behaviors.


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kernel
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Default  Posted: 9:46 PM, July 12th (Friday)

they are knowingly permitting a hostile work environment.

Exactly.


"On particularly rough days when I'm sure I can't possibly endure, I like to remind myself that my track record for getting through bad days so far is 100% and that's pretty good."

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Williesmom
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Default  Posted: 11:25 AM, July 13th (Saturday)

He has no superiors, other than the board.

I just don't want to get caught in the crossfire.

You are correct in that it could be seen as a holstile work environment.

Ugh.


You can stuff your sorries in a sack, mister. -George Costanza
There is a special place in hell for women who don't help other women. - Madeleine Albright

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Holly-Isis
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Default  Posted: 1:13 PM, July 13th (Saturday)

I seem to remember you speaking of this guy before you went back to work. I'm sorry he's stayed the same.

I am glad that you're willing to speak up though. Otherwise people like this ride all over everyone. Too bad nobody seems to be willing to reign him in though.


"Being in love" first moved them to promise fidelity: this quieter love enables them to keep the promise. *CS Lewis*

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Amazonia
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Default  Posted: 1:42 PM, July 13th (Saturday)

Do you have a whistleblower policy?


"You yourself deserve your love and affection as much as anybody in the universe." -Buddha
"Let's face it, life is a crap shoot." -Sad in AZ

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Williesmom
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Default  Posted: 2:55 PM, July 13th (Saturday)

We have no whistleblowe policy. We are privately held.


You can stuff your sorries in a sack, mister. -George Costanza
There is a special place in hell for women who don't help other women. - Madeleine Albright

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purplejacket4
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Default  Posted: 3:41 PM, July 13th (Saturday)

Sounds like he needs anger management.

When I was a resident I had, ahem, these problems also. I had to do anger management that really helped me. People who knew me then think I was snatched by a pod person because it takes so much now to make me mad.


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Her: fWS 48 (same sex partner)
Together: 18 years now (both MDs)
OW: meh so what 40s PhD
DD1: 10/30/11EA; DD2: 11/10/11 Had ONS; TT until 12/26/11; broke NC 6/12; NC again 7/12; R-ish

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Sad in AZ
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Default  Posted: 3:46 PM, July 13th (Saturday)

I'm so sorry you have to deal with this; I know all too well what it's like--I worked directly with an asshole like that. He was the top producer in the agency and they wouldn't do anything about him. When I finally got taken off of his desk, the person with whom they replaced me had to be hired from out of town--that's how bad his reputation was. She came in with an attitude (my direct supv. actually told me to disclose his personality to her--never done!) and she basically blew me off--told me she was better than I and could handle the job. She was in a mental institution a month later! (She was a 12-stepper and fell way off the wagon.) She called me, crying, right before her breakdown and asked why I hadn't told her about him.


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nowiknow23
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Default  Posted: 12:01 PM, July 15th (Monday)

Just saw this. Sending you good thoughts.


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Why??
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Default  Posted: 6:28 PM, July 16th (Tuesday)

Wow, that is stressful. I hate dealing with angry people. Hope they send him to anger mgt. class or something! Hang in there.


"Don't let the fear of striking out keep you from playing the game."

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Crushed1
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Default  Posted: 1:58 PM, July 17th (Wednesday)

((((Williesmom)))) Good thoughts and mojo sent your way.


~~"You can't run away from yourself"!!! Me to my H when he descended into adultery insanity.
~~Prov.15:13 "By sorrow of the heart the spirit is broken"
~~"The day breaks-your mind aches"
~STRENGTH~PEACE~HOPE~FAITH

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Amazonia
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Default  Posted: 11:38 AM, July 24th (Wednesday)

Did anything ever come of this?


"You yourself deserve your love and affection as much as anybody in the universe." -Buddha
"Let's face it, life is a crap shoot." -Sad in AZ

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