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exhausted lady
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Default  Posted: 2:17 AM, July 14th (Sunday)

I wanted to come on here and let you all know that my father lost his battle with cancer/MRSA on Tuesday afternoon. He died at 3:45.

But, he died in his own home, surrounded by his family. We all had our hands holding him as he went. It was peaceful, calm, and a blessing that he is no longer suffering. We were able to fulfill his wishes and one of the last things he told me was that I was "doing a good job". High praise from a man of few words but a man of much love.

My heart is heavy, but my soul is light because I know he is no longer in pain, and we let him go freely, with no loose ends. I even got to fix him a shrimp dinner for the last meal he ate (I didn't know it would be his last at the time).

The world is a poorer place without the him, but he is at peace and no longer suffering. For that, I am grateful.

I'll be back later. I just wanted my SI peeps to know he had passed, and passed as he wished. Love to you all.
E.L.


Sometimes the hardest part of finally seeing through someone is accepting what you see...

God grant me the serenity to accept the people I cannot change, the courage to
change the one I can, and the wisdom to know it's me.
-Reinhold Neibuhr


Posts: 3168 | Registered: Nov 2010 | From: Colorado
HeavyE
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Default  Posted: 2:43 AM, July 14th (Sunday)

My deepest sympathy. You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers.


You can't change the wind, but you can adjust your sails.

Me Tarzan
Her Jane

Reconciled
D-Day 4/14/08


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ThoughtIKnewYa
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Default  Posted: 3:26 AM, July 14th (Sunday)

(((exhausted lady)))

Keeping you and your family in my thoughts and prayers.


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authenticnow
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Default  Posted: 5:29 AM, July 14th (Sunday)

(((((Exhaustedlady)))))

I'm so sorry for your family's loss.


Take up your space (and do it well).

"That's the thing about pain, it demands to be felt."


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Too_Trusting
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Default  Posted: 6:23 AM, July 14th (Sunday)

I am so very sorry, exhausted. My thoughts, prayers, and hugs are with you and your family.


"Anyone perfect must be lying; anything easy has its cost. Anyone plain can be lovely; anyone loved can be lost." Barenaked Ladies

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cass
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Default  Posted: 6:34 AM, July 14th (Sunday)

I'm so sorry for your loss.

(((exhausted lady)))


DDay - April 2008
Me - 54 and doing great. Found myself again and loving life
Him - who??

I can see clearly now, the rain is gone (Johnny Nash)

Those who stir the shit soup get to lick the spoon!


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Bluebird26
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Default  Posted: 6:37 AM, July 14th (Sunday)

I'm sorry ((exhausted lady))


"Loving someone should not mean losing you. Love empowers you. It shouldn't erase you. - Thelma Davis.

Posts: 1282 | Registered: Aug 2012 | From: Australia
Kajem
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Default  Posted: 6:51 AM, July 14th (Sunday)

(((((exhausted lady)))))



I trust you is a better compliment than I love you, because you may not trust the person you love, but you can always love the person you trust. - Unknown
Relationships are like sharing a book, it doesn't work if you're not on the same page.

Posts: 4840 | Registered: Jul 2012 | From: Florida
nowiknow23
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Default  Posted: 8:13 AM, July 14th (Sunday)

((((exhausted lady and family)))) So sorry for your loss.


You can call me NIK

Wise men talk because they have something to say; fools, because they have to say something.
- Plato


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jrc1963
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Default  Posted: 8:32 AM, July 14th (Sunday)

I'm very sorry for your loss. I'm glad your father is in peace now.


Me: BSO - 45
Him: FWSO - 68
DS - 12
D-Day - 12-11-09,
R - he finally came home
Your life is an Occasion. Rise to it. - Mr. Magorium, "Mr. Magorium's Wonder Emporium"

Posts: 24339 | Registered: Dec 2009 | From: Florida
cayc
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Default  Posted: 8:58 AM, July 14th (Sunday)

(((exhaustedlady)))


"The difference between involvement and commitment is like ham and eggs. The chicken is involved, the pig is committed." -Martina Navratilova
"The question isn't who is going to let me; it's who is going to stop me." -Ayn Rand

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Chrysalis123
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Default  Posted: 9:10 AM, July 14th (Sunday)

(((((exhausted Lady))))))


Don’t get to the end of your life and find that you lived only the length of it; live the width of it as well. 

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jo2love
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Default  Posted: 9:37 AM, July 14th (Sunday)

(((((exhausted lady)))))

I'm so sorry for your loss.


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sad12008
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Default  Posted: 10:02 AM, July 14th (Sunday)

(((exhausted lady & family)))

I'm so sorry for your loss. What a gift and testimony to your dad that you were all with him at the end. I sure that helped give him a sense of peace.

Relief from suffering is a blessing indeed, however it is not easy to say the final goodbye I know.


"Everybody's life is hard. You look at life, and it's not a cakewalk. You've got to be able to bounce back." --Neil Young, father to two children with CP, another with epilepsy, and otherwise experientially qualified to comment

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Tred
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Default  Posted: 10:04 AM, July 14th (Sunday)

(((exhausted lady)))
My heartfelt condolences.


Married: 17 years (14 @JFO)
D-Day: 11/09/11
"Ohhhhh...shut up Tred!" - NOT the official SI motto (DS)

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FaithFool
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Default  Posted: 10:23 AM, July 14th (Sunday)

(((exhausted lady))) Lucky man to have everyone with him at home in the end.

Big hugs. I know it is a relief but it leaves a big hole in your world when they move on from here.

He will always be with you though.


DDay: June 15, 2008
Mistakenly married Mr. Superfreak
20 years of OWs, WTF?
Divorced Dec 26, 2011
"Life is a shipwreck, but we must not forget
to sing in the lifeboats". -- Voltaire

Posts: 17132 | Registered: Jul 2008 | From: Canada
Threnody
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Default  Posted: 10:56 AM, July 14th (Sunday)

((( el )))

I wish peace for you and your family.


“If you don't like my opinion of you, you can always improve.” ~ Ashleigh Brilliant
"Great love requires determination." ~ tryingtwo
"Don't try to win over the haters, you're not the jackass whisperer." ~ Brene Brown

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inconnu
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Default  Posted: 12:17 PM, July 14th (Sunday)

(((el))) keeping you in my thoughts. so sorry for your loss.


Say what you wanna say and let the words fall out...honestly
I wanna see you be brave

Pretty pretty please, don't you ever ever feel
Like you're less than, less than perfect


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Sad in AZ
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Default  Posted: 1:27 PM, July 14th (Sunday)

I'm so sorry EL; I'm glad that you are celebrating his life, though. (((((exhausted lady)))))


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deeplysad
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Default  Posted: 1:28 PM, July 14th (Sunday)

I'm so very sorry for your loss, but I understand the peace that comes from knowing that your loved one is no longer suffering.

((((exhausted lady))))


Me: BW - I'm much too young to feel this damn old
Him: FWH - Midlife crisis with a pathetic porn wannabe
D-Day: August 2004; Lots of false R until February 2005.

It takes all kinds of kinds....Miranda Lambert


Posts: 3215 | Registered: Oct 2007 | From: So Calif
lynnm1947
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Default  Posted: 2:30 PM, July 14th (Sunday)

Sorry for your loss, but mso happy for you and him that he is now at peace. ((exhausted lady))


Age: 64..ummmmmmm, no...............65....no...oh, hell born in 1947. You figure it out!

"I could have missed the pain, but I would have had to miss the dance." Garth Brooks


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mysticpenguin
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Default  Posted: 6:52 PM, July 14th (Sunday)

(((((exhausted lady)))))

I'm so sorry for your loss :(


Betrayed

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meaniemouse
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Default  Posted: 10:41 PM, July 14th (Sunday)

EL--I am so very sorry for your loss. Peace and strength to you and your family. Please take care of you.


Act as if what you do matters. It does. William James

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okaynow
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Default  Posted: 12:04 AM, July 15th (Monday)

((((ExhaustedLady)))) I'm sorry for your loss.


Married 18 yrs, together 25+.
D-day: 2/18/07.
1 child
The story doesn't really matter anymore. Time is a great healer. Life is good.

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chopper
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Default  Posted: 3:08 AM, July 15th (Monday)

I'm sorry for your loss! (EL & family)


Me BS(49)
WH passed away on 3/21/2013(52)
2 Kids S(24) D(21)
"To be trusted is a greater compliment than to be loved."–George MacDonald
"Not being able to govern events, I govern myself." –Michel de Montaigne


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tushnurse
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Default  Posted: 7:55 AM, July 15th (Monday)

(((EL)))
What a peaceful, wonderful way to pass.

Wishing you, and your family, comfort and strength during this time.


Me: FBS
Him: FWS
Kids: 15 & 17
Married for 22 years now, was 16 at the time. .
D-Day Sept 26 2008
Fully R'd, and Happy Happy Happy

Posts: 7795 | Registered: Oct 2008 | From: St. Louis
Crescita
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Default  Posted: 11:11 AM, July 15th (Monday)

(((EL))) So sorry for your loss.


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