Topic: The End
Member # 30217
| Posted: 2:17 AM, July 14th (Sunday)|
I wanted to come on here and let you all know that my father lost his battle with cancer/MRSA on Tuesday afternoon. He died at 3:45.
But, he died in his own home, surrounded by his family. We all had our hands holding him as he went. It was peaceful, calm, and a blessing that he is no longer suffering. We were able to fulfill his wishes and one of the last things he told me was that I was "doing a good job". High praise from a man of few words but a man of much love.
My heart is heavy, but my soul is light because I know he is no longer in pain, and we let him go freely, with no loose ends. I even got to fix him a shrimp dinner for the last meal he ate (I didn't know it would be his last at the time).
The world is a poorer place without the him, but he is at peace and no longer suffering. For that, I am grateful.
I'll be back later. I just wanted my SI peeps to know he had passed, and passed as he wished. Love to you all.
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Posts: 3132 | Registered: Nov 2010 | From: Colorado
Member # 19333
| Posted: 2:43 AM, July 14th (Sunday)|
My deepest sympathy. You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers.
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Posts: 9561 | Registered: Apr 2008 | From: Birthplace of America's Music
Member # 18449
| Posted: 3:26 AM, July 14th (Sunday)|
Keeping you and your family in my thoughts and prayers.
Posts: 10597 | Registered: Mar 2008 | From: North Carolina
Member # 16024
| Posted: 5:29 AM, July 14th (Sunday)|
I'm so sorry for your family's loss.
You're not alone.
Posts: 31360 | Registered: Sep 2007
Member # 99
| Posted: 6:23 AM, July 14th (Sunday)|
I am so very sorry, exhausted. My thoughts, prayers, and hugs are with you and your family.
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Posts: 2330 | Registered: Jun 2002 | From: North Carolina
Member # 24261
| Posted: 6:34 AM, July 14th (Sunday)|
I'm so sorry for your loss.
DDay - April 2008
Me - 54 and doing great. Found myself again and loving life
Him - who??
I can see clearly now, the rain is gone (Johnny Nash)
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Posts: 4918 | Registered: Jun 2009 | From: UK
Member # 36445
| Posted: 6:37 AM, July 14th (Sunday)|
I'm sorry ((exhausted lady))
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Posts: 917 | Registered: Aug 2012 | From: Australia
Member # 36134
| Posted: 6:51 AM, July 14th (Sunday)|
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Posts: 3411 | Registered: Jul 2012 | From: Florida
Member # 33226
| Posted: 8:13 AM, July 14th (Sunday)|
((((exhausted lady and family)))) So sorry for your loss.
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Posts: 19293 | Registered: Aug 2011 | From: "Is this heaven?" ;-)
Member # 26531
| Posted: 8:32 AM, July 14th (Sunday)|
I'm very sorry for your loss. I'm glad your father is in peace now.
Me: BSO - 45
Him: FWSO - 68
DS - 12
D-Day - 12-11-09,
R - he finally came home
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Posts: 23116 | Registered: Dec 2009 | From: Florida
Member # 21964
| Posted: 8:58 AM, July 14th (Sunday)|
BS 45, WH 38
M 8 years, together 10
Real DDay 10/07/11
Too many OW to count.
D final on 6/21/12
You have to walk away from the past in slow motion as it explodes behind you, like in a John Woo movie.
Posts: 2512 | Registered: Dec 2008 | From: Mexico
Member # 27148
| Posted: 9:10 AM, July 14th (Sunday)|
Me: BW- 53
DD-18 and DD-16
Together 20 years
Don’t get to the end of your life and find that you lived only the length of it; live the width of it as well.
Posts: 1793 | Registered: Jan 2010
Member # 31528
| Posted: 9:37 AM, July 14th (Sunday)|
I'm so sorry for your loss.
There are still good times to be had.
Were together 7+yrs, Ended R.
Posts: 26487 | Registered: Mar 2011
Member # 18179
| Posted: 10:02 AM, July 14th (Sunday)|
(((exhausted lady & family)))
I'm so sorry for your loss. What a gift and testimony to your dad that you were all with him at the end. I sure that helped give him a sense of peace.
Relief from suffering is a blessing indeed, however it is not easy to say the final goodbye I know.
"Everybody's life is hard. You look at life, and it's not a cakewalk. You've got to be able to bounce back." --Neil Young, father to two children with CP, another with epilepsy, and otherwise experientially qualified to comment
Posts: 3619 | Registered: Feb 2008 | From: a new start together
Member # 34086
| Posted: 10:04 AM, July 14th (Sunday)|
My heartfelt condolences.
Married: 16 years (14 @JFO)
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Posts: 2749 | Registered: Dec 2011
Member # 20150
| Posted: 10:23 AM, July 14th (Sunday)|
(((exhausted lady))) Lucky man to have everyone with him at home in the end.
Big hugs. I know it is a relief but it leaves a big hole in your world when they move on from here.
He will always be with you though.
DDay: June 15, 2008
Mistakenly married Mr. Superfreak
20 years of OWs, WTF?
Divorced Dec 26, 2011
Be. Here. Now.
Posts: 16041 | Registered: Jul 2008 | From: Canada
Member # 1558
| Posted: 10:56 AM, July 14th (Sunday)|
((( el )))
I wish peace for you and your family.
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Posts: 13942 | Registered: Jun 2003 | From: Middle-of-Diddly, TX
Member # 24518
| Posted: 12:17 PM, July 14th (Sunday)|
(((el))) keeping you in my thoughts. so sorry for your loss.
Say what you wanna say and let the words fall out...honestly
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Posts: 11637 | Registered: Jun 2009 | From: TX
|Sad in AZ|
Member # 24239
| Posted: 1:27 PM, July 14th (Sunday)|
I'm so sorry EL; I'm glad that you are celebrating his life, though. (((((exhausted lady)))))
Hallelujah! Holy shit! Where's the tylenol?
Posts: 18516 | Registered: Jun 2009 | From: Upstate NY
Member # 16590
| Posted: 1:28 PM, July 14th (Sunday)|
I'm so very sorry for your loss, but I understand the peace that comes from knowing that your loved one is no longer suffering.
Me: BW - I'm much too young to feel this damn old
Him: FWH - Midlife crisis with a pathetic porn wannabe
D-Day: August 2004; Lots of false R until February 2005.
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Posts: 3114 | Registered: Oct 2007 | From: So Calif
Member # 15300
| Posted: 2:30 PM, July 14th (Sunday)|
Sorry for your loss, but mso happy for you and him that he is now at peace. ((exhausted lady))
Age: 64..ummmmmmm, no...............65....no...oh, hell born in 1947. You figure it out!
"I could have missed the pain, but I would have had to miss the dance." Garth Brooks
Posts: 6546 | Registered: Jul 2007 | From: Toronto, Canada
Member # 38839
| Posted: 6:52 PM, July 14th (Sunday)|
I'm so sorry for your loss :(
Now in open marriage
Posts: 294 | Registered: Mar 2013
Member # 10798
| Posted: 10:41 PM, July 14th (Sunday)|
EL--I am so very sorry for your loss. Peace and strength to you and your family. Please take care of you.
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Posts: 2008 | Registered: May 2006 | From: Midwest
Member # 13813
| Posted: 12:04 AM, July 15th (Monday)|
((((ExhaustedLady)))) I'm sorry for your loss.
Married 18 yrs, together 25+.
The story doesn't really matter anymore. Time is a great healer. Life is good.
Posts: 2415 | Registered: Mar 2007
Member # 5772
| Posted: 3:08 AM, July 15th (Monday)|
I'm sorry for your loss! (EL & family)
WH passed away on 3/21/2013(52)
2 Kids S(23) D(20)
"To be trusted is a greater compliment than to be loved."–George MacDonald
"Not being able to govern events, I govern myself." –Michel de Montaigne
Posts: 17682 | Registered: Nov 2004 | From: Guatemala
Member # 21101
| Posted: 7:55 AM, July 15th (Monday)|
What a peaceful, wonderful way to pass.
Wishing you, and your family, comfort and strength during this time.
Kids: 14 & 16
Married for 21 years now, was 16 at the time. .
D-Day Sept 26 2008
Fully R'd, and Happy Happy Happy
Posts: 5083 | Registered: Oct 2008 | From: St. Louis
Member # 32616
| Posted: 11:11 AM, July 15th (Monday)|
(((EL))) So sorry for your loss.
Posts: 2641 | Registered: Jun 2011 | From: The Valley of the Sun
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