User Topic: Stop the images
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Sad  Posted: 3:47 PM, July 15th (Monday)

It has only been a couple weeks since I found out my wife slept with another man while she was away for work. They had a long phone/e-mail affair prior to them ending up in the same city for work, where the sex took place. We are attending marriage counseling and we both want the marriage to continue. My question to other men who have experienced a cheating wife and are still married, how do you ever get the images of her with another man out of your head? please tell me they will eventually go away. I also want to cry when I see her get out of the shower naked and know another man has been there. Please help me understand.

Posts: 2 | Registered: Jul 2013
Member # 38787
Default  Posted: 4:32 PM, July 15th (Monday)

I'm over 4 months from dday and I still have the mental image of my WH and the other women. I don't know how to get them out.

Bw (me) 47
WH (him) 59
D day 3/7/2013
Married 26 together 28
2 adult sons 25 and 22

Posts: 167 | Registered: Mar 2013 | From: nj
Member # 35812
Default  Posted: 4:34 PM, July 15th (Monday)

Hey, can I suggest that you go to the "I Can Relate" forum and talk to the "Betrayed Men" on their own thread? There''s a lot of really solid guys there.

And as a BW, I can tell you that I still, occasionally, get a flash of my FWH and OW. When I was at the timeframe that you say, 2 weeks, I had mind movies running through my head almost nonstop. I had SUCH vivid imagery and such an active imagination that I would be somewhere with him and have a full-blown movie right in front of me of him being with complete strangers. I used to hit myself in the head to try to drive them out because it was as if I were standing 2 feet away and could see everything.

Hang in there. It goes get better. Honestly.

Imagine a ship trying to set sail while towing an anchor. Cutting free is not a gift to the anchor. You must release that burden, not because the anchor is worthy, but because the ship is.

D-Day, June 10, 2012

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