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SecondHelping
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Default  Posted: 8:25 PM, July 15th (Monday)

I read about us having Antiversaries, but I don't completely understand when it is?

Is it the subsequent years after D-Day? Specific days of the A? The start of the A? ????

For me it was:
20 Aug - Kissing and hand holding
22 aug - Blow Job
28 Aug - Sex
2 Oct - Suspected but lied to
3 Oct - Confirmed with truth

Which one is my Antiversary or are they all Antiversaries?


D-Day 1: Feb 1990 (2 yrs into M, kissing and a hickey)
D-Day 2: 3 Sep 2012 (3 month EA/3 week PA)
BS 49- Me, fWW 43- Her (Amibroken)
OP- Deputy Chief of Police from the town next to us! (Age 37)
Married 25 Years, Together 28
3 Kids (17, 14, 11)

Posts: 480 | Registered: Sep 2012 | From: Delmarva
ButterflyGirl
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Member # 38377
Default  Posted: 8:54 PM, July 15th (Monday)

I think of an antiversary as a specific day once a year that causes you to remember something significant.. You wouldn't celebrate it, hence the "anti." I have my wedding date coming up in August, and then D-day in September, and I will consider both of those antiversaries..

I went through our "sexiversary" (the date we first had sex 12 years ago) in February.. That was definitely an "antiversary" for me..

I think any of those you mentioned would qualify..

Hugs..


xBW~ 35
Two of the most darling sons ~ 10 and 7

Posts: 2000 | Registered: Feb 2013 | From: Florida, USA
WhatsRight
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Member # 35417
Default  Posted: 8:41 AM, July 17th (Wednesday)

Many people feel that the 'discovery day (Dday) is the antiversary. The day you found out - or confronted - or whatever.

For me, it is the day he was with the prostitute. I don't even remember the day I found her picture on his computer - I just remember March 9 every year. On that date, I was home with the kids, and he was away - supposedly working - and in a motel room with a whore, getting oral sex.

That is my antiversary.

I think it might be whatever has had the greatest impact on you.

HUGS


"Noone can make you feel inferior without your concent." Eleanor Roosevelt

I will not be vanquished. Rose Kennedy


Posts: 1850 | Registered: Apr 2012
tushnurse
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Member # 21101
Default  Posted: 8:43 AM, July 17th (Wednesday)

The Anti for me is my Dday. I actually celebrate that Biatch now.


Me: FBS
Him: FWS
Kids: 15 & 17
Married for 22 years now, was 16 at the time. .
D-Day Sept 26 2008
Fully R'd, and Happy Happy Happy

Posts: 7797 | Registered: Oct 2008 | From: St. Louis
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