User Topic: Today I am 30
Member # 38943
Default  Posted: 10:27 AM, July 16th (Tuesday)

I'm not sure how to feel about leaving my 20s. I had more stupid things to do! 30 just seems so... serious.

There are certainly many things I am no longer going to put up with in my 30s. I'm too old for that shit.

That being said, X is picking up DS in an hour (its his usual visitation, I could keep DS as it's my bday but I'd actually like some alone time.)

I'm taking bets on whether or not he will remember it's my birthday! Any takers?

BGF- 30 (me)
WXBF- 30 (him)
Last Dday- 4-8-13, he left for OW#2
Us- 1 DS 3yo, Him- 1 DD 7yo

Mrs. Robinson- 41, S but still M

"You are braver than you believe, stronger than you seem, and smarter than you think." - Christopher Robin

Posts: 205 | Registered: Apr 2013 | From: Southern California
Member # 33440
Default  Posted: 10:32 AM, July 16th (Tuesday)

Happy Birthday! (((hugs)))

My XH wished me a happy birthday the first year that he left (it's hard to forget mine - it's Christmas Day). This past year he didn't. I don't know which I preferred lol. On the one hand as the mother of his child, it's nice to be acknowledged on my special day. On the other as he's a fuckwad, it's almost an insult for him to wish me a happy day.

Me (BS): 32, Mommy to J: 2 1/2 Divorced: 4/10/13
Sometimes you find yourself in the middle of nowhere, and sometimes, in the middle of nowhere, you find yourself

Posts: 485 | Registered: Sep 2011 | From: NY
Member # 38943
Default  Posted: 11:52 AM, July 16th (Tuesday)

Yeah, I'm not sure which I would prefer. He picked him up and didn't say anything other than some petty reason why DD wasnt with him. Idiot.

BGF- 30 (me)
WXBF- 30 (him)
Last Dday- 4-8-13, he left for OW#2
Us- 1 DS 3yo, Him- 1 DD 7yo

Mrs. Robinson- 41, S but still M

"You are braver than you believe, stronger than you seem, and smarter than you think." - Christopher Robin

Posts: 205 | Registered: Apr 2013 | From: Southern California
Member # 38122
Default  Posted: 11:58 AM, July 16th (Tuesday)

Happy day, rumorhasit! 30 is hardly bad at all, and you still have plenty of time to be stupid!

The Princess had the boys give me a nice card from her on Fathers' Day, and it pissed me off. If she hadn't, it might have pissed me off at least as much.

In a lot of areas, they really can't win with us - and that's exactly what they deserve.

Loyal spouse: Me; Disloyal spouse: The Princess
Two sons: Now 11 and 14
DDay: Nov 15, 2012
Separated: Mar 2, 2013 after 17 year marriage, now divorcing!

The best thing about hitting rock bottom is that everything after that looks fucking fabulous

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Default  Posted: 12:07 PM, July 16th (Tuesday)

HaPpY bIrThDaY!!!!! Enjoy your time to yourself!!

I'm with pass ~ stbx didn't acknowledge my birthday or mothers day but eh ... whatev's. "...they really can't win with us - and that's exactly what they deserve.

Me (BS): 43 Children: DD 19, DS 15
Divorced September 30, 2014
"It's always darkest before the dawn ..."

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Default  Posted: 12:07 PM, July 16th (Tuesday)

Happy Birthday rumor!

Enjoy your day!

PS: I get what you're feeling. My birthday is Saturday and I'm turning 40. A whole new decade to start.

Cancers unite!

Updated 2014:
BS-me 41
XH-doesn't matter
4 kids

SO-5 years together-he decided to end it by cheating too

Posts: 1379 | Registered: Aug 2007 | From: PNW country
Member # 33226
Default  Posted: 1:07 PM, July 16th (Tuesday)

Happy Birthday!!! From a personal perspective, I loved my 30s. Still so young, high energy and enthusiasm levels, and it seemed like people took me more seriously. It's all good.

You can call me NIK

"Sometimes it takes a good fall to know where you really stand."
-Hayley Williams

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Member # 38377
Default  Posted: 1:24 PM, July 16th (Tuesday)

Happy Birthday!!

Don't worry, the 30s haven't been too bad so far. Maybe when I'm 40 I will get more serious? But I doubt it

And yeah, whether he remembers or not, FTG..

xBW~ 35
Two DS~ 7-Eleven
"I've wiped the shit off. It can be wiped off you know." ~ Stolen from asurvivor

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Member # 36134
Default  Posted: 1:36 PM, July 16th (Tuesday)

Happy Birthday,

30's were fun... 40's were where I felt I was coming into my own.. 50's well the jury is still out.

Enjoy your day..Do something special just for you.



I trust you is a better compliment than I love you, because you may not trust the person you love, but you can always love the person you trust. - Unknown
Relationships are like sharing a book, it doesn't work if you're not on the same page.

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Default  Posted: 2:08 PM, July 16th (Tuesday)

Happy Birthday!!!

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Default  Posted: 2:10 PM, July 16th (Tuesday)

Happy Birthday!!! Do something really nice for yourself! Thirty is so young! I just hit 60 in June! Yay Cancer's! Yay US!

40's are nice! 50's even better! Take care and the 60's might be okay too! I'm wishing you a beautiful day rumor!

God bless us, everyone.

Posts: 633 | Registered: Jan 2012 | From: Boston
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Default  Posted: 2:40 PM, July 16th (Tuesday)

Happy milestone!!!

Don't let a turd wreck your special day.

Me: MH 40s; Him: MH 40s (I had RA)
OW: 30s, moron; one of many
M: 8 yrs
3/13: D'd
Everything is as it should be.

Posts: 762 | Registered: Oct 2011 | From: Vulcania
Member # 38914
Default  Posted: 2:53 AM, July 17th (Wednesday)

Happy birthday!!! I'll be 30 in September. My baby is due in September too. I'm overwhelmed but I'll take it as it comes. Enjoy your day!!!

D-day:2/24/13 (I was 10 weeks pregnant at the time and DS was 15 months)
Status: Parted ways!

"If only I can fight just a little longer, I know it's gonna make me stronger" Jamie Grace-Holding on.

Posts: 349 | Registered: Apr 2013 | From: Ohio
Member # 36434
Default  Posted: 3:34 AM, July 17th (Wednesday)

Happy birthday!

Me: BW, 34 Him: WH, 35
3 Kids: 9, 3, and 1
Decree nisi will become absolute in January. We are DONE.

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Default  Posted: 8:43 AM, July 17th (Wednesday)

Happy Birthday! 30 is so young!

I always think of my 80 year old self kicking my arse for calling myself old or not seeing how beautiful and astonishingly young and vibrant I am at 38.

Everyone should channel their inner 80 year old selves.

I may have reached a point where I'd piss on him if he was on fire.... eventually!!

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Member # 33539
Default  Posted: 3:09 PM, July 17th (Wednesday)

Happy birthday!

S, Filed 4/17/14--YAY, ME!!

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Default  Posted: 3:13 PM, July 17th (Wednesday)


Hope you had some alone time and enjoyed your day !

It's my life now, my choices, my mistakes to make and my victories to celebrate. His choices made me free of liars and betrayers in my life. That is priceless.

Posts: 20382 | Registered: May 2008 | From: Closer to where I want to be..
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Default  Posted: 3:27 PM, July 17th (Wednesday)

Happy Birthday Young One.

I'm 61 and (in my head) I'm still in my 30's at times. I get together with girlfriends regularly (think Sex and the City...without the sex LOL) and laugh and have a ball.

30's will be FANTASTIC...really!

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Default  Posted: 4:13 PM, July 17th (Wednesday)

Happy birthday! I liked my 30s better than my 20s. Welcome to what I think is the better decade!

BS (Me) 39
Happily liberated!
Two DS and One DD
It matters not how strait the gate,/How charged with punishments the scroll./I am the master of my fate:/I am the captain of my soul.--"Invictus," William Ernest Henley

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Default  Posted: 4:23 PM, July 17th (Wednesday)

Happy birthday, I kept making plenty of mistakes once I hit 30 :) hopefully your birthday goes better than mine did, I made the horrible mistake of calling my Xfiance , thinking she might tell me happy birthday, I had a few beers so first call went like this
" what do you want , I am watching TV with D" ( d is an old friend of mine who she began a EA with and after her and I were together 12 years, she began seeing him after 3 weeks apart from me) I don't recall the second or third calls, but the second to last call went like this, me " I think part of you might be angry that I left" her " I am ECSTATIC YOU LEFT ECSTATIC" last call and last time I will ever speak to her in my life " J if you call one more time you will hear D F_cking me".... so ye I didn't quite get a happy birthday haha
that last one scarred me, and I think I will remain scarred for a VERY long time, oh joy


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